Is my best friend playing on both sides?

[Anonymous]

I told my best friend about how a girl in my class I really liked too a toll on my mental health and made me feel terrible. He met her during our Spain study trip and hugged her. What is the possibility of her using him to gain information and using it against me? She complained about me to the university after I told my best friend about this. This girl went on a date with me, and was happy to go on another before beginning to ghost me and then told me she doesn't like me, but gave mixed signals. I wanted to constructively solve the problem, so I sent her an apology card with a poem I wrote for her. Still, she complained to the university.

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn man, that's really shitty situation you got caught up in. I can't believe your "best friend" would hug that girl after you told him everything she put you through - that's just not cool at all. And then for her to complain to the university about you? That's next level messing with your life. I'd be so pissed if I were you.

I get you probably really liked this girl and wanted things to work out, but it's clear she's not worth it now. Complaining to the university after you tried to apologize? That's going way too far. Some people just love causing drama I guess. It sucks but you're probably better off without her.

As for your friend, I think you need to have a serious one-on-one talk with him when you're both calmed down. Tell him exactly how he hurt you by getting close to her after you opened up to him. Pay close attention to what he says - if he's not completely on your side and just brushes off your feelings, then he may not really have your back like a true best friend should. You deserve people in your life who support you, not stab you in it.

It's gonna be hard but try not to let this get you down too much, man. High school can really suck sometimes but it's only a few years and then you're off to bigger and better things. Focus on your real friends who have your back no matter what. And don't waste another thought on that messed up girl - she ain't worth the mental energy! Hang in there dude.

[Asker]

Cheers bro 🥂 I really appreciate your opinion as always 😊

[Oliverlogan263]

No worries bro, always happy to give my two cents! 'Preciate you lettin' me weigh in - definitely sounds like some shady business goin' on there. Glad I could help give some perspective too.

But for real, forget all that drama rubbish. You deserve way better friends who got your back no matter what, and girls who treat you with respect. Keep your head up high man, don't let any of it get you down!

You seem like a solid dude, so I know you're gonna find your real crew soon enough. Till then, just do you and have fun - college is about the experiences, not the BS people. We'll grab a beer sometime and you can tell me how it's all blown over, yeah? You got this homie! 👊