My boyfriend doesn't want me to post on social media, dress nicely and wear make up because my style is not normal?

[cuteangelprincess]

He doesn't want me to post neither my face nor outfits on social media and gets annoyed whenever I am dressed nicely whenever we are outside because ''other men are seeing me'' as well? Same about social media, he said he is not comfortable with guys seeing me in my nice outfits. I have stopped posting on social media to help him with that but then he started telling em how its also annoying him whenever I get dressed for outside since my wardrobe consists of only skirts and alternative clothes, think goth or pink/white. What to do :c

[_Maya_]

What do you do? You dump him unless you want him controlling the rest of your life. Not only is he controlling he also shows signs of major insecurities. Anyone that is that worried about their girl dressing nicely and wearing makeup is insecure. Unless you are happy with him controlling your life then give him an ultimatum that either he knocks off the controlling behavior or you are done with him.

[rachel776]

i agree these are all your choices, not his

[cuteangelprincess]

I do think the same way yet whenever I confront him about the posting issue, he asks me if posting is sooo important to me that I really need to do it. Yet its not about posting something but its about having the right to do my own decision without feeling bad that he is going to get upset with me.. He doesn't understand that part.

[_Maya_]

Then you have a decision. As @rachel776 pointed out this is your choice to leave him or put up with it.

[Alex-Snow]

Great answer Maja!

[Alex-Snow]

@rachel776 I also agree Rachel

[natedawg0620]

@_Maya_ i commend you as being the only woman to reply in such a clear and precise way to convey the seriousness of this situation and how dangerous it will get as she continues to allow him to control her!

I dont know about other men, but it feels good when me and my girl are out and guys stare like fools…

[_Maya_]

@natedawg0620 Thanks! Yeah that is no good. I don't care if it is the guy or the girl doing it. Being controlling is not okay. It also is typically a sign of insecurities. I have never had it happen to me thankfully and never done it to any partner I have had. I like that my boyfriend or girlfriend at the time has a social life. We all should.

[DextroShade]

Sounds like he doesn't want you posting slutty thirst trap pictures and dressing like a whore, how dare he! Seriously though he is doing you a favor by getting you off social media. I refuse to believe that you don't own any modest clothing so stop the cap. If you want to be in a relationship with a man you actually respect then these are the rules; if you still need attention and validation from other random men then be single and to the streets you shall return.

[natedawg0620]

That dude she is dating will end up being violent to women if he already has not… I fear you and him are two peas in a pod…

[cuteangelprincess]

Well first of all, we spoke about posting, at first he wasn't comfortable with some types of pictures. Then I told him I won't do them, then he wasn't fine with other things etc. It's always another reason. On your take that I surely own modest clothes. The answer is literally no. I own 2 pairs of jeans and I wear them to work. Everything else are skirts and dresses. And on your take about ''these are the rules'', what rules are you talking about? I think each relationship has it's own rules, but some things aren't rules because beside the relationship, there is authority over ones own body. I told him its no problem for me if he did post as well. But thank you for sharing your opinion even if its different than my own!

[cuteangelprincess]

@natedawg0620 I think is opinion is quite extreme but not surprising because a lot of men think that way.

[RavVid]

I'd have to see what he is objecting to to answer. I don't know what you think is nice.

[SnowedIn]

Based on this and your other question, he sounds controlling and dismissive and like he doesn't care.

@_Maya_ is right: dump him.

[Miristheiss]

Who gives a shit about social media. You not even having social media accounts is a plus. Social media is a sea of garbage.

[cuteangelprincess]

I agree but its more about me not being able to make decisions for myself in fear of him getting angry with me. For him it first was posting, then I stopped and then he started being angry with how I dress when we go outside

[natedawg0620]

Run… As fast as you can. Once you gave in the first time this will only escalate further and further, you could be in a very dangerous situation

[Avicenna]

Tell him that those are things you decide for yourself

[tolstoysbike]

Your boyfriend is too jealous. he should respect your choices

[Alex-Snow]

Screw him. It is your body, your life a d you get to decide not that jerk. I'd dump him you deserve better.

[IknowthatIdontKnow09]

He is over the top so tell him to cool off

[In_Trance]

Do whatever you feel is right for you