How often do you bite your tongue in terms of respecting your elders?

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For me, its rarely. I often speak my mind. I get tired of respecting these dusty mfs who are disrespectful. I’m biting it so mf hard rn to not snap on my grandma because she is always rude af for no reason. She is unapologetically talking so much noise about me TO ME rn and I’m only holding back because its a room of ole folks and they’d all gang up and jump down my throat if I go off in front of them. But just wait til later this week when its one on one. I’ll bark so hard she’ll cry and never wanna visit again. Stupid trick. And now she and my mom are joking about how she used to abuse and beat my mom as a kid. Faaauckin idiots. I could never be that weak #FeelFreeToList

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

I do respect elderly, I have had 4 absolutely amazing grandparents, one of them has Alzheimer’s now.

Once it was a birthday party of my aunt and my grandma who has Alzheimer’s and was sometimes saying things that were totally unrelated to the topic, hard to hear, hard to understand - I remember sitting by her side and since people knew she had Alzheimer’s and didn’t talk about anything relevant, sometimes even inaudible words, they kinda had a deaf ear to her on that birthday party and talked to me instead, I told them “Excuse me, I am talking with my grandma now, she’s got something to say and I’ll listen even if I don’t fully understand what she wants to say. After I finish my conversation, let’s kindly continue conversing.” Everyone’s gotta know, my grandma stands first for me, even at her weakest, she stands first in my respect line.

If my grandma is older and forgetful doesn’t mean I respect her any less than I did when she was a successful woman. I will always make her feel cared, heard and respected.

So, yeah. We get old and sometimes like computers, our brain gets slower, we are not the way we were in our prime. I am still going to be polite to them and make them feel like respected members of society. Because I know, I’d do that if they were my grandparents.

Pink2000 · Accepted Answer

I used to all the time cause that’s how I was raised but now I’m sick of their bs. Idc how old you are. You can’t talk to me any kind of way. I don’t care who you are either. If you say something I don’t like I’m gonna let it be known. Ever since my daddy died I stopped dealing with a lot of stuff. Life’s too short to hold back lmao

molonski2 · Accepted Answer

Its not so much " Elders " for me of course , but at any age sometimes you have to bite your tongue only because in essence the whole conflict thing can be vastly worse - Sabai Sabai. I had by 2 sisters here ( Thailand ) for a month , where I have lived for 6 years , I tried to be a decent host and help them with all they wanted , and I gave tips about how to deal with the heat , and this and that..

BUT , one sister in particular was at me the entire time , for the smallest of possible reasons , as to why this or that person acted in such a way , blah , blah , blah , EVERY day , I held it in , for maybe 3 weeks , then man I just exploded. I was particularly pissed off she would often call me by the name of her son ( a drug addict ) , make comments to my girlfriend , it was like having my mother reincarnated , and it took me 20 years to get over her..

Needless to say , like you , when I exploded it happened big time , she is around 15 years older so I suppose she is a kind of elder , my other sister I could tolerate , but the pressure just built and built till I was so dam angry...

Anpu23 · Accepted Answer

1 is it true?

2 is it helpful?

3 is it kind?

Thats a good set of rules before you say anything. Only exceptions are when someone is directly attacking me, or is spouting racist/homophobic crap then I very well may speak up.

SarahNandez · Answer

I used to bite my tongue all the time. But there comes a point where you just snap. I had a really condescending older cousin who used to talk to me like I was five even though I was legally a tax paying adult with a law degree and my own independence.

"You're not allowed to do that.. you're still a baby" "you're not old enough to do that" Woman, I'm literally 22.

So I called her an old cow. Oops.

iron_ninjs · Answer

A fair amount. I try to respect my elders, so I bite my tongue. But when they cross the line, it's open fire. The best rappers and poets couldn't keep up with me then, in terms of speed, punctuation, and literacy. 🤣😂

acidburnone · Answer

hey listen, i only respect my mom, my dad, and my grandpa.. my grandma is a total asshole and everyone in my family thinks so so i treat her the same way she treats me

Drewtate · Answer

It says you are 28. So begs the question as to why your grandmother and nobody else in your family do not respect you? Are you worthy of their respect?

Do you live at home with your parents?

Do you have a job?

Are you a single mother?

RavVid · Answer

Rarely. If I was being talked about in front of me as though I wasn't there I would not tolerate. Probably wave my hand close to their eyes and ask if they are senile and unaware of my presence. Never known a gran ma so maybe I am intolerant because of that.

Mark987 · Answer

When I was younger I would keep more quiet. Now that I am older I can't stand bullshit or ignorant comments and I call it out... even if they're older

SunnyRS · Answer

I never bite my tongue, if I feel they have said something wrong or bad I immediately tell them they are wrong or crossing the line but I never disrespect them.
I will just say it's wrong or they should stop talking right about now otherwise I might say something they won't like. And most of the times they stop other times I prefer walking out of the room but I never listen if they are wrong.

Levin · Answer

I try to. But there was one incident where I completely lost it and swore at my mum's friend for pushing the convid jab. Kinda awkward...

MementoMori777 · Answer

a lot but im starting to slowly lean towards the "if you dont respect me, i won't respect you" mentality

XXblack88 · Answer

I will when my mom is around otherwise, I don't have a filter. I get along with most elderly people but they're always that one that knows how to push my buttons.

Lliam · Answer

I've never been good at holding my tongue. It has gotten me in trouble but I never learn. LOL

Lynx122 · Answer

More often than I used to but not really that often.

electromagnetic · Answer

Faq them elders.

belle_kai · Answer

Back in the day not so much, now yes but I can make someone sound silly without them actually realising

LovingJo · Answer

All the fucking time.. But if they push me too far, I'm not holding back xx

Sparkie460 · Answer

Not often anymore since I don't have any elders left in my family, I am the elder.

Shark_61695 · Answer

Always and not just to those I should be respectful to.

TallAnon · Answer

I don't talk to strangers often and my grandparents are all dead, so I don't speak to elderly people much.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Don't usually meet many disrespectful elders around here.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I respect people till they give me reason not to do so. At that point age becomes irrelevant.

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