My wife is pregnant, it's going to be our first child and she's due for an ultrasound to determine the baby's gender and growth.
One small issue though that I've never told my wife nor anyone and hopefully our child never has to go through it:
I was a total asshole in my HS. A girl used to liked me and she once accidentally left her math book and private diary. The absolute jerk I was, too preoccupied with keeping my popular status, I took the diary home, made many photo copies and spread it to the whole class the next day. Some laughed and others didn't. Two friends and I took turns asking her some humiliating questions, then laughing until making her run out of the class. She had a sad expression. Several that didn't laugh, reported this. Since this was already my 3rd suspension and me and a friend painted the school walls with graffiti (one previous suspension for fighting another dude and another for back talking to a teacher) I was expelled afterwards. That was my stupid 16 year-old self back then. I had no excuse and nope, I was never lacking love at home. I failed my parents.
Years later and now I'm at this awkward position. I'm taking my wife to her doctor's appointment and her gynecologist is the same girl I did that to. I've wanted to search for her a couple years ago but she's not on FB. Now I'm going to see her in person. We're all now 32 year-olds. Any suggestions?
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You were a shit bag and that's all there was to it. Maybe you shouldn't go to that doctor's appointment. A guy doesn't need to go with his wife to a gynecologist. If she wants somebody there, have one if he friends go. Plus you don't need to know the gender, you can do it the old fashioned way and find out when the baby pops out. You need to tell your wife why you can't go to that appointment.
Time to face the music pally
We're both interested in knowing the gender though. I've been wanting to own up to it for the longest. Yes I was a total jerk and wouldn't running away and not owning up be the opposite of maturing?
Whether we have a baby boy or girl, I hope our child grows into a much better person than I was.
Are you going to say you're sorry or sit there like a silent dickweed?
I'll own up to it
Change gynocologist. She’d have to be professional, but it would just be awkward if you went there.
I think I'll own up to it, face the music. As a soon to be father, I want to teach my child right from wrong, want him/her to grow into someone much better than I was.
Maybe she'll be professional
Yes, hopefully. I'll own up to it.