Friend is freezing me out?

Question

My best guy friend and I are extremely close- at least we were up until he started dating his latest girlfriend. We'd chat once a week, usually meet for a drink or just hang out at his apartment or mine and watch tv, play cards, etc. Sometimes alone, sometimes with mutual friends. But for the last 2 months, he's completely pulled away. He doesn't answer texts, doesn't text me, rarely answers calls and if I suggest grabbing a drink, he claims he's got something going on every night of the week. Yet he still has time to see our other mutual friends. We didn't have a fight, I don't have a problem with the new girlfriend- I actually really like her and she seems to be fine with me.

We've been friends for years and have both been in and out of relationships in that time- so it's not like it's a new thing affecting our friendship and he's never pulled away like this before.

I just don't get why he's pulling away and it really hurts. I mean, he says he has no time to hang out with me EVER but then I hear about him hanging out with other mutual friends. OK, granted, they're male friends, but it's never made a difference before so why should it now? I'm not really sure what to do- I never get the opportunity to talk to him one-on-one, so it's not like I can confront him and ask why he's being like this.

Any thoughts on why he might do this?

And we've never been romantically involved btw...

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

This sometimes happens.

Girls are often bitches - they don't like their boyfriends have any friends who are girls. All girls are seen as the enemy, and even if you were dating someone, and had never had anything going with your friend, then she would still be overly jealous and want you out of his life.

Your friend is being a bit of a d*** by allowing her to get away with this. I've always told my friends, male and female, that no girlfriend will ever make me turn my back on them.

nealjames · Accepted Answer

My guess is that the girlfriend is not too happy about him having such a close girl friend. We would not know enough information about yours and his relationship to decipher why he is boycotting you. I recommend you just talk to him about it and see what he has to say.