How easy do you find it to make friends or socialize with members of the opposite sex?

[Anonymous]

Tough

Not bad

Easy

A total of 93 votes were cast: 34 girls and 59 guys. See detailed results

[WhiteSteve]

Very easy. When I travel alone, I always try to make some friends wherever I’m out at so I’m not just that creepy guy hanging out on the wall, haha. Usually it will be women. The key is to approach groups of them, and don’t come up reeking of a sexual agenda. I went to Austin, Texas a few years back and hit up Sixth Street. I had a friend who lived in town come out with me early, but he was married with a new baby at home, so was out by like 10. I struck out on my own, just seeing the sights. One of the “Jesus is coming” people with the megaphones yelling to the passing pedestrians was wearing one of those Raiden from Mortal Kombat hats, so I stopped to get a picture. Some group of college girls walked by and one jumped in front of my camera on purpose and goes “whoa, hey, are you filming me?” I saw my opening and walked with her, asked if she knew where an out of towner by himself could get a drink, and she invited me to join her group. Hung out with her crew both nights I was there, good people👍

[WindAtMyBack]

Very easy. Just stop thinking of them as the opposite sex, or some kind of alien. There is no reason why socializing with the opposite sex should be any different than socializing with the same sex.

Obviously the two sexes are not the same. But people let that affect them too much. That's what messes them up and makes it hard to socialize with the opposite sex. Just talk to them like you talk to anyone else. Don't put the cart before the horse.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Easier than guys actually. That may be due to frequency of exposure though, because when I was deployed it was obviously more with guys.

[Anonymous]

I can socialize with women a little, but usually they are interested in things I'm not into (but I do my best to listen and contribute), and I'm interested in things they aren't, so it's usually small talk. And the women I have that are "friends" are usually secondary: I know them through the husbands or boyfriends. Normally, we would have never met, or talked much because our circles are so different.

Many in a certain age range (not all) are also a bit rude or awkward with how they respond to subjects they're bored with, so it can be tough to make and maintain real friendships with certain women - they're often pretty rude about things I like, and they're not really passionate about things outside of what little they do, so if I try to say something, they interrupt with "Ok, I stopped caring like 10 seconds ago." Many also seem pretty quick to assume the worst in me or assume I meant something offensive
which makes lasting friendships difficult.

Some, who I've met through the boyfriend or husband, it feels weird trying to ask for help from them... like we don't do things together outside of the occasional event with the husband or boyfriend (he's usually the only reason we talk), so it's mostly small talk. some tend to make themselves purposely busy so we get five minutes here and there.

I'm busy, busy, dreadfully busy
You've no idea what I have to do.
Busy, busy, shockingly busy
Much, much too busy for you.

I have a good female friend who likes a lot of the things I like, so we get along great, and can actually talk and listen. She also makes an effort to keep in touch with me from time to time... so it's not always one sided (and her husband is included in these conversations, because THEY like a lot of the same things). They're both good at being able to talk about a lot of things, and aren't rude about something they don't know about; they listen. Becoming friends was fairly easy, and maintaining the friendship is fairly easy, but she's about the only one that makes an effort.

[blueonblack22]

What is your real objective for doing this? If it’s for platonic reasons then you could easily find a plethora of women of who would like to have you as “friends only”.

But you need to ask yourself the true reason you want to “make friends with women”. If there is any romantic goals whatsoever you are setting yourself for a big disappointment and worse.

Women often enjoy a lot of one way benefits of having platonic “guy friends”. They like having a guy give them attention. They feel safer and more protected in public. They have some one who can move heavy objects for them. Someone to call in the middle of the night if they are stranded. Someone to give them logical advice. When at restaurants/bars the waiter usually hands the man the bill first. The list goes on and on The most you get is female dating “advice” (which is often misleading) and maybe a wingwoman at bars

So if you enjoy being exploited have fun. There are plenty of women out there who use “orbiters” for their own ends. Especially at your age. So this should be easy for you.

A better idea is to make friends with successful guys you can model yourself after if you want to date more effectively. There is a difference between being friendly with women and being their exploited orbiter “guy friend”’

[ManOnFire]

It is extremely easy for me to socialize with women. I have male friends, but it can sometimes be a challenge with guys because they pretty much expect you to do and know everything they do, which most times is anime, video games, reddit memes, etc.

The only time having female friends becomes challenging is when they start getting closer to you and asking you for advice on what to do about someone, whether it's a guy or someone else. Not that I don't want to help, but I don't want to be the go-to girl for all their problems. And they ask for advice but usually end up doing what they wanted to do anyway.

[CozyCoffin]

I had a few female friends over the years that were either school related ones that I made myself or ones that I made through others, and others that were work related. However, those as well as the male friendships dissolved after high school, college, and them leaving work. We had each others' contact information, but I noticed that I was the only one making an effort and took the hint that I didn't matter to them.

I made one friend that started as someone I knew through a paper route and we have known each other for seventeen years. I have some female friends through work that have been there throughout my ten year tenure and I would be their friend after either of us leave. At least in making a friendship, I have found it easy and difficult but have a very hard time in making it more than that.

[aceleon]

i had always had a easy time talking with girls, what will trouble me would be confessing to a girl cuz i never had an actual relationship and with the girls i get i always knew that they were interested before i got closer or had their friends play the matchmaker for me, i either got knowledge by my side or support and since i never liked someone even though i never got rejected it wouldn't hurt even if i got rejected.

[Sparkie460]

It's very easy for me to talk to women and men. Sometimes my wife gets annoyed at me for starting conversations with total strangers.
She'll see me talking to someone and as we're leaving She'll ask, who was that. When I tell her that I didn't get their name she's like " another stranger "?

[catiecatie]

Honestly it depends. If it someone I like I find it a bit more challenging, if I’m not interested in them then I find it easy. It’s honestly really weird. Or if I know I’m not liked then I try and be nice but don’t say a lot.

[lightbulb27]

Early in life hard to impossible. middle life... terrible... but better. later in life, easy.

I had to grow out of my oppression, mature and learn.

[PeachyPie93]

I find it fairly easy. Making friends is the easiest thing. As for dating I don't really know how to get there, but I suppose I don't have a personality guys want.

[LadyKitty]

Pretty easy! I am personally a big gamer and found more guys who played simliar video games than women.

[KillinItHard]

Yeah, playing video games definitely gives you a leg up, lol.

[Phoenix98]

I’ve actually never really had any difficulty with it and I’ve had many female friends throughout my life.

But the same time I’m like a old comfortable leather couch if it was a person.

[Joshydavid25]

It's pretty easy, I connect with women a bit more easy than guys, mainly because it's easy to make jokes around them and they'll laugh more times than not..

[Monalisa77]

Actually I read this q wrong, I should've said not bad. I find it easier to be friendly with boys, but not that easy to keep them as friends

[IslaTheWitch]

It is not easy, but after satisfying some autistic needs, I have my ways of getting to know people and making friendships.

[LiamJHayden]

Socializing is easy for me. Making friends is also easy for my part, but too often the girls take my friendliness as hitting on them. I am far more direct than that. If I am interested I ask her out.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Its easy to make friends but I get bored of most people so its hard to keep friends. This applies to both sexes.

[2_beHappy]

I m pretty confident in socializing with guys, although I often don t have reasons to.😂🤭

[hopegirly]

Very easy to me! I have many male friends, more than female ones

[laly520]

pretty easy
no difference from making friends of same sex

[grega239]

I dont anymore. Not sure why but i never have anything to ask or say to them.

I have no valid reason to interact with them

[Brianp]

it seams like it gets harder as I get older. Back in school days it was easy. I had just as many female friends as I did male friends. Maybe everyone were more open back then

[KillinItHard]

I get along with women much easier than I do with men.

[_Derpy]

Difficult. I don't know what to talk about with them or I'll make a joke and they get mad lol

[Paul09]

Tough for me. I get social anxiety. I'm not great at small talk.

[GregorMclane]

I have a fear of women, but if they are patient enough with me then it is generally easy.

[Nikki1989]

It is very easy.

[bobalife]

I’m a social butterfly in real life, so it’s easy.

[NathanDavis]

feels naturally right

[exitseven]

It gets hard once you are out of school

[douride2]

I find it easy to make friends

[CallmeTheKnight]

It’s easy to socialize with women

[RedInnocent68]

Pretty easily, actually.

[robocop666]

women seem to like me so its easy

[whistlingwh0res]

I’m not a play girl

[serious]

Very tough.