We’ve been friends for almost 6 years and I don’t know if it’s he who has changed or myself, but we no longer see eye-to-eye on a few things that I consider to be major. I don’t think that I can continue our friendship while we are on opposite sides of these topics. How do I just let go of this friendship?
I've said it before I have a handful of friends and a thousand acquaintances. Because I'm a friendly person. But I have very stringent standards when it comes to those I call "friend". I would simply demote him to acquaintance. It doesn't mean you stop caring about him. But it means he does not have your full trust anymore. You hold him at arms length (or in your case hold him on the other side of the door's length😆). But you still wish him well. You've already articulated what you need out of him in a friendship. Either he wants to give that or he doesn't.
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I don't think you should, unless you two are being rude to each other.
Disagreeing, even on important things, is not a reason to end a friendship. My friend is a socialist, and if he got his way, he'd cause many people to struggle to eat, have no luxuries, and many other horrible things.
But he's still my friend.
Defriending people over their beliefs is intolerance, and it only furthers divide and exclusion. It even creates echo chambers. There's many reasons why this is a bad thing.
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That’s the same thing my ex friend said about me to a mutual friend. You don’t have to agree on everything to be friends, but this friend had elitist values and I didn’t. He also had no respect for boundaries. Those are big red flags that I couldn’t overlook. If there are big red flags like that, I think you’re being smart. If it’s just that your friend isn’t politically correct and you are, then I think you’re overreacting. Either ghost them or tell them you don’t want to be friends anymore.
Good question. I believe you should outgrow some friendships. A few years ago I was friends with a gal for 2.5 years, I just told her straight up the facts. It slowly became a 1 sided relationship. The last straw was when I was locked out of my home, she was with me. I asked of I could crash at her place so I would only pay 25 for a replacement key. She was clearly not happy ans made it known, she stayed and witnessed me paying over $100 for a key smith to let me in!! I was furious, she could of let me crash in 1 of her 3 bedroom rooms. Also we had different hobbies, she likws to drink, eat and shop. I like to hike, yoga and concerts. She never liked to participate in my hobbies. I had to leave.
I went through this when one of my friends got really into drugs. It was all he talked about and all he ever wanted to do. He started hanging out with a different crowd and I just gave up on him. He is still using drugs and has a druggie wife and a couple of kids.
Well just because you don't see eye to eye about something it's not a reason to break the relationship up that's part of life
Are you a right fighter you have to be right and if you're not right you just want to end things.
A true friend will stick it out a true friend will understand that just because you see one thing one way and the other person sees things in other way that just shows you who we are and when you can accept that and respect that that's what makes you grow
Everything in this world doesn't have to be right or wrong just because we believe in something just because we think something doesn't mean that we're right I can say that out loud to myself and to other people about me it's just in that moment it's what I believe or what I feel but it doesn't mean that I'm rightJust because you 2 have different belief systems doesn't mean you can't be friends. Just agree to disagree on subjects. Then move on.
You can agree to disagree. You are both becoming adults and the naive childhood politics is possibly receding from or both of you.
Some say opposites attract it in this case maybe it’s time for you to move on. On the flips side when it comes to seeing eye to eye what aren’t you two seeing because if you are making a mountain out of a molehill is it worth losing a friend or six years?
I think gradually letting go is the best thing to do.
Be Civil. I Broke it Off with a LDR man whom I Rarely Saw Eye to Eye with. They don't Change. xxoo
No idea. I have friends of a widely varying world views, religiously and politically. It would have to be pretty extreme for me to end a friendship over beliefs, like one becoming an actual Nazi or a member of Aryan Nation.
Depends on how much you value his importance in your life I guess. You could either let him know about how you feel about your friendship and that you no longer want to pursue it; or, you can just slowly stop interacting with him
You just say -- our core beliefs and values on things that are vastly important to me are too different. I wish you peace and enlightenment in your future, but I can no longer call you friend.
Agree to disagree. If it's something like religion or politics then the relationship isn't authentic. If it's a belief in something deeper then... It is what it is. There's billions of people in the world who think like you.
I just dont discuss those religious or political topics with them. They are just friends at the end of the day, not the person I’m looking to marry
We have so much problems, issues in maintaining who we are and what we want to be or know what we need to be. Why not let others be who they are or choice to be. It makes life less complicating and controlling. I know I am eventually bothered by people always trying to control me like a dog on a leach. Guess what? I break out of that strangle hold and have no respect for that poor entity. Yeah, I let go.
Is this over politics?
I wouldn't let go of a friendship for different beliefs unless it was something extreme like they were okay with pedophiles or something nuts like that.
Did your underlying values change?
I just interact with them less, if the differences are just so deal breaking.
Growing apart happens to me. I think how Jesus gives me a path
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