Why is it so important for dads to walk their daughter down the isle?

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ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

I can't speak for any other man but when you have children boy or girl you try to set a good foundation for them to grow upon and become the best they can become

And even as parents you always have them in your mind because you're always trying to teach them

If a man and a woman fight in front of their kids they're teaching their kids it's okay to treat a woman or a man like this

So for a woman if their daughter witnesses her husband or boyfriend yelling screaming pounding on her and she believes that's how life is and that's who she becomes

If a boy watches or hears his father yelling screaming or pounding on his mother or girlfriend then he believes that's life and that's what he should do. That's all they know is what they see

So with all the above when you are good parent and you build that foundation you're always thinking you're always trying to teach your kids well and that's your little girl or that's your little boy still no matter how old they are and you have taught them all the right ways and that little girl is special and you never ever want to hear or see about a man touching them are hurting them in any manner

So in a way as you're walking her down the aisle you're looking at him saying this is my baby this is my pride my joy this is my little girl you're going to treat her and respect her as I have done

So just remember me remember this moment

And to his daughter it's the same thing I've been here for you I've always be here for you never forget that you can always come to me you can always talk to me remember where you came from and who you are and don't let anybody change you

That's what would be important for me

I'm pretty lucky I have a girl and a boy
And to this day they know they can come talk to me anytime they want they can talk about anything they want and they usually do and I don't ever want that to change

MisterWack · Accepted Answer

Tradition. I think it is on a deep level that he saw his baby grow up into a strong, independent, fully realized human being that will go on to have a family of her own & most importantly a life of her own destiny which means less time to spend / a time for grandchildren in the future / etc. it can be scary though it is symbolically he is giving her up to the world.

Note, it isn’t about him giving her up to the man of her choosing though in my opinion it is about a broader future without him & “my baby is all grown up”. Like completely and going down the isle is a showcase of what came before and to look forward to the journey ahead (for the daughter), it is about supporting & loving & being by her side no matter what the world throws at her because your job of a parent of her under your roof is done doesn’t mean your job as a parent is done like the love doesn’t die, it continues in a new form (for the father).

Maybe I’m an idiot, but this is my interpretation.

Gwendoline · Accepted Answer

Many reasons.

Tradition:

because that's how it's always been, so it means something to a lot of people.

Symbolism:

It symbolises the groom taking over the responsibilities the father of the bride as her husband, responsibilities once held by the father of the bride.

Approval:

it shows to both families that the father (as well as mother of the bride) of the bride approves of the marriage. That's for both families, friends, enemies whoever. A father refusing to five away his daughter is a big thing.

Family pride

Its a proud moment for any father walking their daughter down the isle. Of course considering father's mostly used to pay for the wedding it should be. Daughter used to get money for a wedding day and son inheritance or college tution. Now i think that money goes towards college for the daughter and she will work to save for a big wedding which with college and career mostly doesn't happen until 30.

History:

depending on culture it meant the bride was leaving her father's home and family to join another or start another. The bride price was not so much paying for a bride but the groom showing he is capable to his father in law of providing for his wife and future children. A dowry was something paid by the bride's father as start up money to help them in their early days say to buy a house or land. Wedding gifts were usually things couples needed starting out such as furniture, bed and so on. Now that's developed into giving cash, so basically wedding guests are paying for the actual wedding they attend.

There are heaps and heaps of responsibilities involving especially the mother of the bride.

Ms_Facesitter · Accepted Answer

Tradition of handing their daughter to the husband, like another man watching over her.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

The usual level of chocolate bitter-edginess in the comments 😆, when there is no laconism, nor abbreviations, nor distribution of bro, bruh and skull-head emojis then... It's not really the stereotypical chocolatetwopointo's persona we know of lol

Yes, it is an old tradition, it implies property/objectification from parents to children, and it's even worse in the case of a daughter, it is inherently sexist yes. The concept of kid as independent individual is fairly new in human history, traditions take a long time to die out, could you be more patient for once? To add some spices to your mix though, taking traditions at face value is not that reasonable because people are not just incarnated social norms, they are more complex than that. In the sense that they can give personal meaning to a tradition outside the social meaning you are looking at.

Okay "bruh" ?

MicahRaine · Answer

Tradition To show that he's happy for her To show that they have a healthy relationship To show that anyone trying to break up the marriage will have to deal with him If Raine and I ever marry, her father will not be invited much less allowed to walk her down the aisle.

Yannae · Answer

It's but tradition! That beautiful moment where your girl is growing up and she's found a man that is good to her and you as a father recognized those qualities in him and after all those years of taking good care of her it is now time for that guy to take over the responsibilities. I, the father, approve and entrust her to you.

paledreams · Answer

Always found it cringey and bizarre also - I understand "what" is unfolding yet I also think to myself "lol, why" aka shrug - like, I'm not always one who wants tradition or wants to change traditions yet some things if they don't gel in my mind, I just figure, "uhh, I'd do that differently". Big ego me 🧠👀

DrPepper12 · Answer

I don't see my daughter having a wedding ceremony at a religious place but will do the ceremony and reception at the same place. I would like to walk her down the aisle and I'm usually a "burn it to the ground" type of thinker when it comes to misogynistic traditions. For some reason it appeals to me as a public rite of passage ritual. I wouldn't be surprised though if my daughter said "I'm doing this solo. Do you mind?" And of course I would honor her wishes.

DerekC321 · Answer

Yes it's an old sexist tradition where women were considered as property and the marriage is a transaction. Like the bed, tables and chairs in his place of residence, she was also owned by the man of the house and given away like currency (which is what they kind of were).

coxoabean · Answer

Shows that he is giving her away. He approves

exitseven · Answer

It is a custom that rhe father gives away the bride. It must be a big deal for fathere to do that.

Anonymous · Answer

because dads tend to be most protective of their daughters more so than dads to sons or mothers to sons or mothers to daughters

gatixek710 · Answer

It's giving over his daughter from her family to form a new one.

Anonymous · Answer

It's a symbol of a man entrusting another man with his daughter.

avery58 · Answer

It's just a tradition thing

Jennz6 · Answer

To give her away

MK1997 · Answer

It's old fashioned and pathetic

zombiewoof · Answer

Make sure she doesn't run

msss98 · Answer

Tradition i guess

Bẽllã3 · Answer

I don’t know

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