That's not all. He was on a rehab program, his girlfriend (my friend) had helped him and was recovering but now he's back to getting drunk and high because of me.
After undergoing a break-up and other family issues, I went to his house to search for the drinks and pills (never used them before, that was the first time for me) he used to have. When I started getting drunk, I literally pressured him to get drunk and high too (he did initially said no at first but I insisted, put the pill close to his mouth, initiated some contact and he caved in), to forget about the problems, that life is one, etc.
I still remembered it. We never had sex though. We had our clothes on the whole time but we still kissed and fell asleep on separate parts of the bed. Needless to say I feel guilty about this whole mess I've created. He can't stop thinking about me ever since, he's back to being an alcoholic, he's been getting into argument with my friend and lastly my friend is sad seeing how he has changed again. She has no idea what's going on.
How do I get rid of this guilt, of this mess I've created?
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Wow. Well you don’t need us to tell you how wrong your actions were. You baited an addict into partaking in the exact thing he’s trying to recover from, took advantage of him, and betrayed your best friend. I don’t think any of us can give you peace of mind or reassure you in this situation because no matter how you cut it, you were very wrong and did a lot of damage. It goes without saying that your friend deserves to know, and if you have any love or care for her then please provide her that opportunity to decide if she wants someone like you in her life. Same goes for her boyfriend, he cheated, and she should know. It’s genuinely so unfortunate and shameful that you decided to do this to her, but now you have to own it and whatever the outcome is. That’s the only way to get peace of mind and redeem yourself.
Yes I really screwed up. It's likely my friend don't even believe that nothing else happened. That's the truth and nothing else would've happened because I was still on my period. I'm going to lose my good, best friend for sure. I feel so horrible, so stupid.
Now I feel like it's my job to get him back to rehab, to help him heal again.
It’s a consequence of a very bad decision, and maybe one day you two will be able to reconcile, but she deserves to know, it will eat you up otherwise. As for him going back to rehab, let your friend handle that. Yes you played a big role in his relapse, but after you confess she just may not want to deal with you at all. I’m sorry, this is a very unfortunate situation but I think you’ve got something deeper going on that deserves some professional attention. Focus on that.
Maybe you should feel guilty because what you did was complete and utter trash. Do better.
Hoes gonna hoe. #StayToxic
We had our clothes on the whole entire time. We never did the actually deed.
Asker... well than you fucked up, do better next time.