Would I have gotten to experience brotherhood and comraderie if I had joined the US Marines?

[Anonymous]

After high school I joined the military. I was bullied for my entire stay.

The reason for that was that I had grown up alone my whole childhood through high school. I had yet to ever even have friends yet.

I was fighting ever since I was 10 when 3 bullies tried to jump me in the bathroom. I was being bullied my entire life.

So when I joined the military I hoped for a new start. I remember as soon as I got off the bus that first day in basic training all of the instructors singled me out and they circled me and did their thing. And that's a thing that's normal.

But they chose me for a reason. They could see that I was a broken person from a distance. A life of isolation and bullying fucked me up.

After basic training I went to my duty station and immediately people began bullying me. Most people did not like me.

I was always the quiet shy type obviously. How else to be when you had zero friends?

And so I hated the military. I got out ASAP because everywhere I went people treated me like shit.

Now more than a decade after separating, I see military stuff on social media and clips of ilitsry dudes having their comraderie and having friends and shit.

I wonder, if I had joined the marines, would they have done the same? Would they have recognized my status as a life long victim and victimize me too? Or would the marines have taken me in and made me a brother among them?

Somehow I feel like they would have. I don't know why. That's why I'm asking.

[molonski2]

Plenty of the same goes on in any of the services , including the Marines , happens world wide , don't think it would have been any different is my opinion. A certain style of individual is attracted to these services , Army , Navy , Marines.. Whatever , I wish I was wrong , but I doubt it.

[Asker]

Yea probably not.

[molonski2]

Its attracts people who get off on this stuff , hence " initiation " - and stupid mind games , which no thought to the victim.

[Asker]

Yea I fought plenty of those types. They're always weak. Bullies are always weak.

But they always had the social power I didn't. Even if I fought and beat someone's ass it didn't matter. Socially, I was the one on the level of dirt.

It's all good. All these years later I learned half of them were mad cause they saw the girls looking at me.

I was just wondering if somehow there is some kind of culture in the marines that might make things a little different.

Also, I guess it sucks too that I don't have any good memories of the military. Even if you saw your friends die in combat. At least you got to have friends.

[Asker]

They robbed that shit from me basically. Robbed any pride or good energy whatsoever around being in the military. I don't get to be like "yea I miss the comraderie."

[NostalgiaSenpi]

No, you'll just deal with the same shit. The commercials are propaganda.