I feel inferior to other women :(

[Anonymous]

I matured late, and so was weird at school. I was bullied. It was an all girl's school, so now I just feel inferior around females. When I'm with men, I don't feel this way because at university they weren't nasty.

I feel like a weirdo if my only friends are boys, and I know that I don't have as much in common with them. They want to talk about football.

Today I started making friends with this girl and then this boy started talking to her and ignoring me. He wouldn't even make eye contact with me. He was telling her she should show him round the town etc.

I just feel so inferior. Other girls wear eye shadow, eyeliner and that girl had false eyelashes on. I'm rubbish with that stuff.

I can't talk to my boyfriend about it because he doesn't understand. He just tells me I'm beautiful and 'innocent'... I can't do make up like other girls can and I noticed that I dress differently. Everyone says they like the dress I'm wearing right now, but it's a pink lacey dress. Everyone else wears more simple clothes.

Sorry about this rambling. I've just come home feeling sad :(

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Also, I speak more poshly compared to the people in my area (Essex) and because I"m not confident, I think I come accross as reserved. People ask me if I"m rich (I'm not) so I don't know if I seem unapproachable.


Maybe it is just my personality... This girl at work who I chat to. She asked a customer if she wanted to go to the pub with her after work. I was with her at the time. I'm not the sort of person that people want to socialise with. The only people who want to know me are boys :(

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Thank you very very very much to the four of you who replied. You're really kind and have made me feel better. I really do appreciate your replies and wish I could show that I do.

[Ada-Fae]

You should never feel inferior to other women, because you aren't. Different, in my personal opinion, is better, because you stand out. It sets you apart from other women, in a good way.

And there's absolutely nothing wrong with having mostly male friends, even if you don't have a whole lot in common with them, because it's far easier being around most guys than most girls. Girls are harsh and judge each other on some of the most ridiculous things I've ever heard of.

Think about it this way, since you matured late, you'll probably be the same in the future (you'll age slower, less wrinkles, saggy skin, etc) and you haven't gotten into the bad habit of wearing tons of makeup, which is packed full of chemicals that will do nasty things to your skin.

You sound fantastic to me, and I really, really dislike most girls...

[THE_Godfather]

I went to an all boys school. We even had boy cheerleaders. How gay is that! My friends are all girls. I don't see anything wrong with it, so I don't see anything wrong with a girl having all guy friends.

You must have something going for you. You do have a boyfriend that thinks you are beautiful. Dress the way you want to NOT the way others are dressing.

I also speak a bit differently. I grew up in the inner city of a big city. We kind of have our own way of talking.

I'd be happy that boys want to know you. What is so different or special about having a friend that's a girl.

Cheer up. You at least have friends.

[ThatBritishLad]

Wahey, an Essex lady! Good to see it's the same around there as Surrey :P

I'm assuming that you feel inferior because of the social confidence of other women. I had a similar predicament in Secondary School, where all the blokes where extremely charismatic while I sat back and never spoke xD

I never felt inferior though. In fact, I felt a little superior: I was different, and rather than run in swinging I sat back and analysed. If you ask me, you don't need others to live a happy life :D

Don't picture others as being better than you, look deeply into them and create your own view :)

[AndyTheG]

Having just guy friends is fine, guys are a lot less dramatic and generally more blunt/direct when speaking (instead of talking behind your back) so there is an appeal there. Maybe shows like TOWIE have made Essex girls want to dress a certain way but you really don't have to conform to that, and it doesn't make you inferior. But if you want to learn about makeup there are loads of tutorials on YouTube which I keep accidentally stumbling across haha, good luck, and be yourself :)