yes I would tell your parents for sure . even if this was her first time drinking . I'm sure its not but you where in charge of her and as her big brother if she is doing something hurtful to her self its your job to make sure it don't happen again . I know you don't want to make her feel like you betrayed her by telling on her but its really for her own good . I'm sure she will get mad at you but she will get over it . loving someone means doing what's right for them . if all you do is talk to her and don't tell your parents she will just do it again . not only that but next time anything could happen . she could have been in a wreck , got raped, or hurt .. ANYTHING could have happen . and if it did you would have wished you would have told someone . DONT wait till next time . in the morning ask her what happen last night . tell her how she came home and that you are upset at her for putting her self in that situation . tell her you love her but you got to do what is best for her because you don't want to see her get hurt . I would take her home and make her tell her parents in front of you what happen . if she don't then you tell them . I know you don't want to make her feel like she can't come to you with a problem that's why you need to talk to her about this before telling your parents . drinking is a big deal
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Give her a chance to admit it herself first, then if she doesn't, tell your parents yourself. Talk to her about why it's important for her not to do that (especially being underage in an uncontrolled environment). There's a lot of douche bags out there that'd jump at the opportunity to take advantage of a 15-year-old girl under the influence, much less blackout drunk.
If you're responsible for her, then it's your job to make sure she doesn't put herself in a position to get blackout drunk (again) when you're not there to look out for her (i.e. when something really bad could happen @ an unsupervised party). This is easier to achieve if your parents know she's capable of such behavior.
Note: I'm not saying come down on her (or tell your parent so they can), I'm saying *damage control* for future incidences is the priority here.
Your sister needs to be the one to tell your parents as well as you should have a serious talk with her. She shouldn't be partying out like that at all at her age. If she doesn't say anything then you need to. Because that is VERY dangerous of what she did. And if your in charge of her well being then your equally responsible. God forbid she had been raped or kidnapped. You wouldn't have known if you wasn't with her and it's bad enough she wasn't sober enough to stand properly. Dranking is very dangerous when you can't hold your liquar and you don't know what your doing.
First, communicate with her without yelling or getting angry. Try to tell her the consequences. Ask her what would happen if someone found out. Let her know you are worried. This is a good chance to get closer to your sister. But don't regret it if she won't listen, because siblings have a habit of not listening to their siblings.
I don't drink, and I never will. But what are the reasons that you don't want her to drink? if they're compelling enough, then maybe you can convince her. Otherwise not telling your parents will make a possible bad future scenario involving underage drinking. But you also have to know that you or your parents might not be able to convince her to stop drinking. That doesn't mean you shouldn't try though.
Yea, tell your parents. You're attempting to parent her yourself right now. Let your parents do it instead. That's their job and that's what they want to do.
Don't listen to the girls saying not to tell. They are putting themselves in her shoes. Your parent's trust is much more valuable than your sister's.
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I'm your sisters age, and if you told my parents I would feel betrayed by you...
I think your best option is to wait for her to sober up, and then talk to her. See what exactly happened, and make sure that she understands it can't happen again.
If it does then tell your parents.
This way she will have more trust in you, and probably ask for help or advice if she ever needs anything.
If you told your parents they will probably ground her and be disapointed (thats what my parents would do), and then she will feel like she can't trust no one, because you told them.
Just talk to her honestly and openly, and then decide.
Good luck! :)I don't think you should tell your parents. I mean I'm not saying that it's good to get drunk, but if it was just once then maybe you should have a talk with her and inform her about how dangerous getting drunk can be for your health and safety. Don't be really angry with her or scare her, but try and be mature about it and make sure that she won't do it again (or that she can drink but won't get so drunk to the point where she passes out). Since you and your sister aren't that close, maybe doing this to protect her and show her you care can build your relationship with her :) xx
This is a tough one. I agree with my fellow commenters. If she is the type to get sh**-faced drunk often I would tell your parents, but if this was out of the ordinary...a one-time thing, I would keep it between the two of you AND give her a lecture yourself.
Then again, if you decide to keep her secret, but she doesn't get why you are upset at all and gets mad at you for pointing out her stupidity...then you have to tell her parents. It has to sink in one way or another. Good luck!If this is the first time she's done it, don't tell your parents but tell her that if it happens again you will, and tell her how dangerous it is for someone to be getting drunk at that age. Her body isn't ready to handle things like that yet. If you just get her in trouble, she'll be mad and will likely lash out and keep drinking.
since you are in charge of her..tell her you must tell your parents out of responsibility to her and to them..if you dont,she will think she can do it again and it may not turn out so good next time...young kids should not drink,many have died due to alcohol poisoning,you telling on her will and can save her life. Do the responsible thing
If you believe this is her first offense, keep it confidential. Once she's awake and sober, tell her what happened, lecture her on the dangers of drinking too much (poisoning, rape, drunk driving, getting a reputation, etc.), and point out that you or her friends may not always be there to babysit or rescue her when she gets drunk. Should you catch her doing it again, parental control is in order.
Is she the kind of girl who would do this again? If not, cut her some slack. (But not after a lecture of the dangers of blacking out, such as rape, alchohol poisoning, etc.) If she's starting to turn into a party animal, some strict parental attention might be good for her.
She needs you to keep this confidential. That way you'll be able to wield more influence over her than your parents could've. Be sure she unerstands how dangerous her drinking was. Rape, death by choking on vomit, exposure to cold, abduction all come to mind.
Im reading the comments...a lot of them saying don't tell BUT if she does it again? are you all kidding me...IF she has the chance to go do it again...she could over do it and this could be FATAL for her...trust or no trust...his parents TRUSTED him with her and HER to do the right thing..the little sister already broke the trust,so everything else is cancelled out and she must face the music.For her own good.We can not put this on her big brother.
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I would cut her some slack this time, If it starts to happen more often or it makes you really uncomfortable tell her that, and that you're not going to cover for her next time, then she knows where you stand.dont say anything-ppl make mistakes-having a parent lecture won't do anything-tell her how scared you were-if she does it again take a video of her acting bad and she will be embarrassed and never wana do it again
You need to be a responsible care giver right now, and tell your parents because they need to know in order to prevent this from becoming a bigger problem its better to safe than sorry and remember the right thing to do isn't always the easiest.
Talk with her of course but she should tell her parents, if she doesn't tell then you should.
I once got that drunk and I can tell you I never will be again. Perhaps she also learned her lesson about it herself?Give her some time, if she is going to go out again let your parents know there was alcohol at the party and she was really messed up. When they ask why didn't you tell us sooner you just say I didn't know what to say lol
If she doesn't talk to you. then tell your parents. Hear her out of course there is no good reason for her to get drunk but try again and talk to her.
Not unless she got f***ed drunk. But you should tell your sis she is a problem an you cannot protect her drunk ass.
hey man I'm 18 I still havenot been tempted to touch drugs or alcohol, be a good example to her if it means telling your parents
When my big sis got blackout drunk one night while watching me I called 911 and after the emt's took her to the hospital I called mom and dad. My sis almost died that night because she got so drunk. Its a good thing I made the call.
If this is the time don't say anything but if it keeps happen then tell your parent since she is underaged.
Your parents will probably notice she's got a hangover.
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