Someone asked what a father should teach a son. Now I'm asking for when he has a daughter instead.
What's one thing in life (important one), do believe a man should teach his daughter?
You basically teach the same thing to both
You teach by your words
You teach when nobody's looking or you think nobody's looking
Because that's when a child a boy or a girl will study you like you are their God
No matter what you're doing no matter what you're saying at any given moment you are teaching the child who to be how to act by the things you say and do
When you're going through your hardest times is the time to be the strongest to teach that child how to handle any situation
You teach by staying calm you teach by using your head
You teach by being a leader in bad situations and prevailing
You teach by a roll of the eyes and a smile
You teach by giving helping others
You teach by not saying anything just eye contact says a lot
You teach it no matter what is going on in life keep putting one step in front of the other you're going to be there many times and you can walk out of it many times and you will succeed
Teach with calmness and understanding
Teach with passion and love
Teach when you fall down get back up and do it again until you get it right it's just a moment in time and learning experience of a lifetime
Teach to listen to every word because in those words is another story people don't know they're telling
For a daughter teach if a boy starts flattering you to walk away
Because he can say the same thing without saying one word
For a son teach to be kind understanding
Teach unconditional love teach your strengths are in your tears your calmness and understanding and it's okay to be you
The first thing for sons and daughters? That their body is her own and they have no obligation to accept physical contact from anyone ever.
Instead of fathers focusing too much on the aspect of her finding a quality man and greater provider for her, how about teach her self-defense against a guy/man (so she can't stop relying on the ''oh my father/brothers will kick you ass if you don't stop'' and handle it herself) and how to stop relying her happiness on a man and marriage. She should build her own happiness.
When I was in middle school (7th grade), my father confronted a boy that was harassing me. He literally walked him against the wall, which was wrong and actually illegal. Honestly I wished I would've known self-defense so I could've handle him myself, instead of relying on dad coming to the rescue. In the end, the kid resumed back to doing that same thing. I confronted him myself the 2nd. I was pissed off by then.
Another case of a guy bothering me:
I was a HS sophomore and he was a HS freshman. My father told me to tell him the overused line ''My brother will kick your ass'' BS. At the time my brother was an infant. In the end, I switched to ''You know what, I'll handle you myself''. I was at close proximity and gave him an ''I'm not playing, stop it right now or else I mean business'' expression. It never got physically though, just verbal. Other classmates (even his own friend) and the coach got involved quickly and they were all against him. That was frowned upon. The coach made him stand on the wall for the rest of the class and lowered his grade.
Believe in yourself. You can do it (life.) You are enough. You will find a way. It will be tough, difficult, dismantling at times, but you will find the strength in you.
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To be comfortable with their bodies, and confident enough to question themselves and others without be drawn into doubt. One of the most important skills any child can learn is self-awareness and how to deal with the feelings that come with saying 'I was wrong' and changing things.
Girls particularly who don't grow up learning the tools to deal with that are at risk of developing self-esteem issues, self image issues, or delusional behavior. Girl's who learn how to deal emotionally with failure without guilt or shame are much more prepared to manage their social lives and beliefs. It can also help with gaslighting and bullying by helping them step back and organize their emotions and feelings, rather than being reactive.
It also will help them no matter what kind of life they want to lead, because life will always have hard times and moments of failure.
Never fuck your own company
Use condoms
A child always has characteristics of both parents. Have a child only if you are sure that you like all the characteristics that the child's father has. Otherwise, be sure that the relationship will last. Nothing is worse for the child than when the parents separate and many children have damages that are sometimes seen only later.
Dont be a bully. Be kinder towards other women. Women are so cruel to eachothers. My sister suffered a lot. To the point were me and my friends became her friends bcs women won't be friend her out of jealousy. She is more protected with her brother and no one can mess with her now. But why the drama?
Focus on your education and career but don't be a bad, rude, arrogant girl. Always love and respect everyone around you. Be nice to everyone equally, Men, Women, kids, older people, rich or poor, family members, friends, relatives, colleagues, neighbors. If you have bad phase in your life transform yourself to become more strong and wise. If you have bad or negative people in life just stay away, ignore them and focus on your life, husband and kids ( if married).
Hi there, my dad always taught me to be my own person and to never follow the crowd (sounds silly but he was right) he also taught me about money and saving etc. But most importantly he taught me how to stick up for myself, and to know my self worth! If it wasn’t for him I honestly don’t think I’d be the person who I am now!
As a father of a daughter, I stressed to her to believe in herself, first and foremost. What other people said about her has no bearing on how she thinks of herself. And only trust opinions of her closest friends, but keep in mind, that they are only opinions. Set goals but don't overlook adventures along the path to achieve them. Don't be afraid to say "No" but be open to compromise if warranted. A bunch of other stuff too.
don't give yourself away to all these dudes who couldn't give a shit about you after they've had sex with you. best to find that one person for life who appreciates you and appreciate them in return
Be a problem-solver. Don't complain too much and expect other people to solve your problems. And learn martial arts and how to use firearms properly.
My dad taught me men can be sneaky and will lie to get me to sleep with them. He told me to keep my head high, be confident, and stand up to men who don't treat me right.
He told me not to rely on a man for anything.
Only fans is not worth selling your dignity no matter how many zeros it brings
Men will go through unbelievable lengths just to get sex and only sex and then will leave you and act like they've never met you.
A bit harsh but there is no better way to put it to make this point.
Don't follow your whims and desire... instead try to find out the about one true God who is the most worthy of worship and if there is any god, which is obvious, follow his commandments , stay away from his prohibitions and don't compromise with HIM. TRY READING DIFFERENT SCRIPTURES TO FIND OUT ABOUT TRUE GOD, UNLESS YOU TRY DIFFERENT FLAVOURS HOW COULD YOU COME TO A CONCLUSION, WHICH ONE IS THE BEST!
How to kill somebody with a coffee mug. Just in case.
I wanted to teach my daughter love. She's received roses every single Valentines Day of her life. I wanted her to have standards for what she wanted in a man and know her worth for what she can bring to a relationship.
I would teach her to protect herself and fix things, but I'd leave most of the lessons to her mom.
Too many dads take it too far and try turn their daughters into boys. Especially if they dont have a son
Be self-sufficient. Be sure you can take care of your life, never get yourself into a position where you need someone else. Then go follow your dreams whatever they are.
To not let a dude treat her any kind of way. And a mom should teach her son the same in regards to women
There is an excellent book called "Strong Father's, Strong Daughter's", written by a female pediatrician.
I don’t know but my ex husband's first real talk he had with our daughter was about men and how they are mostly no good.
To protect her value by not sleeping around or getting tattoos and piercings.
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