Do men not understand how hard it is to raise a baby?

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MrOracle · Accepted Answer

I think a lot of us have a pretty good idea - probably not every last detail, but we're not as clueless as you suppose. But that's why we want a quality partner who WANTS to raise our children. That used to be the deal, you know: the man would work and the woman would stay home and raise the kids. Obviously there would always be some crossover - no one is suggesting that the man literally did nothing at home - but, yes, it's very difficult, just as it's very difficult to provide for an entire family by yourself.

Those are the sacrifices people used to make to have families. Today, tons of people aren't having children, and their lineage will literally die out. This has been pushed and pushed HARD by the left, which is essentially a death cult. There was just an article out today where they were complaining that the Right is crazy for caring about the birth rate, and that caring about children was a "crazy far right" concern. I'm telling you, the left is convincing women to abort their kids, or sterilize them with puberty blockers if they have any at all. It's quite literally a Death Cult. In a generation or two, the left will have killed itself off - literally.

gorydetails · Accepted Answer

Yeah, it's difficult but also rewarding.

bobalife · Accepted Answer

Generally speaking anyone who don’t have kids nor experience related to kids would understand the basics and challenges of raising kids. There are also individuals who may be insensitive of how hard it is for their partners to raised kids while they are still having a job or risk leaving their job to raised the kid at home as a housewife/husband.

rosemilk · Accepted Answer

i just think they don't care

jshm2 · Answer

It isn't, I've raised four.

Stop fucking around, and dramatizing everything, you'll have an easier time 90% of the time.

All you're really doing for the kids is feeding it and keeping it clean (as possible), everything else can be outsourced.

Whereas what most "modern" women do is feed the child all sorts of processed shit from places like McDonalds or ready meals. Then they bitch about hyper and fucked up kids.

They also dress it in shitty brands while not washing the kid at least once a day. Cleaning and washing is not only good on the body, but mind as well.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

I feel like woman get anxious because of how many different things go into it, but men kinda understand, it's gonna cry a lot, it needs baby food, they can get sick but you still gotta go to work etc.

So after that, the real challenge is gonna be how well can you use good judgment under stress? If you think about it, it's not really all that different that a minimum wage job. 😂 Obviously way more important, but you're not doing anything that as a guy isn't out of the ordinary. At least most men.

I'd say raising a baby is easier than a job because at least the baby isn't your boss.

RebelinSteel · Answer

I think you need to separate out those who have kids and those who don’t, that is both guys n girls.

a girl who has not had sex, or not given birth will not understand, then you can throw in difference between an under 10 to a teen ( I was a nightmare).

Unless you have one you don’t know how hard it is.

Apple1996 · Answer

They really don't since most men don't carry the mental load of caring for their child. Sure they can watch the kid like a babysitter would but ask any man when's the last time his kid went to the dentist, what was wrong with their teeth and when's the next appointment. 99% of dads will have no clue

desidoll · Answer

It is not that they don’t want to understand it, but they can’t relate since they don’t have to go through the same thing. The majority of us won’t be able to fully grasp other people’s struggles unless we are in the same shoes. Same thing with many women who question men why they don’t approach and what’s wrong with rejection, until we have to do the approaching ourselves.

ClaircognizantEmpath · Answer

hey, my vote has always been since motherhood, mothers should have a three day break and dad manages everything... you literally create a human being... wtaf... then he comes home from work and there's a dig about the state of the house... leaves at 6 am gets home at 7pm i never felt so alone in my life when i became a mother... i felt the dad just continues his existence pretty much, can't be helped but there isn't much out there to talk about that...

Flatmanlewis · Answer

I think that question is too vague and open ended. Are you referring to the men who walk out on their families? Working men who come home and don’t show reverence for the mother’s contributions to the day? Single moms who can’t find supportive men? Punched out fathers who simply don’t contribute?

I can say I have all the understanding of how hard it was to raise my/our children with the added stress of trying to make ends meet financially.

b_lova · Answer

We do. I raise 3 with my wife prior to our breakup. Lots of sleepless nights on baby duty. Even when I had work the next morning. Let's not get into diaper changes or going without the things I wanted to provide the things they wanted. Fun times! I wouldn't exchange that time for anything in the world.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I would say from a time standpoint, the baby stage is the most difficult because they rely on you 100% of their life during this period, however, the most difficult stage is the teenage years. I had to raise my daughter alone during this stage and it was difficult emotionally.

Avicenna · Answer

Most men don't fully understand how hard to is to raise kids ALONE, but most of us know how hard it is to raise them/take care of them because we have done it and/or know other people who have. Even before I became a parent, I knew because I had nieces and nephews.

Siri137 · Answer

Do tell, because I don't know how hard it is either, having never been a parent. I have a vague, general idea, and that's why I never want to find myself in such a situation.

bolverk · Answer

Some of us know what is involved in raising a baby, as we have raised our siblings especially when we are the eldest. I've fed bathed and changed my 4 younger sisters, 2 nieces, and 2 nephews, and I've helped in their education, tutored with their homework and how to use PC's/Laptops. I've have more child care hours on the clock than most parents!

LadyKitty · Answer

I think a fair assessment would be that there are plenty of men do know that raising them is hard but socially usually women are seen as primary caregivers.

RetroReviews · Answer

I understand completely cuz I was in my daughter's lives from when they was a baby and had them full time for 10 years on my own from when they was 8 to 18

caitycat21 · Answer

No, a lot of men don’t understand what it takes to raise a baby or how much of a risk and toll pregnancy can take.

OtterMan68 · Answer

when my son was born, I took a leave of absences to stay with him during the day while my wife worked and I went to night school. That was between him being 4 months old to being 9 months old. Yes, I know how hard it is to raise a baby.

dustybiker2 · Answer

Of course they do. That is why boys flee and men stand by their children.

NamerOfStars · Answer

No one does, unless they're currently raising one.

WhitneySnow · Answer

No they don’t lol. Then again neither do I, except what my mom’s told me.

sheikalana · Answer

Yes, a lot of men understand how hard it is.

altaboy · Answer

I had the opposite problem. Turns out that I was right!

Anonymous · Answer

I’m not the one with the uterus to care, My only job is to provide for the uterus and anything that comes out of it.

Imsmurter1 · Answer

I want to make a baby with a beautiful woman

MadhuriDixit · Answer

It's hard for both the parents

exitseven · Answer

I helped raise 3 of them, I know it is not easy.

LazerBean · Answer

Plenty of men do.

katiesmuff · Answer

Most don't !

NetherlandsNar · Answer

I think lots do

Anonymous · Answer

What makes you think we wouldn't know this?

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Probably not.

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