I feel so alone and hurt tonight. I'm also reconsidering my relationship. Can someone just be there for me please?

[Anonymous]

Met the kindest guy in March and started dating in May. We are perfect together but he's very close to his extended family and has lots of friends. It's been hard to feel accepted into his family and his friend group but I feel welcomed into the family now.

He tried talking to his friends and they said they have no issues with me and want to get to know me better. But I've always felt ignored around them in the past and today his parents and brother and I have been working so hard to have this huge party and then they came. And they just ignored me. I was right there and they didn't even say hi to me and just stood in a circle and started talking to the person beside me. I was in the circle too but I felt so invisible.

I tried to hold it in and keep helping my boyfriend and his parents host but I couldn't because I felt so uncomfortable. I eventually asked my boyfriend to drop me home and cried. He talked to his mom and she tried to comfort me but I just felt like being home. I felt so extremely hurt.

I feel so alone right now, so much that I don't even want to be with my pets. I just feel like I want to talk to random people and get everything out. I am emotionally exhausted.

[Anonymous]

Ok honestly you could h e said hi to his friends. It works both ways. I’m not taking their side, but things can go both ways. Have you actually talked to your man about this? Would you consider yourself a shy person, or outgoing? Doesn’t sound like they’re being mean. I know for me as a man takes me a while to actually talk to new people. You’re the new person in all of this.

[Staximus]

If his family already accepted you then that's all that really matters. You don't need his dumb friend's acceptance to feel comfortable or good about yourself, they shouldn't matter to you that much. I think you are overreacting to this situation and need to stop and get a hold of yourself and calm down. Like your mind is running away with itself and you are overthinking all this to the extreme. Maybe you should talk to a therapist or something.

[Nikki1989]

Give yourself space to process your emotions. It will get better.

[slatyb]

Can you get some counseling? I think you are projecting feelings onto others that are not there.

[Asker]

I don't think I am because I can see how they interact with others and how they treat me. I get a very different treatment.

Like today, they said hi to the guy next to me and my boyfriend and I was right there but no one acknowledged me.

[slatyb]

I was a lot like you in my twenties. Finally I realized that it takes two people not speaking to maintain silence, and other people were just as shy as me. If you were hosting the party, it's on you to greet guests you know as they arrive. Try greeting people by name instead of waiting for them to greet you. When I realized this, and started introducing myself and asking people's names, it changed my social life.

[Iron_Man]

You haven’t known the guy for that long it takes time to be accepted by other family members. You have to prove yourself to them like being a good girlfriend and sticking around take some time off and call him

[Asker]

what do you mean? His family is really nice to me. It took some time but now I feel like I'm part of them

[Iron_Man]

Well not according to your question I read this so far

It's been hard to feel accepted into his family and his friend group