Parents of G@G, why did you have children?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

What made you want to be a parent? Did you want to make up for a childhood you never got to have? Did you feel it was just a part of life to have one? Did you want to prove your parents wrong and show them the right way to be a parent?

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6 mo

If you have adult children, do they still keep in touch with you?

[NotInterestedSorry]

I was told by the doctor after medical test that I was infertile, so my pregnancy was a massive shock. Despite being left as a single mum, I chose to go through with the pregnancy because I don't believe in the abortion of a healthy foetus or baby.

[ohsheeT]

When I was born my parents got a divorce my mom remarried when I was two
And stayed married until I was 10

At the age of five I found out my dad was my stepdad

And that changed my whole life I was now always on the search for my real dad and who I was meant to be who I was

At the age of five my stepdad's would beat me with a belt till I was black and blue.

At 9 years old I forget what I did wrong but I had to go to my room and wait for him
Sitting there waiting all I could think to myself was how could he with me with a belt and tell me he loves me

I told myself I will never cry again if he hits me
He walked in started beating me with a belt had one of my hands arms in his hand the belt in the other hand and usually I would run circles around him as he's hitting me as he's holding on to me

This time I just stood there I had tears rolling down my face but I would not cry he asked me why am I not crying why am I not screaming.

I told him he cannot hurt me anymore I told him it was wrong what he was doing
And he would hit me harder

I sat there and I took it he finally gave up walked out of the room

6 months later they got a divorce.

But I said to myself if I ever have children.

I was going to teach him how to raise children

Even though he was my stepdad on summer vacations I had to go see him because I had brothers and sisters from him

When I got married I was scared to death to have children because I didn't want to be like him

first child my son I got to deliver him and I looked at his eyes and I promised him that I would never ever hurt him

And I did just that I've raised him without raising my voice I've raised him by teaching him with very few words I never had to spank him I taught him with words a very quick sentence and he understood

If he ever was doing something wrong all I had to do is look at him or look his direction
And say psst.
My finger in front of me motion and come here LOL he would say yes Dad.
I would say should you be doing what you're doing I would explain the reason why he shouldn't be doing it he would say he understood and I'd say okay go have fun

My son is now a fireman paramedic he's 6 ft 6 just a beautiful kid all the way around

I would never change the way that I was raised because I don't know if I would erase my kid the same way so I'm glad for whatever happened I'll never know but I'm glad that I'm where I'm at now and I would not change a thing

[BLP11520]

Well we wanted 2 sons before we got married and didn’t regret when we finally had them

[HelpfulWoman]

My birth control failed both times, was sort of low key pressured by partners pro life mom so had first. Second felt a natural extra we could deal with

[elizamichale1]

Well mine were not planned... i just got pregnant n decided to continue

[Anonymous]

I loved my husband. It felt right. Best thing I ever did.