Don't get one! You can do something to memorialize your brother without putting it on your body. You are young now but do you really want to be in your 40's and 50's all inked up? If you just have to have one please put it somewhere no one can see it when you wear a tank top, shorts, or anything else that could hurt you when getting a job.
I think it's sweet of you to consult your boyfriend before making a change to your appearance like that! Normally I'd say forget it since he made it clear he doesn't like them, but since this is a sentimental thing with your brother, that's really not his business. Tell him that you respect and love him but you have decided that this is something you really have to do. Then do it.
tattoos are a pain because you would have to touch them up every few years. they loose their shape and their color after a period of time. and you are trusting someone to put a permanent picture on your body. what if they mess up? and you don't know how sanitary the equipment is. people catch terminal diseases from tattoo parlors often. I say it is risky.
and there are better ways of remembering your brother.
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Dont get em anyway just like that... make sure he knows you're getting it. but like the girls said, talk to him abvout it further. he doesn't see how significant this tatoo is to you. and I alos agree with him, tatoos are kind of unattractive depending on the person, and you don't look like the type who would (no offence) but being tatooless is just so .. pure or innocent or not a rapper I don't know, mmaybe he sees it that way
It's your body so I would do as you want to do but tell him this. Let him know that this is what you really want and that you didn't want to go behind his back and do it. Do you know where you are going to get these tattoos?
That's not bad. However, just remember that tattoos do change over time so if you get anything too small it will become distorted. Also, I would get them somewhere you can cover them up should you need to (job interviews). I have 9 and all can be concealed. Tattoos are for you. I am so happy that you have thought long and hard about what you want and where. I don't believe in getting tattoos because they are "cute". I have a memorial of my sister on me and I wouldn't change it for the world.
ask him one simple question "if I get it are you going to leave?" if he says yes he's too controling(better off finding out now) if no get a temp of what you want and show it off to him and then have a discuion about it (ps don't tell him its a temp right away )
do what makes you happy, I know I personally have five tattoo's and people in my life were opposed to every one of them that I got, but I went with what made me happy
I beleive that a women (or man) has the right to do as they please with their body. Therefore if this is truly what you want, don't let anyone stop you! I hoope that your fiance loves you for who you are and not just your tattoo-free body.
What I think , is that you try to compermise on the placing. that's usually the biggest issue. Tattoos to speak out trashy now and then, but it seems to me you have a very good reason to get one. and if it means something to you then it does matter.
Your a grown woman and he is not your boss. If you want a tattoo go get one, but I would suggest telling your fiance however remember it's your choic weither you get one or not.
Wow! First off I give my condolences to you and your family, sorry about your brother, RIP. This is a tough question though. I myself have two tattoos one is my name which is meaningless and the second is my daughter’s name and birth date. Many people get tattoos for many reasons and yours is a perfectly good reason but it depends on how big the tattoo. And the area. But I say you guys try to talk it out find the real reason weather it is religion or some other reason . But I’d get it
I say f*** it and just go head with it. In your case, the tattoo is not meaningless at all. When tattoos are done nicely, it's a piece of art too! So it's extra meaningful and it's attractive.
I get his side and I think this is a situation where no one's right or wrong. I understand that he doesn't like tattoo's and I've been on his side of the argument... but I also think you should treat your body according to what you want. becasue otherwise you're sacrificing who you are to be with someone who doesn't want to do the same for you. If he loves you he'll put his feelings aside and see why this is important to you.
Find a new man to marry. A nice guy covered in tattoo's who will love you, your ink, and slicing you up on special occasions if that's what your into! - I hope this helps. - j
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Don't get one! You can do something to memorialize your brother without putting it on your body. You are young now but do you really want to be in your 40's and 50's all inked up? If you just have to have one please put it somewhere no one can see it when you wear a tank top, shorts, or anything else that could hurt you when getting a job.
I think it's sweet of you to consult your boyfriend before making a change to your appearance like that! Normally I'd say forget it since he made it clear he doesn't like them, but since this is a sentimental thing with your brother, that's really not his business. Tell him that you respect and love him but you have decided that this is something you really have to do. Then do it.
tattoos are a pain because you would have to touch them up every few years. they loose their shape and their color after a period of time. and you are trusting someone to put a permanent picture on your body. what if they mess up? and you don't know how sanitary the equipment is. people catch terminal diseases from tattoo parlors often. I say it is risky.
and there are better ways of remembering your brother.
Dont get em anyway just like that... make sure he knows you're getting it. but like the girls said, talk to him abvout it further. he doesn't see how significant this tatoo is to you. and I alos agree with him, tatoos are kind of unattractive depending on the person, and you don't look like the type who would (no offence) but being tatooless is just so .. pure or innocent or not a rapper I don't know, mmaybe he sees it that way
It's your body so I would do as you want to do but tell him this. Let him know that this is what you really want and that you didn't want to go behind his back and do it. Do you know where you are going to get these tattoos?
I want the memorial on my left wrist, and the writing (small) on my right forearm.
That's not bad. However, just remember that tattoos do change over time so if you get anything too small it will become distorted. Also, I would get them somewhere you can cover them up should you need to (job interviews). I have 9 and all can be concealed. Tattoos are for you. I am so happy that you have thought long and hard about what you want and where. I don't believe in getting tattoos because they are "cute". I have a memorial of my sister on me and I wouldn't change it for the world.
ask him one simple question "if I get it are you going to leave?" if he says yes he's too controling(better off finding out now) if no get a temp of what you want and show it off to him and then have a discuion about it (ps don't tell him its a temp right away )
I agree...but come on..its your brother...!!!
And its your body..u do whatever you want to!
do what makes you happy, I know I personally have five tattoo's and people in my life were opposed to every one of them that I got, but I went with what made me happy
I beleive that a women (or man) has the right to do as they please with their body. Therefore if this is truly what you want, don't let anyone stop you! I hoope that your fiance loves you for who you are and not just your tattoo-free body.
What I think , is that you try to compermise on the placing. that's usually the biggest issue. Tattoos to speak out trashy now and then, but it seems to me you have a very good reason to get one. and if it means something to you then it does matter.
Your a grown woman and he is not your boss. If you want a tattoo go get one, but I would suggest telling your fiance however remember it's your choic weither you get one or not.
my advice is don't
but it's up to you reaslly.
tattoos are really ugly and can cause health problems too!
Wow! First off I give my condolences to you and your family, sorry about your brother, RIP. This is a tough question though. I myself have two tattoos one is my name which is meaningless and the second is my daughter’s name and birth date. Many people get tattoos for many reasons and yours is a perfectly good reason but it depends on how big the tattoo. And the area. But I say you guys try to talk it out find the real reason weather it is religion or some other reason . But I’d get it
I say f*** it and just go head with it. In your case, the tattoo is not meaningless at all. When tattoos are done nicely, it's a piece of art too! So it's extra meaningful and it's attractive.
I get his side and I think this is a situation where no one's right or wrong. I understand that he doesn't like tattoo's and I've been on his side of the argument... but I also think you should treat your body according to what you want. becasue otherwise you're sacrificing who you are to be with someone who doesn't want to do the same for you. If he loves you he'll put his feelings aside and see why this is important to you.
Find a new man to marry. A nice guy covered in tattoo's who will love you, your ink, and slicing you up on special occasions if that's what your into! - I hope this helps. - j
Do what you want to do with your life and if your fiance does not accept it, then he shouldn't be your fiance.
Come on now. Relationships are give and take. You can't do everything you want all the time. You need to compromise.
It's your body. I'd say you should be able to do with it whatever you want.
do what you want to do, this is something spiritual, meaning ful and healing to your soul. if I were you, I would saw, screw what the fiance thinks.
have you told him why you're doing it? he should understand.
Don't get it, tatoos are ugly, you can't get rid of them and they make you look cheap. Fu ck tatoos.
i don't understand how a memorial tattoo of your brother is meaningless
Well if it's for your brother then it's probably not meaningless. Just talk to him about it. And get it in bright shiny colors so it's not ugly