She just turned 39 and I’m 38 and she’s insisting that we’re still young. My opinion is that we’re young compared to 80 year olds, BUT we’re not young anymore.
Let me clarify things. For me, youth ends at 29 and we transition into middle age at 30. At that age, we age faster (especially women). Our bones and joints ache more, our fertility tanks drastically, pounds pack on easier and are harder to lose, our hair turns grey, skin wrinkles, etc. Mind you, my friend has been in my life since we were in our late twenties and she’s really pretty. She’s been mistaken for being younger quite frequently, every time we go out to bars or clubs guys would always hit on her and would often push me out of the way to get to her or would approach me to ask if she’s single (never bothered me because I don’t care what men think of me and really only look for hookups, not relationships. Also I’ve always been the plain jane looking type... probably why middle age is easier for me to accept). This stopped recently when I took her out for drinks for her birthday and she teased the bouncer for not carding us. As we sat down I told her “yeah we look old LOL”. Her response: no we don’t, we just look old enough to drink and I was only kidding with the guy. My response: I know, but face it. We’re not spring chickens. Might as well just accept it. Her response: nonsense. True We’re not high schoolers or twenty somethings any more but we’re still pretty young with a lot of life ahead of us. My response: yeah compared 80 year olds but face it, we’re not young anymore. Then later she was talking about calling it a night after only a few drinks. I said “yeah at our age our energy isn’t what it used to be”. She claimed that her energy level was the same as it always was. I called nonsense. She said she doesn’t see aging the same way I do, she considers 40 to still be kind of young and then she asked if I was depressed about aging. No, I’m just a realist. She should be one too
