Why do children like certain people more than others?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

All my life for my younger cousins, their friends, my neighbors’ children - I was their favorite.

I always wondered why because I am not a big fan of children. If anything I show more love to elderly since I believe they need that more.

But everyone has always noticed that children usually trust me very easily and always like spending time with me.

I find that flattering, cute and sweet but weird, because I wonder where and why do they feel that vibe from me. Because I am not one of the women who’s crazy about children.

And I don’t usually treat them any special, I feel like I treat them like I am at their age because I don’t really feel like I am much different.

Yesterday I was talking with a man who asked if I like the children, I didn’t know what to answer, I like them, but I mostly like them because they like me and show me so much love 😅

[HighValue]

I am liked by them too and am often the favorite of many students in the schools where I have worked. I think it is due to being honest with them, explaining the reason behind why certain rules or procedures are needed, being logical and realistic about things, and having realistic expectations. The biggest one though is being honest and not hypocritical. That causes them to respect someone. Children are often more intelligent than people think and they observe what adults do and say. Many adults do one thing, but say the opposite and children lose respect and dislike them for it. Children often value consistency.

[NathanDavis]

because they're more genuine about it... and they keep it simple

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

But in my opinion I am not a good person at all, though…

[NathanDavis]

are you a bad person?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I am not, but I am not an angel.

I mean there are far better people than me.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

That’s why I feel surprised they like me the most out of the people I consider better than me.

[NathanDavis]

so you are not bad... that's a good thing

that's why they like you

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Like today, I was at the park working out, there was this child crying and having a tantrum and the caregiver was shouting at him tired of his tantrums I guess.

I was a sensitive child and I am sensitive to children being shouted, so I went to him and just told him it was okay and that he should not worry. He came to me and hugged me and called me mom.

I don’t really feel like being a mom, but I felt his trust so I just hugged him back and told him it was okay. Then we played ball together and the other kids joined as well and they were all sad I left and asked me to join them again.

I don’t like children that much, I just think they are future adults and the more of them see the kindness in people the better for humanity.

I can’t think of what kind of person I’d be if I didn’t have people who showed me love, if I only had people who showed me aggression I’d be capable of doing the worst of things imaginable. Because in the past I was quite used to aggression and quite sadistic as well.

What changed me is the people who showed me love.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Plus, there’s one more thing. I rarely get angry at people because I picture them all like little children in the bodies of adults.

The only difference is the real children are just a bit more clueless about the world.

I feel more love and empathy for the elderly. Because unlike children they are mostly forgotten, neglected and just left alone with their final years and the death, they need people the most. Children already have people who love and care for them.

[NathanDavis]

sounds like you're a good person

[exitseven]

You must show some traits that make kids feel comfortable and trust you.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

What are these traits?

[exitseven]

I do not know, you might seem trustworthy or your manner makes them feel safe. Maybe you are really funny.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Cause kids can see through bullshit they can tell who genuinely like them

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I genuinely don’t think a lot about them 😅 It’s just I start liking them because they like me so much and want to spend time with me , hug me and play with me. How can I dislike them?

[Bklynbadboy12]

Is ir the same way with guys too

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Nope

[Bklynbadboy12]

OK 😉

[Keishio]

Maybe they just find you more fun. I know I certainly would

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

How can you tell whether you’d fond me fun or not

[Keishio]

I can't, you just look like someone I'd approach and want to get to know better

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

😝😝

[Pete671]

Children always seem to be attracted towrds me because they know I will never hurt thrm,,,