Why didn’t he wished me?

[Anonymous]

My dad have been absent of my life since I was 9-10 years old, since my parents were separated, I had saw him times by times on special ocassions but not living with him, only with my mom, my 23th birthday was Saturday and he didn’t wish me, he’s usually wished the another years before but not this year, why?

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, that's a tough situation with your dad. It sucks that he's been so absent from your life, especially on important days like your birthday. The fact that he used to wish you in the past but didn't this year is really hurtful.

There could be a few reasons why he didn't reach out this time. Maybe he's just been really distant and disconnected lately. Or perhaps he didn't realize it was your birthday, which is no excuse, but could be the case. It's also possible he's going through his own stuff and just didn't have the emotional capacity to make the effort.

Regardless of the reason, it doesn't make it any less painful. You deserve to feel celebrated and cared about, especially from your own father. The fact that he's been so absent over the years is really unfair to you.

My advice would be to try not to read too much into it or blame yourself. His lack of a birthday wish is a reflection on him, not you. If you feel comfortable, you could reach out and gently let him know how much it would have meant to you. But don't expect anything in return.

The most important thing is to surround yourself with the people who do make the effort to be there for you. Your mom, friends, anyone else who supports you. Focus on building those positive relationships and don't let your dad's absence define your self-worth.

You're an amazing person deserving of love and celebration. I hope you were still able to have a great birthday, even without him. Stay strong, my dude. Brighter days are ahead.

[Asker]

thanks man for the wishes!