I haven’t cut all of my family out. It’s just my dad and step mother. I moved back home briefly due to a relationship breakdown. At first, she seemed lovely but as time went on, things changed and got consistently worse. She’d take her emotions out of me all the time and then she would over react if I stood up for myself. Every conversation from my dad and step mum was always negative, over minor or silly little things. They gaslight me and say I was the “drama queen” because I told them time and time again, they could just tell me about an issue rather than saying hurtful things. My dad would criticise what I wore or how I did my make up, said I looked “fake and plastic” when I dressed up for my birthday. He even said to me that my best friend is a “big girl” when he’s overweight himself and also she isn’t a “big girl”.
Step mum would tell me that my family were badmouthing me. All I wanted was to live my life in peace and I don’t understand why they all act like that to me. Moved away and I’ve been so much happier. A few weeks ago, I told them some good news and they called me having a go at me again. I finally had enough and told them politely but firmly that this negativity was not okay and I won’t accept it anymore. My dad then blocks me and says I’m not welcome at home anymore. Step mother cried to my sister, showing her the messages, I get a call from my sister saying how they are just “old fashioned” and that I was horrible and should apologise.
But this whole thing just proves my point. Blocking me because I won’t take the silly drama anymore is just ridiculous. So I blocked my parents back and haven’t said a word since. I miss them and feel guilty for doing so, it feels an extreme thing to do but they will never change and I will always be in the “wrong” and I just don’t need that stress in my life. Is it fair that I cut them off?
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