Why can't I make friends with both genders?

[Anonymous]

I've had trouble making friends my whole life, I am 16 turning 17 this year. I've never had a friend to hang out with, it really sucks and I am lonely.

I just cannot make friends of either gender, I cannot make male friends and I cannot make female friends, because no one gives me the chance to become their friend.

I always try to be nice, talkative, ask questions and such. I am not unhygenic either.

For example, I go to this theathre group with other teens that are arounf 16/17 years old. I've been in this group over 3 months, and I still haven't managed to make a single friend there. The whole reason I joined it was to make friends.
Everytime I attend at this group, I talk to the others there. I am always the one initiating conversation. I ask them questions about themselves (nothing personal), I share information about myself (nothing personal) without them asking, I make eye contact, I smile, I laugh, I greet and I take farewell, etc. Even when I do this I get ignored and avoided. And they never ask me anything, never talk to me, they only respond when I talk to them. THey never ask me to hangout or ask for my social media.
I even found 3 of the kids from my theathre group on social media, and I followed them. 2 girls and one boy. I posted a lot of relatable videos on my instagram story so that they would understand that I had a personality with the intention that maybe they would want to be my friends then.
I contacted ALL 3 FIRST on instagram. I tried to initiate conversation with all 3. But guess what? These people are on their phones 24/7, and I can see that they are online. BUt one girl takes 22 hours between every message, another girl takes around the same time, and the guy I contacted takes between 1-3 hours between every message, and it is short. He never wants to contunie the conversation, he only responds, but never adds anything to what I say. He always respond short and dry.

Why cannot I make friends? Am I that terrible?

[Danny_dan92]

I can tell you this rn. Friends aren’t ALL that.




But that being said, find common interests. Whatever you’re interested in, join a club that is centered around that activity. Having common interests makes bonding with people easier

[ChicoFromThe305]

Maybe you are trying too hard that it seems off so they avoid or whatnot

[Asker]

But when I don't try no one ever even looks at me, like I have to do everything because if I don't no one cares and no one takes notice of me. I've never been asked for my social media or been asked to hang out before.

[ChicoFromThe305]

I think it's like that with most no lie

[handsomelad70]

You can and should.

[Staximus]

Nobody here can actually say why it's hard for you to make friends unless they actually witness you socializing in person and see how you're behaving

[Staximus]

Just be yourself. Don't put on an act for anybody to make yourself seem more likeable. That will make them think you're not genuine

[war_daddy]

sounds like you're either ugly or a freak of some sort

[Asker]

People cannot become friends with ugly people? Why does me being ugly matter in friendships?

[war_daddy]

nobody likes ugly people

[jahaims]

Probably aren't self aware

[MrZameer]

How do you look?