How long does it generally take you to decide whether someone is attractive to you?

[ItsTheNephilim]

For me, it's around 3 seconds.

1-5 seconds.

5-10 seconds.

>20 seconds.

20-60 seconds.

> 1 minute.

Updates

+1 y

This question is purely based on finding someone attractive based on their looks.

[Anonymous]

A couple of seconds yeah. But the men i've had instant attraction like that with have always been toxic when i've gotten to know them so I don't know... I don't really rely on instant attraction anymore but instead growing attraction. Like I become friends with someone first and then let the attraction grow from how much I fall for their personality and that can take anything from a few months to 1 or 2 years depending on how much time we spend together as friends. I think that's a better foundation for a long relationship too, IF that is what you're looking for. Not everyone wants that obviously.

[Cynicaldreamer]

Way longer than any of the options listed. Are you kidding me: a few seconds? That's just physical attraction, or lust.

I have to gauge how attractive a guy is based on his looks AND personality, or behavior to determine if he's attractive or not. Which takes more than a minute.

[oksurething]

First of all, you need to get your options more consistent.

Second, I think that it takes a while for me, because I rely on personality a lot, so there are some questions that I ask people, and they help me determine whether I find her attractive.

[Magicstar]

I'm lucky, I know what I like. That includes desserts!

[ItsTheNephilim]

Huh?

[Magicstar]

Knowing what is attractive to self is all encompassing.

[Pinay_ako]

takes time for me... but it could mean a few weeks of always being together and genuinely like the person as I get to know more of them.

[Screenwriter]

You can immediately say someone is physically attractive. But whether they're wholistically attractive is another thing entirely. I think you need to talk to them a few hours on a date to see if you have a potential match... Then you need to follow that up by several more dates to delve deeper. It takes some time.

[aWes0MeNeSs]

Until I get to know them. I can think "Hey, he's kind of cute", but won't really think about him again until we get to know each other better. I don't develop a true attraction until I form a personal connection.

[aWes0MeNeSs]

Per your update, it depends. The looks actually become more attractive to me with personality. I can think a guy is cute right off the bat, but it won't be true attraction and I won't really remember him just for being cute. Just "oh, he's kind of cute" and then move on with my day.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Just physical attraction? I can decide that within 5 seconds as long as we're not including personality factors.

[thegirlfromthething]

I voted A, but I’ve been fooled by a suit before and it took me about 20 seconds to realize he was not cute at all.

[wankiam]

on physical attraction it can be that quick for me too but it way well fizzle away as they speak

[wankiam]

@update surely you meany physically attractive as so many other factors can make a person attractive as a partner

[_SOARER_]

3 seconds yeah. But tbh, an ugly/unattractive person can win me over. As long as she has some redeemable physical qualities, e. g. a really nice butt, breasts, beautiful hair, something like that.

[cirno]

Uh i think its quick if we are talking about how the person looks but if we talk about personality it might take a while

[Naxwi]

The initial "she looks cute" moment is in the first few seconds.

But between those 3 seconds and 6 months is the window I've experienced it could take me to become attracted to someone.

[latinabutterfly96]

Yeah, I feel like "attractive" isn't necessarily just being beautiful or handsome on the outside

[Naxwi]

Definitely not (to me). There is nothing that makes or breaks like personality when it comes to attraction.

[TacosRAwesome]

Haven't counted but few seconds unless they open their mouth before that and they speak horribly (either bad sounding voice or being rude)

[latinabutterfly96]

About 3 seconds for most people? unless some people's eyes process things very slowly?

[shomicka]

Can't tell. Sometimes I can tell right away, but sometimes I makes me feel stupid how long it takes me to notice something so obvious

[Ninjazzed]

Anyone can be attracted to a pretty face, what makes them worth keeping is their personality.

[MinaSuzy97]

first glance!

[ItsTheNephilim]

Corrrrrect.

[leahzrc]

a long time like a week of talking to them

[ItsTheNephilim]

Read the update.

[Thatsamazing]

About three seconds, like you.

[Dean269]

Clever person grabs the opportunity in seconds

[Sweetnessxoxo]

For my slow ass maybe a week lol

[ItsTheNephilim]

You need to look at them for a week? Seriously?

[Sweetnessxoxo]

Lol maybe

[ALewis30]

It takes me between 10-30 seconds.

[emmily2396]

A few months