Should I be concerned about a female neighbor?

[Ttaylor76]

A female neighbor invited my husband over on several occasions to get food ( he is friends with her dad). They live in the same house. Her 7 year old daughter began to get close to my husband and one day this woman text him saying her daughter just wanted him ( she called him by the cute name her daughter called him). She text him one night talking all about her depression. Our marriage wasn’t strong and I told him I didn’t feel comfortable with them becoming such good friends and some of these things that had happened but he continued to do it saying neither of them wanted each other and he didn’t want to cause drama. Then on his birthday she text him saying “hey happy bday this is ….. wasn’t sure if u had my number cuz (her daughter) told her I made him delete it. He ask her what she got him and she ask him did he want some more banana pudding. So he sends her a big smiley face and says yeah I’ll take some. And then he says wait what kind of puddin lol. Am I I overreacting about all this?

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This started in March of last year and it continued no matter what I said. It only stopped for a couple months in October because my husband said he found out they were racist and he had me text them making excuses as to why. Then on his bday in January is when she text him and it was like nothing ever happened lol. She was gonna make him more pudding lol

[Changiis07]

No you're no overreacting to this at all. He is your husband and as your husband he should respect you not being comfortable. Sometimes men don't sense it but women we sense a lot and we can tell what a women's intentions are so why can't she invite you as well or him tell you to come with him? It's a marriage and you do things together and respect each other

[Ttaylor76]

The first time I saw her around him I sensed it. He said I just didn’t trust him and I told him our marriage wasn’t strong and I didn’t trust the situation. People don’t just decide to have affairs. Well for the most part they don’t. It just happens. He says I was invited but he didn’t tell me he was afraid I would embarrass him because of what I said

[Changiis07]

Yeah those are women that don't care to be a homewrecker. There are some women like myself who do care and respect when a man is married. So yes you should be concerned and how often they see each other. Of course you don't trust him because look what it's come done to

[Ttaylor76]

On his bday was the end for me. If there was ever a doubt in my mind about her intentions there was no more that day. If u think a wife told her husband to delete her number why would u text him?

[KrakenAttackin]

@Changiis07. The neighbor isn't home wrecking, OP is. Be a good, loving, supportive, wife and you will never worry about a neighbor.

[Changiis07]

That is true maybe your husband backed it up by saying it's ok he should have blocked it instead

[Changiis07]

@KrakenAttackin You have a point but at the same time you can be all that and more and still not enough so they need to work things out and communicate because one or the others cup is not being filled

[KrakenAttackin]

@Changiis07. Men are easy to keep happy, unless you have out on 100 lbs and he is embarrassed to be seen with you.

[Noah-z]

You got every right to be upset because it’s obvious that she’s trying to take him from you.

I don’t know what to advise here because it’s your life and I might say things that sound easy to me but because its your life it would be hard on you and affect you.

sorry, I don’t know what to say and I hope the best for you❤️

[Ttaylor76]

I saw her attraction to him from the beginning but he laughed at me and just said I don’t trust him. Our marriage was not good and I didn’t trust the situation. People for the most part don’t go looking for an affair. Thank you for your advice

[Iron_Man]

I could see where that could upset you especially if they’re hanging out one on one you got to put a stop to that. The thing is how come you’re never invited over as well just him? And they’re talking on the phone texting. This is a big problem.

[Ttaylor76]

Well they would hang out and her dad and kids were that. As far as I know. He says that I was invited but he didn’t tell me because he was afraid I would embarrass him since I thought their friendship was inappropriate

[Iron_Man]

I still think this is a problem. There’s no reason for her to be calling him on the side this has to be stopped

[KrakenAttackin]

How about you become a good, kind, loving, wife? Be a wife he would choose over another woman. Being a nagging, complaining, critical, sarcastic, wife is a guaranteed recipe to send him to a better woman.

You can't nag/complain your way into a better marriage. Do better.

[Ttaylor76]

I am good, kind, supportive even financially , and do everything for this man and this is what I get for it.

[es20490446e]

You are dealing with a whore.

[In_Trance]

i don't think so