Are many unremorseful bullies actually narcissists?

[Anonymous]

They are typically the ones that grow up to be successful (even get married and have kids), moved on as if nothing ever happened and never once reached out to their former victims of their bullies. In fact, in you even confront them about it years later, they suddenly don't remember anything. They would even greet you as if you were some friend or acquaintance they had a good time with or greet you as if meeting you for the first time, lol.

Seriously are they actually narcissists? What do you think?

Yes

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+1 y

I think if you can forget about treating someone like garbage, never inviting them to your social hang-out nor your parties, tormenting them so badly and think that's ''having a good time'' and then greet them as a friend once you're both adult, you're delusional.

[Vesuvius87]

Yes, people like that don't change. They just get better and are more subtle as adults. At some point, bullying others and developing no empathy isn't a mistake but a personality trait. It's a repeated pattern. There is just some flaw within you if you really don't see anything wrong with using any type of intimidating to coerce power over others.

[Vesuvius87]

intimidation

[Anonymous]

Actually, anyone that thinks a bully owes you an apology is the narcissist. Not everything is about you. Yes bullying is wrong, but it happens. It's not a nice world out there. The sooner you accept this the sooner you'll be able to take this world's punches and keep moving forward.

[Asker]

Well no because in the apology has to be coming from them on their own. Otherwise a forced, insincere apology is even worse; now that would be a legit narcissist.
I was never the victim of bullying but know someone else who was. I just don't understand how anyone can feel happy and enjoy it all at the expense of someone's misery.

[Asker]

and then move on as if nothing ever happened..

[Opinion Owner]

Toxicity. Some people didn't get enough hugs growing up, and it shows. To some people everything is black and white competition. I have a friend that is that way. He's not a bully per se. But he always has to be top dog. And he wouldn't above bullying to achieve his objectives. I feel bad for him. Because I know this is ingrained in him. He'll never change. But I also know to keep my guard up around him. Because there is no such thing as trust with him.

[Asker]

Yeah but in the victim's case, the bully had it all at home. What can be about a bully that really has no reason to bully, they have good parents who tried everything possible to raise a decent person, there was nothing lacking at home, they were given love, they weren't abuse, they even do well at school but still bully others?

[Asker]

Those are the bullies I'm referring to. Those types have no insecurity issues and aren't the ''neglected kid that didn't get enough love at home'', nope. They received love at home, grow up in stable house with both parents, they have no reason to bully but still do.

[Opinion Owner]

No insecurities that are visible. Trust me they have them or they wouldn't be bullying.

[handsomelad70]

LOTS of them.

[OtterMan68]

Like Trump?

[Vesuvius87]

I've heard he used to bully others during his school years. They don't change. As adults they are just more subtle (not as direct as when they were young) in their bullying strategies.