Polls: Family & Friends

Should I stay in my expensive condo or move to a cheaper hotel, considering my uncertain future with my boyfriend and my desire to move Canada next year? “Please vote and leave comments below.”

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Before, I was homeless, unable to afford a place. Now, with a better income, I live in a condo. Despite the expense of 1500 rent. I'm content because it's close to work. However, my job is affecting my mental health, and the country's racism makes it hard to belong. My brain and body is already asking me to find a new job. In Malaysia I work, I felt lonely really lonely until I met Hamzah, with whom he become my boyfriend for over a year. But, he is returning to Iraq after his PhD on August this year. I felt afraid if ever he will come back as he is also clueless of his future.

I'm torn between staying in my current condo or moving to a cheaper hotel as my contract ends this May. Should I stay or move considering my uncertain future and desire to move to Canada?

If I stay in condo I can only save 2500 with strict discipline and in hotel I can save 2900. 400 difference per month.

Like what would u want her to do and would u help her raise the baby. Bare in mind she’s gonna cut off her freedom big time

I dislike that my boyfriend appears to ONLY value men’s opinions. Anything I or any other woman says to him goes in one ear and out the other. But let a guy say the same thing and he's all ears and ready to take the advice.

Anyways, it made me question whose opinions I tend to value? I am very stubborn and not many people can get through to me. I can only think of one girl who has just really gotten through to me but I guess I notice that it’s mostly been guys, thus I value men’s opinions more.

I don't know if my guy simply values the male view more because he’s so insecure and intimidated by other men, which he says all the time. But I value the guys perspective because I want to know how to captivate, communicate with, and better understand the gender that I’m attracted to.

Some may call that a “pick me” but I don’t consider it the same thing. I feel pick me’s seek validation while I more so want advice and guidance. Who better to understand a guy I’m into than a guy himself?

If I wanted advice on how to improve my appearance, dress style or to better control my emotions, then I’d seek a woman’s advice since we better understand one another’s insecurities and reactions. I rarely ask other women for advice on guys though because so many take it as competition to go after that same guy. Its so weird. Girlcode always seems to go out the window.

Another thing could be that I grew up looking up to my grandpa more than anyone else. I also got along best with my male cousin and my uncle. My friends have always been 90% guys. Like, my mom held it down for a bit but her inconsistent behavior and broken promises really got to me. So I stopped looking up to her. Maybe she, my grandma and a bunch of flaky female friends and cousins ruined it for other women too.

Some men have wronged me but never as many men as women. I guess same can be said for my boyfriend since he feels more women have wronged him yet all I ever see these days is men treating him badly. #FeelFreeToList

Your 21-year-old daughter tells you they want to make money on OF (Only Fans) and they are going to start an OF account, what would you do?

if you already have some, at what age did you have your first?

for me i think at earliest late 20s, but ideally more like later early 30s-mid 30s

In conversations would you say you talk or listen more? I find I listen a lot and don't really say much unless I need to, once I get to know the person I'm a bit more talkative, how about you? 😊

I hate my cousin and his family. They r just being problem and very brainless people, all of them. I got so angry at him that i imagined he is craving in pain as i crumpled the plastic bottle. Do u have some rituals like this? I wanna gain power to handle with these people that r harming me.

One of my grandmother's died when I was two, so I don't have any memories of her or her passing. Apparently, I didn't go to her funeral because my dad didn't want me to go. I understand his reasons for not wanting me there because I was a hyper, rambunctious child and it probably would've been even more of a headache for my mom if I had been there. But I also understand that my mom wanted me there because it was her mom and I was one of her only grandchildren.

What do you think? Do you care if small children attend a funeral or not?

If an aggressive animal or monster was heading towards your child's direction, would you get in between? This means accepting you're literally dead meat. 100% chance your child is saved but 80-90% chance you'll die. If you survive you're going to suffer serious injuries.

Meanwhile your child is safe (as the animal or monster got distracted by you, going after you instead) and ran to safety, you're either badly injured, mauled to death or devoured. If you're a grandparent, same... would you do that for your grandchild?

I read on a forum about a 25 year old female who has 3 kids which she is raising herself as a single mother

She’s also 25 years old

Am I the only one that finds that gross 😂

They are typically the ones that grow up to be successful (even get married and have kids), moved on as if nothing ever happened and never once reached out to their former victims of their bullies. In fact, in you even confront them about it years later, they suddenly don't remember anything. They would even greet you as if you were some friend or acquaintance they had a good time with or greet you as if meeting you for the first time, lol.

Seriously are they actually narcissists? What do you think?

Usually a women who is the worst to all but her select few who she kinda likes while stabbing every one else in the back. Bringing down her entire department but being nice and fun

to the men above her.

My sister and me both have the worst bosses when they should be leaders and let us work not micro manage in the worst ways.

Vote on a favorite if you'd like. I'd like these all for my kids, but my husband doesn't like a few of them. Do any sound bad?

If it was accident , how did it happen?