When apologising to someone, do you give a reason for why you did something, or do you leave the reason out?

[Anonymous]

I want to apologise to my nephew after I revealed he has a different dad to his siblings. However, I don't know if I should explain the reason for why I did what I did or if I should apologise and let him know how sorry I am and how deeply I regret it, but leave the reason out.

[comekitty]

I always give an explanation when I apologize for something - your case might be different, though. 🥲

[Asker]

I'm nephew knew he didn't have the same dad but the siblings didn't. I know I f'd up. I wanted to get revenge on my sister. She had pressured me and nagged me for months to allow her to be in the delivery room when I gave birth and I felt so pressured I gave in. The one and only thing I asked was for her to take photos and she didn't take one single photo at all for me. She also robbed me of cutting my baby's umbilical cord because she jumped in and cut the cord and later she was laughing about the whole thing. I told her I hated her and I will never forgive her and I told her she will never be allowed to see my baby or be around her ever again. I made threats prior telling her when she kept messaging me that I would reveal the secret but I kept my mouth shut until she came to my home and went into my room and she took back the gift she had given to my baby. All I seen after that was red and I was so angry that she would stooped so low to take a gift she had given to a baby back that I wanted to hurt her and I knew revealing that secret about her eldest child would hurt her

[Wise4myage]

Then its probably best to just not mention the reason.

[Asker]

Thank you

[Wise4myage]

You're welcome.