So our mother walked out on us about six years ago. She just packed her stuff and just left. She said she had to live her own live and she’s done being a mom. She promised that she would always be there for us and never leave and guess what? She LEFT! My brothers and I want nothing to do with her. I was 15, my brothers were 16 and 18 (four months before my oldest brother’s graduation). Our sister was 10. Anyways she keeps trying to contact mom and we have to keep telling her that mom will not call back, she won’t respond and she most likely won’t come to her high school graduation in 2025. She refuses to accept that mom doesn’t want us. It’s been SIX years and she needs to move on! I understand she needs mom, we do too but who needs her! She asked me how I honestly felt about mom and I bluntly told her that I HATE her guts, she dumped us so who needs her? She was shocked about my answer but it’s the truth. Dad is so fed up with her trying to contact mom and crying about her. He got in her face and scolded at her he is fed up with her crying over the woman that doesn’t give a shit about us and stop talking about her and he’s had enough. He yelled at her. Well can you blame him? Mom broke dads heart so bad as well. She isn’t the only one that went though the pain. We yelled at her too because we’re tired of it, the family is tired of it and even her best friend is tired of it. We’re not going to let her sulk and cry over that flaky woman. She needs to accept that mom doesn’t want us and focus on school and her life. She is a junior. What do we do? Dad took her phone away and deleted mom’s number and scolded at her that’s the end of that. I’m 21 and I’m my last year of college and my mom will not be invited to my graduation May 2024! I F*ING hate her and that’s the truth.
Look, I know it sounds pretty cruel to her, but we had to be Grinchs to stop her from getting hurt more.
Are you and your sister using gag? I swear I saw a post back in June or July about a girl who mentioned very similar things to what you have here. She talked about how she was longing for her mum to come back. She also mentioned how her dad was pissed she kept bringing up her mum and how her mum left when she was young.
While I understand you hate your mum. You have to understand your sister was quite young. Her memories are different to that of you and your other siblings and your dad. She may very well have trauma from being abandoned by her mum and doesn't understand things regardless if she is older. You say she can't cry all of the time, but sadly this is something trauma can do to someone whose mum just up and left with no answers and no goodbyes. Maybe instead of getting pissed off. Maybe all of you need to sit down and talk to one another in a calm tone. Or maybe try and arrange professional counselling for her.
Your sister doesn't need any of you yelling at her when she was just technically a baby when your mum left.
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Your sister is in denial. She doesn't accept the reality and that's why she can't get over it.
Instead of yelling at her and being rude to her, try to have a calm conversation with her. Ask her why she still talks about her etc?
Your sister is probably very sensitive about the situation. Try to listen to her and be supportive as a sibling. It really sucks to have a mother like this, especially as a sensitive person.
Sometimes we are too hard on people...
Because she way younger than you guys when you´re mum left. She therefore might not be able to get over the situation on her own because it might have been in a time pre- or while she came into puberty. That´s normally an age where people are more vulnerable than later.
That way I´d think she more traumatised by the situation than you. Yelling at her won´t help the situation I think it´s better to get to go therapy.
You were teenagers, she was ten. Stop yelling at her and show some compassion.
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because your sister is a traumatized teenager who misses her mother.
You should be hugging your sister not yelling at her! Yelling at her is only traumatizing more. She was only 10 when your mother left she probably can't understand why she left. Stop yelling at her!!!
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