Should I keep hounding my ex to call his kids or leave it alone?

[Anonymous]

My ex-husband has left the country where we were all residing.

Since leaving, he stopped calling his kids and said that they can call him if he they want.

I've tried to explain that they are young and as the adult it is his job to keep in contact with them.

Even after telling him the kids say they miss him he still hasn't tried to call.

If I call him he answers no problem but he won't even return their calls.

Do I keep telling him to initiate calls or should I just let my kids be abandoned by their father?

*I know that people like to get on here and start saying a bunch of vile things about divorced women and blamkng us for every evil that exists in the world but, this is a real life issue that I am genuinely asking for compassionate opinions about. Please save the over 23, single-mother bashing for another thread. Thanks ✨️

Updates

7 mo

I didn't leave it alone and he legit tried to twost it into me purposely not letting them call him to force him to call his own kids. I will just leave it alone. I don't even know this man.

[Flatmanlewis]

Keep trying. I know it’s tiring, exhausting, and frustrating but your kids deserve to at least have the opportunity to connect with their father. Maybe he will eventually come around and step up. When they get to an age where they can determine on their own they have no interest in his dead-beat ways then they can sever him out of their lives on their terms. Plus, if you continue to try he can never try and flip the script that you denied him contact with his kids and we’re the villain who prevented him from having a relationship with them. It’s a common thing to hide behind later in life.

[In_Trance]

leave it alone

[Anonymous]

I would stop trying. They are kids, they shouldn't be forced to be the one who has to contact him.