Why are men clueless when it comes to take care of babies?

[Anonymous]

My husband dosen't seem to get it yet.

[Anonymous]

Because in general men don't have the nurturing instincts women do. The baby didn't develop in our bodies and develop that bond before the child was even born. This is common sense stuff here.

[Opinion Owner]

Thans for MHO

[bededazzle]

maybe he should read a book about it

[Billlewis]

I'm actually quite adept at taking care of babies, although I'm most comfortable with their being five months and older. I've dated/served several women whose children were fathered by their boyfriends, and they appreciated having me babysit their kids while they were with their boyfriends.

[RavVid]

I think we can reasonably assume females evolved to be be good moms. Those who evolved good mom responses left more progeny than the bad moms. Hence the good moms crowded the bad moms out of the gene pool.

In contrast, back in 2 Million BC, it was more important for fathers to be bringing home bacon. So while you may intuitively know, it is probably a more technical learning exercise for him.

What I have noticed on the farm, is that if a female mammal has babies (kittens/pups/calf) too early, inevitably she is a bad mom. If the kitten/pup/calf tries to suckle, she will get up to stop them and even shake them off the teat.

The next season though, she is a good mom - contentedly letting her babies suckle.

So I am thinking there is a good mom maturation process going on too. At some point the good mom light bulb comes on when it was off before.

I have seen it said that new father's feel extremely intimidated in looking after a baby so maybe you need to build up his confidence.

[Gent207-2]

I guess I must be a fucking unicorn because I take care of my kids (ages 3 months and 20 month). I've changed shit-full diapers, stayed up late night cluster bottle feedings and more.

YouTube helped prepare the way but having an encouraging partner made the real difference.

Nut up or shut the fuck up I say

[syncheart]

I think in general, Women have a God given talent for doing that sort of thing. With that being said, not all Women seem to care as much about babies, as others do. Whenever someone does something for the first time, they are clueless until they learn how. Most guys learn how, and do a decent job.

[jahaims]

You are projecting because of your husband. Men through nature and nurture have less nurturing qualities. I am a man who stayed at home and took care of babies. Men aren't clueless, you just chose a clueless partner.

[Apple1996]

They know how to care for babies. Besides breastfeeding men really have no excuse. Your husband is most likely just lazy and a bad dad

[normalice]

Weaponized incompetence. He doesn't want to help.

[exitseven]

my wife had 9 months to cram for this. I was in denial the whole time.

[Cutegirl06]

Maybe he just doesn't have the experience?