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If the body fits the style I say why not? ... but she still must act as your mother rather than just a friend... cause then that is weird to me... and also regardless of age or style, one must dress appropriately for the occasion... for example you wouldn’t wear that stuff to church or family gatherings and such... but to the mall, park or brunch type of thing sure, why not if it looks suitable..
I strongly dislike when people, women in general start cutting their hair off at a certain age making the, selves look even OLDER and dressing like grannies just cause others or themselves say that they can no longer wear this or that cause they are old now lol... I mean If their body got bad and they look old then yeah dress to your body... but if you are older and don’t look older why ruin your image while you can still wear nice stuff? I forbid my mom to look like a grandma lol I said you never never chop of your hair like all my aunts cause they look super old! And she looks drastically younger than them simply for just having her long hair..
It if your mom is acting like teenage drama queen then that’s weird... she should still be a mom... and while she can dress nice and be cool with you, there is a limit in my opinion...
It depends. If by like a 20 year old you mean skinny jeans, funny colors, haircuts, makeup and stuff like that then I think it's fine. But very short skirts and cropped tops are a bit much, but not in your 30s, but if you're 40+.
After an age you need to dress a bit more classy than in your youth. That doesn't mean you need to dress like a nun, but you need to show the right amount of skin. Some girls in their 20s wear cropped tops and butt short shorts on the street... I wouldn't want my mom dressed like that...
It's rather normal when people get older they want to break out of their comfort zone that have built. They get tired of the same routine they have had for the past several years.
The only real danger is when they go too far. I have seen people who no longer had a youthful look, nor the body, trying to dress like a teen. Totally ridiculous looking.
A lot of the time the person will go to one extreme, then tone it back a little and find a happy medium that is something youthful and stylish, but also age appropriate.
Wait, hold up...
I thought it was MEN who were so judgmental in telling women what they should or shouldn't wear? Why do I see so many women criticizing each other, and criticizing men, too, while the majority of men don't seem to give a rip what people wear?
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I’m 36 and my daughters 13. I had her when I was 23. I worry about what to wear and feel I should dress appropriately being a mother and don’t want to look like I’m trying to look young. That being said, I look quite young for my age and have been mistaken for my daughters sister more than once and my daughter tells me I dress like a grandma lol and encourages me to dress more like this and this is coming from someone who is not at all girly and she likes to wear hoodies, Doesn't like wearing dresses or skirts or pink and shops mainly in the lads section so if she is telling me to dress more like this then I would say it’s normal yes. I spent most of my 20’s and now my 30’s taking care of her as I’m a single mum and it is hard and from time to time you feel really down on yourself as you know your getting older. I can also be a big kid sometimes but also know how to be a mother despite my daughter wanting to tell everyone I’m her sister lol. Let your mother be herself and encourage her to do so because your encouragement and her dressing up will make her feel so happy and will bring some light into her life, Especially with your support as your the most important person to her. I can imagine it being hard and heartbreaking for your mother if you don’t support her or pull her down for doing this because your her baby and no matter what she says she cares what you think and most probably doesn’t want to embarrass you. Enjoy it and enjoy time spent with your mum. Me and my daughter are mum and daughter but also have a best friend relationship too and so lost my mum two years ago and she dressed way worse than this up until past her 50’s and would walk around the house naked and she was the most confident and vibrant woman I’ve ever known. I used to tell her to dress more appropriately but after she got dementia and died ten years later, I finally realised that I missed that about her because it was her and it was who she was. Sorry if I bummed you out but at the end of the day none of it matters, Just that your mum is there for you and treats you well and you have those fun moments to share with her. I would love to have those moments back again. I notice this is an old post so I hope you had fun with your mum and still are :)
This is hard to answer because this is something that many people see differently. On one hand, obviously she can wear whatever she wants at whatever age because there's 50 year old women wearing Winnie the Pooh t-shirts lol. So, sometimes it's just personal choice. On the hand, I can understand why being young you wouldn't want your mom dressing like you because she's your mom and it's weird. So, I completely understand.
As far as normal is concerned, obviously it's not the average trait of most mothers. However, some people who feel they were shorted out of their teens and twenties because they had to take on adult responsibilities, tend to claim their youth when they get older much to the dismay of their children. Though people might not realize it, a parent acting or dressing like they're a teenager again when they have a teen, can take a toll on the child. So, if it really bothers you, you should talk to your mom about it and explain why it's disconcerting to you. Maybe that would help.
It's totally normal. If she is making you uncomfortable she should be willing to take a step back and talk it out with you. If she is not stealing boyfriends or trying to take over your life, then she is still acting normal and healthy.
Young moms give up a LOT when we have kids. We essentially have to skip many of the fun years and mature too early. Once you guys get older, and more independent, all of that youth that we repressed starts to come back. I had my kids right after high school, and I did not make it nearly as far as your mom before I snapped back and started acting younger again. Might be because I spent too much of my childhood having to act too old.
My advice is to respect her sacrifices and support her reclaiming some of what she lost. Understand that she is including you because she likely adores you! You have been a huge part of her life for almost half of her life! It would mean the world to her if you were supportive and enjoyed the extra friendship and attention from her.
You should also consider why it makes you feel uncomfortable? Maybe you are just not used to it, but perhaps you could also benefit from it? Like I said, if she truly oversteps, then you should worry. If she's just being friendly then great!
I would be uncomfortable, just like you. This is probably because she didn't get to act young since she was taking care of you (not your fault). The social media part is what concerns me most. Adults can have social medias, but not to use it with your friends. I wouldn't discourage her with the fashion, I would help her pick outfits that suit her best (not crop tops or short shorts, help her pick something else that's cute/sexy). If it makes you uncomfortable that she's talking to your friends via social media regularly, I would tell her.
As a "attractive " (subjective I know) looking older woman with a daughter myself... my take is this... If it suits her and she feels sexy... why not? Women dont suddenly become a different species at 40 or 50. We do not live in Saudi Arabia and she is a grown woman. The issue for me though is that she's stealing YOUR style.. which is invading your identity at a critical stage where you are still busy forming it... That's the real issue. My daughter has decided that her "thing" is the sporty look. I dress how I want to but steer clear of anything vaguely approaching her style... Perhaps talk to your mum about it (if you too have a free relationship).. Just my two cents worth... :)
If your mother has the body, then she should dress like you - She is using you to gauge what is " In Style " now. The most important thing is that she is happy doing these things you write about. Help her and encourage her. I can understand that you question this - She is your mother, that is why it may seen odd to you. It may be better if you only think of her as just another girl, and treat her that way when it comes to your friends and any social media sites you both happen to be on. - The next time you are talking with her you should work into the conversation that you want her to treat you around your friends and on social media as just another girl also. This would take away any mother - daughter conflict or stress that may arise. - If your friends ever ask you about her ( The ones that know she is your mother. ) Just tell them to treat her as just another girl - not your mother. ------- She really is just another girl trying to be happy.
You are mixing a lot of different things together.
Not all 20 year olds dress the same.
36 is not old.
You have issues with someone trying to copy you.
She is your mom.
I don't know if you’ve been paying attention but if you’re online as you say I’m sure you’d see women in their 30s are not retiring their style.
She is not old and whatever she feels comfortable in she should wear.
Plenty of 20 year olds can not pull off certain styles it isn’t about being young but finding what you like and making it work. You didn’t invent social media so if she’s going on it I wouldn’t credit that to you. She exudes before you I doubt she’s copying you. Maybe she wants to bond but it’s hatdly like you’re an original copy. No one is it’s all recycled.
Anyhow she’s free to dress as she likes. If you don’t want to shop with her just tell her.
Seems to me like she's trying to feel like she's young again. Whether or not she can wear the clothes is really dependent on her looks, if she still looks young and have a nice body then it's good but if she doesn't then I'd recommend advising or helping her pick out clothes more suited to her and still makes her feel young and comfortable. by the way when I mean dependent on her looks, I mean like how does she look in the clothes? Does it suit her? I say try to be supportive but put some distance so you still have a part which you can keep to yourself. Or just go talk to your mom and tell her how you feel and ask her why she's been acting the way she is
I think that's really cute, and if she looks good that's all the more reason to flaunt her style! My mom has a youthful spirit too - not in terms of fashion but personality, like she likes to wear pretty dresses, go clubbing and goes on dates. I love her youthful spirit.
Dress however you want to dress!! Who is anyone to tell anyone how to dress? Let people live the life they want, free of bullshit. It angers me that people think they have the right to tell someone how to live or what to do or what to wear etc. If they aren't hurting anyone Let it be!!
My answer is HELL to the yes. If a thirty year old women has a good looking heathy body she can dress like a 20 year old, hell she can dress how ever she wants. 20 and 30 isn't that big of a age difference. It'll be different if there was a women who was about 50 or 60 ish trying to dress like a 20 year old then that'd be a problem.
I know it's probably weird to you (like everything one's parents do) because your her kid but she IS only 36. People often have this notion that at a certain age, you should wear this or do this to your hair or stop doing that but if you're confident in yourself and you feel good about it, then it's her life and you'll just have to deal with it.
Yes, they can, IF they have the body for it and maintain. I have seen women at my gym and studio that are in their 30s who are in AMAZRNG shape. One is a local news person. They can and have pulled off looks that are much younger than their age. It's because they have no excess fat and so they dont look like soccer moms stuffed into their daughters clothes when they dress up and out
Probably because the things around now were not around when she was younger, so she wants to enjoy them before she's too old to. Long as she looks nice and young enough still, and doesn't look like a prostitute, then who cares?
I just hope she doesn't try stealing men off you O_O then that is too far.
By age 36 most women who wanted kids have them and are usually not in the shape as they were when they were 20. Not many look good trying to dress like a 20 yr old, depending on genes and that. I think someone is trying to relive their youth through her daughter. I'm thinking she is divorced? Hang with your daughter and friends and see if you can pick up some young stud type of behavior it sounds like.
Sounds like something that comes with having a young mom. Anyone can dress how they want. Depending on the person the way the look is pulled off varies.
Just because you can dress that way doesn't mean you should-
I'm in my 30s and yeah I can still wear several clothes I used to when I was in high school and college... but I don't because I know it's not age appropriate.
Your mom just missed being a teenager because she had you so young so now she's trying to enjoy her life, lol.
I mean it's weird, but as long as she's not lying about her age and she looks good in it, let her enjoy herself!
A woman's fashion is very versatile, so i will say that it is OK for a 36 y/o woman to dress like 20 y/o. But in your question, there is an additional issue that this 36 y/o woman is your mother. If I were you, I will definitely feel awkward, but I will not do anything about it either. It is her choice after all.
I’m 38, but I will not start dressing in crops and short shorts around my kids. I save that for my vacations and trips without them. I dress sexy but with class. And when I go out shopping I get their opinion on if it’s too young for me or not. I don’t want to be the mother that embarrasses her girls for trying to hard.
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