Why does my brother hate me so much?

[Anonymous]

I'm posting this anonymously because I don't want people thinking my brother is a bad person and I'm uncomfortable talking about my private life.

My brother is 2 years older then me and we used to be really close until we got into are teens. I joined his school he turned into a monster. Maybe I embarrasse him but I don't know why.

He'd always stop me from spending time with my friends outside of school and be nasty to them too. I remember I went to a fun fair with some friends from school and it was a mix of boys and girls. He called me a "little slut" and slapped me around the face in front of everyone for being out and dragged me home, I was 13 years old then and he was 15.

He's always calling names like "bitch", "whore" and "slut" but my parents don't believe me when I tell them because he put on the prefect brother act in front of them.

Now he picks me up from work and if I'm one minute late out he yells at me in front of everyone and threatens to drive off without me and make me walk home in the dark.

a lot of people assume he's like a abusive boyfriend at first but then I explain he's my brother and people walk away from trying to help.

I've tried sticking up to him once before and carried on walking home from work whilst he drove next to me. I put my earphones in to block out all the verbal abusive he was shouting from the car but eventually he got out and pulled me in by my hair after i fell to ground trying to fight him off me. Leaving my ear phones on the ground , my phone smashed and covered in cuts and dirt. He told me I was a waste of space and I needed to sort my life out.

I refused to get out the car when he got home, cried so much. He told my parents I was a ungrateful brat and I ran away from him and fell on the ground as to why I was covered in cuts and they believed him over me.

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I don't know what I did to him for him to hate me. But I've told him, I'm gonna kill him one day I don't mean but I just wanted to scare him. My real plan is to save up enough money and move out. One time a colleague offered me a lift home and he saw but the guy was bigger than him so he drove off but when I got home. I got such a grilling he took pictures and told my parents I was seeing my manger and yet again they believed him over me.

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He called me a slut and said if he ever sees me with another man again he will set all my stuff on fire. He even encourages his friends to bully me when over most of them just awkwardly laugh because they feel uncomfortable but one or two have shown me kindest and said I need to move out ASAP

[boggboss]

U have never thought about recoding anything he has done as proof or getting the people at work to speak on your behalf as u said they have seen him do thi nobody can explain why your brother is acting insane even the way u try to defend his behaviour is crazy

[Asker]

I've tried recording him before and me smashed my phone up or will get my phone taken away from me. My parents are very strict Asians and even in adulthood if they think I'm talking to a boy they will take my phone off me. So that's all he needs to say and I get my phone taken away.

Also my colleagues don't want to get involved and think it's not there places. They've told me I can stay at there's if things get to much but that's it. A couple of my female friends have spoken up to him but he's just the same little disrespectful turd he is with me to them.

A couple times the police have caught him beating me outside the house and just separated us and take it as siblings just being siblings they've never once told my parents.

[Asker]

Some of his friends have given me given me money to run away from the situation but they will not stick up to him

[boggboss]

The police have seen him beating u up and done nothing I'm sorry where are u living

[Asker]

The UK, we live in a very dangerous area and this kind of stuff isn't new to the feds.

[boggboss]

I also live in the UK London and know for a fact in the current climate if police saw a guy hitting on a women in public it would be just dismmised

[Asker]

My parents don't speak good English either so as to why the believe everything my brother says. The neighbours have said stuff before but my brother just lies and says they were just asking about borrowing something.

[boggboss]

It seems pretty simple using a phone or table to record him and take it to the police as proof for his behaviour which should also safeguard u for if he tried hurting u again at this rate u will end up dead before ever moving out as he isn't scared to do anything to you

[Asker]

He's 28 and has never had a girl who wanted a relationship with him. He's very handsome but they are put off by his attitude towards women and my parents have never questioned why he's still single at 28

[Asker]

He's constantly losing his job as well but just lies to my parents and gets by on cash and hand work. He's very hard working but he treats all the women in his life besides my mother like crap

[boggboss]

I dont see how any of this us stuff u should focus on worry about yourself

[Asker]

The beating me up stuff isn't constant it's like once a month at most it's mainly mental and verbal abuse I get from him. He's a lot smarter than me and catches me everything I'm recording him. He always smacks my phone out my hand or looks for it after he's done something and I'm usually scared do give over.

I've tried telling my mum but she just says he's over protective. He's even told the police before that have autism and that's he's trying to stop me from hurting myself.

I've been looking at local hostiles to stay at but he knows we're i work and I need money.

[boggboss]

Then I guess all u can do is tey to save money get a job and move out meh

[Lowly_Grump]

That's really fucked up you even start this with "I don't want people thinking my brother is a bad person".

And you never tried recording video to cloud directly? That's also more sufficient if people start assuming you're editing videos.