If you're friend-zoned, just don't pay much attention to the girl and meet some new ones. Then, either you'll meet one you really like, or the first girl will see you with attractive women and wonder if she made a mistake rejecting you, and you'll become more attractive in her eyes.
I simply said fuck it and gave the fuck up. At 32, i don't have time for mind games and bullshit like this. I've aged out of the dating market, I understand i'm not attractive. So why keep trying? Love is for morons and fools.
@Dio1982 LOVE IS FOR MORONS AND FOOLS!!! I will not continue to waste my time looking for love when the message is clear as day that i am not appealing to women, and am not wanted. It was made clear i was a reject in my childhood, and it remains clear to this day that I am unattractive. My opinion stands.
Fact. You are correct 100% Women do not love men. They only love what men have and can offer. There's a reason want a "provider" a "protector" and a "successful" man. That's because they don't love men. They love what men have. Plain and simple period.
Your story is about how you friendzoned some sap and then say its not hard to get out. Your story does not illustrate or prove your point; just the opposite
My point was that your little story had nothing at all to do with your conclusion-they are completely unrelated. On a separate note, how is being your beta , your emotional tampon some level of self respect? Joy for him-he is your "friend" when he wants to be more-and you brag about it.
Girls to stay out of the friend zone flirt with the boy you like. Get it to the point where he feels comfortable with you i. e. holding hands, touching your hair. then ask him otherwise its your own fault.
Great insight, but once in awhile that friend zone does change. But why waste so much time trying to change it... move on stay friends and if it happens it happens
Good mytake.. Its why i vanish after rejection. When i hear "Lets be friends" My response before i leave is "I wasn't interested in being friends, thank you" and i leave lol
Aaaamen! This is exactly why you MUST show and state your intentions from the very first, yes, FIRST date. And aaafter you here the 1st strong hint that its not gonna happen the GET. THE. FK. AWAY.
thank you. i hate double talk. be honest so you don't waste time, but don't be honest bc its creepy
;p
in my opinion, if you HAVE feelings, then enough time has passed for it to be acceptable to have feelings, in which case no reason to be quiet and waste time potentially feeling more , while they may feel nothing. sure, maybe if you wait and stay silent they may magically possibly feel something 6months down the line, they MIGHT. and in that time you could have definitely met 30 other people.
@dragonfly6516 well the way you explain it you made it sound like its our fault if we get friendzone like if it was something that we initiated ourselves under our own control
This is a good mytake on the friendzone but it only covers one side of it : the side after rejection. Some times a girl or a guy will start treating a person like their siblings before the person can actually ask them on a date.
Then you're missing the point of this. If you want more than friendship, don't settle for friendship. Tell them how you feel the very second you realize you like them as more than a friend (unless you've just met them). You cannot be "just friends" with someone that you have romantic feelings for.
To me, friends are family/ brothers and sister. And I don't date strangers. I want to get to know you and be friends before becoming a couple. I know that's unconventional, but I'm not alone in this.
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If you're friend-zoned, just don't pay much attention to the girl and meet some new ones. Then, either you'll meet one you really like, or the first girl will see you with attractive women and wonder if she made a mistake rejecting you, and you'll become more attractive in her eyes.
I simply said fuck it and gave the fuck up. At 32, i don't have time for mind games and bullshit like this. I've aged out of the dating market, I understand i'm not attractive. So why keep trying? Love is for morons and fools.
What? You are a man. You Peak sexual Market value is around 38. You can Pullover Girls aged 22 to 35.
@Dio1982 LOVE IS FOR MORONS AND FOOLS!!! I will not continue to waste my time looking for love when the message is clear as day that i am not appealing to women, and am not wanted. It was made clear i was a reject in my childhood, and it remains clear to this day that I am unattractive. My opinion stands.
Fact. You are correct 100% Women do not love men. They only love what men have and can offer. There's a reason want a "provider" a "protector" and a "successful" man. That's because they don't love men. They love what men have. Plain and simple period.
A guy once had a crush on me and I politely rejected. He accepted it and we were still friends, now we're best friends.
It's not that hard to get out of the friendzone. Might take longer but it's possible.
Your story is about how you friendzoned some sap and then say its not hard to get out. Your story does not illustrate or prove your point; just the opposite
@dmgstarfleet Jealous that you would never reach the level of self-respect that he has?
My point was that your little story had nothing at all to do with your conclusion-they are completely unrelated. On a separate note, how is being your beta , your emotional tampon some level of self respect? Joy for him-he is your "friend" when he wants to be more-and you brag about it.
@dmgstarfleet Where do you get all these conclusions from? Neverland? Have fun there. I'm out of this.
dmgstarfleet she's 16. She's a girl that plays mind games. Let her be.
@Rargueta I'm 16 so I play mind games? Okay.
What I wrote was back in 2017. This is 2018, b. Let that shit be in the past. Calm down lol
@Rargueta the entire time you wrote this, it's already 2018 here so lol nope.
who asked? lol
Girls to stay out of the friend zone flirt with the boy you like. Get it to the point where he feels comfortable with you i. e. holding hands, touching your hair. then ask him otherwise its your own fault.
Friendzone only happens when guys get a case of oneitis. Keeping options open is the key to avoiding it.
Great insight, but once in awhile that friend zone does change. But why waste so much time trying to change it... move on stay friends and if it happens it happens
Pretty good. We call them 'beta-orbiters'. They hang around just HOPING you'll change your mind. Fail all the way around.
Good mytake.. Its why i vanish after rejection. When i hear "Lets be friends" My response before i leave is "I wasn't interested in being friends, thank you" and i leave lol
What if I treat all my friends (male and female) as if they were my partner? Some people (including me) just loves to be servile, you know?
I agree that you shouldn't blame anyone for being "friendzoned" in that case, though.
Aaaamen! This is exactly why you MUST show and state your intentions from the very first, yes, FIRST date. And aaafter you here the 1st strong hint that its not gonna happen the GET. THE. FK. AWAY.
The best myTake on the friendzone that I've ever seen.
"... don't go professing any feelings, because that would be creepy."
And chosing not to be creepy holds the risk of being friend zoned. ? or not?
thank you. i hate double talk. be honest so you don't waste time, but don't be honest bc its creepy
;p
in my opinion, if you HAVE feelings, then enough time has passed for it to be acceptable to have feelings, in which case no reason to be quiet and waste time potentially feeling more , while they may feel nothing. sure, maybe if you wait and stay silent they may magically possibly feel something 6months down the line, they MIGHT. and in that time you could have definitely met 30 other people.
.. so yes friend zoning is real it's just you either accept and stay or accept and decline it.
This is so true. If you can't handle the friendship then just move on. Such a simple solution.
so is there a way we can choose not to be friendzone?
Yeah walk away when your rejected simple
@Jonestaylor16 in case you didn't noticed I was being sarcastic. this whole article is based on nothing but ignorance and nonsense.
seriously how the hell is it YOUR fault for your crush not to like you back?
True true, lol I never was very good at sensing sarcasm you know, kinda hard to see facial expressions through a keyboard.
@Jonestaylor16
they just mean its your decision to stick around and be gutted by it, rather than go away. its no ones fault , including your crush.
@Jonestaylor16 I have Aspergers so I know what its like to be in your shoes.
@casanorba "seriously how the hell is it YOUR fault for your crush not to like you back?"
It's not, but it is your choice to stick around hoping for more than friendship after they have rejected you.
@dragonfly6516 well the way you explain it you made it sound like its our fault if we get friendzone like if it was something that we initiated ourselves under our own control
@CashNorba No, but I feel like you're trying to insult me in some way.
Yes the friend zone is real but I myself don't like the friend zone when it comes to females I want her as my girlfriend
I wouldn't hang around after a breakup thats just weird
No one said anything about a breakup, I'm talking about being rejected when you ask them out.
Oh, yeah thats what i meant, typed the wrong word lol
This is a good mytake on the friendzone but it only covers one side of it : the side after rejection. Some times a girl or a guy will start treating a person like their siblings before the person can actually ask them on a date.
Then you're missing the point of this. If you want more than friendship, don't settle for friendship. Tell them how you feel the very second you realize you like them as more than a friend (unless you've just met them). You cannot be "just friends" with someone that you have romantic feelings for.
To me, friends are family/ brothers and sister. And I don't date strangers. I want to get to know you and be friends before becoming a couple. I know that's unconventional, but I'm not alone in this.
Most guys chose the friendzone in hopes that going the friend route would win her over. They never planned to be stuck there
Works like charm!