First of all I don't think a child should be wearing anything that actually sexually exploit her to the eyes of people, that makes me want to lust and basically masturbate themselves to death in their mine. Now unless you don't mind that because you want the attention, then that's your business. But your mother is no mother at all. That is bad parenting and she's wrong. Besides abuse and neglect. First of all neither you nor her should have been wearing bikinis at those ages. That is morally wrong. When she's in a double room by saying how she's too fat for one and talked about how she has to be a certain body types of being one. If that's not mental and psychological abuse then I don't know what the hell is. She's going to need to get some serious help for mental. Because that's not parenting.
The only thing I do agree about is that she shouldn't be wearing it. Not because you so cold fat. But because she was way too young. And she's not old enough to be making those adults. When she is out of the house, or at least 18 or 21 then that is a different story. And she has to make her own adult choices and whatever consequences she faces, will be left on her to face. It will no longer be left on her mom. Other than that, you're going to have to really look deep within yourself and ask yourself why in the world do you people find this kind of stuff acceptable.
She is way too young. And if my late mother was alive and found out I was wearing something like that like she said she would have had my butt tore up. And I don't blame her. She can still wear one-pieces and respect her body. Most importantly she needs to learn to respect her body and learn to love her body. Exposing her body like that is no way to love somebody. That's a fact. But her mother shaming her is not helping either. Since you are the one that has been made an example of your mother's hypocrisy, you're going to have to be the one to step up and speak to your mother and let her know where she is wrong. Because if she's not allowed to wear bikini what she shouldn't be wearing in the first place, neither was you supposed to be wearing a bikini. How is she being a mother? That's what you need to do. You need to show her that she is not being right. It doesn't mean you go disrespecting her. It doesn't mean you try to put her in a place by being disrespectful. But you're going to have to put her in her place and some point and step up and say something. Because now your sister is going to grow up to be where she is going to have mental health issues because of that abuse. Tackle the abuse first.
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Your mom sounds a lot like my mom. The same exact words she said to me when I was younger but not regarding to a bikini. But I don’t agree with preteens wearing bikinis so instead I would suggest to your mom to allow the both sisters to wear a one piece bathing suit. Why would children want to wear something like that at that age anyhow? Your mom shouldn’t have said that to your sister as she could have low self esteem issues with her weight, insecurities, feeling like she is never good enough, that the only beautiful is being skinny. Your mom should embrace your sister weight and accept her for the way she looks. That’s something that cuts deep and will follow your sister forever.
As far as to answer you question: yes, I would allow my beautiful large daughter wear a bathing suit. You have to start early in improving body positivity.
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I think he’s she can wear one, as long as it fits and covers what it needs to.
You see so many girls size 20 wearing size 14 and they would just look so
Much better if it was the right size. If your sister has the confidence she should wear it 🙂Your mom shouldn't had done that bc that will probably just make your sister insecure and she's just sending the wrong message. Like she should've just try to help her find a bikini that fits and looks good.
I agree with your mom; your sister will more than likely be made fun of in a bikini if she isn't fit. People can be so cruel at that age.
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