Why are people so brutally honest and mean when someone loses a parent?

[Anonymous]

I mean yeah this information shouldn’t be sugarcoated, but you don’t need to be brutally blunt about it. Why make a person feel worse?
The first months after I lost my mother last year, people started to be snarky, joke with me and meaner to me. Some of my cousins were super mean and said a lot of nasty cruel things to me. One said, “Mommy isn’t here to protect or safe you anymore so I can say how I really feel about you! I don’t have to be nice to you anymore. You’re a burden and I don’t really like your ass. I only acted nice because your mom was around now I don’t have too. I never liked you! You’re pathetic, stupid and things were great until you were born. Your siblings look like your beautiful mother but if you look like your ugly dad, then that’s a problem because all people can see is an ugly autistic whore so you use it as an excuse to get what you want. When people use you, you’re going to be a use up potato sack that nobody wants to use. Take that dumbass!” I was shocked about what she said and she ended up slapping me and kicking the shit outta me. I pushed back but her siblings jumped in to kick my ass. I was beat up, cried my heart out and I have no contact with them.
My aunt comforted me the other day and said this to me, “It’s hard losing a mother but you gotta face the facts. The cold ugly truth is death is part of life and we don’t live forever. We’re expected to lose our parents and loved ones. I know it doesn’t help but it’s the truth. You have to UNDERSTAND life isn’t permanent and you have the mindset that everyone will be around forever when they’re not.”

Why are people so blunt with me. I feel like they’re more blunt with me that my siblings.
I asked my older siblings if they’re hanging in there My brother scoffed and said, “What choice do we have? We have to move forward with our lives.
My sister said, “We don’t have a choice! What did you expect?”

People seemed meaner last year than this year.

[Screenwriter]

Dearest: It sounds like you've had a rough year with unpleasant family members. It's very sad these were some of the people you've been left with.

If you're able, find a good therapist to work through your grief over the death of your mother. Everyone KNOWs the facts they touted (though some are simply very dark, ugly opinions). Parents don't live forever, and if you have good relations with them, you're lucky.

But there was absolutely no reason for your family members to physically hurt you or speak so angrily about the loss of your mother. I'd steer clear of them and rely on good friends. Use your therapist as a consultant about how to move forward and to find good people who enjoy you as your emotional supports.

I enjoyed my parents and think of the good times with your mother and how much she made a difference in your life. THAT's the sort of talk family and friends should be engaging in. Since they're not, don't expect anything from them.

But good luck getting support elsewhere. You need it and deserve it.

[rtj1211]

People who need to bully anyone who is grieving the loss of a parent are not worth knowing.

They are cowards, they are really malignant individuals.

You need to ask why you continue to stay in contact with them...

[DryGermanGuy]

Nice creative writing attempt, with quotation marks. Unfortunately not very believable.

[Asker]

All this is true! I’m not lying! Why would I fake about my mom passing away?

[leahzrc]

This world is an evil place

[jahaims]

Things that never happened