What the F*ck is “Rizzing”?

[ManOnFire]

Aaaaaaaaaaand ladies and gentlemen, we have another reason why social media is garbage that is bad for you. It’s called “rizzing.” And what the fuck exactly is “rizzing”?

“Rizzing” is a stupid-sounding modern day terminology for trying to smoothly charm or talk up a girl…..which is basically just a dumb way of saying "flirting." Maybe it’s been out there for a few years now, but all I know is I started seeing reels for it on IG last year and I find it to be incredibly ridiculous, and although I do think some of it is staged and the women were already spoken to before, that's still not the point.

It looks like an excuse for a bunch of guys with little to no experience with women to try to build their confidence or try their luck at asking women out behind the guise of it being social media entertainment. I cringe at this stuff. They’re not fooling anybody. Is this how bad it's gotten now for a guy to feel brave about talking to women? To film themselves on social media doing an ages-old thing correctly called flirting but treating it as if it's an unusual feat to win at? Or they think they're teaching other guys how to flirt? Fucking pathetic.

And of course, this moronic term was coined by a social media “influencer:” Kai Cenat. The Twitcher who also stirred up a ruckus a few years ago in NYC by announcing that he was giving away a PS5, having the streets massively flooded with followers who heard the word. Seems to be that anything these lowlife social media “icons” think up, people will follow.

Advice for guys

Dudes, please for the love of God do not feel afraid of talking to a girl or asking her out if you like her. I know many girls - and feminists - want you to be scared and be afraid of being labeled as a “creep” or a threat, but there is no crime or evil in asking a girl out that you know and like. It's normal human behavior. Please do not be one of these social media losers going out on the streets “rizzing” up random females to try to build their own weak confidence or think they might actually strike gold with one. That's how you get yourself in trouble and it's absolutely stupid.

A lot of guys don’t approach females anymore for fear of her trying to depict him negatively, but the key thing is that you don’t walk up to women you barely know and ask them out. You ask women you are either already familiar with, or things just clicked right off the bat with you and a girl and she’s clearly interested in you. Your average female at the gym, the bus stop, or the bookstore is just waiting and hoping to say some guy is being a creep or assaulting her, so you obviously don’t talk to them. But there are plenty of chicks around who you already know or see all the time and can try to build from that. And that doesn’t have to be your co-worker either.

End rant. Good luck.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

It’s amazing how these mother fuckers nowadays have to use shit like Rizzing to socialize with people. I miss the times where people would simply talk to one another & introduce themselves with being in video or holding a phone.

[ManOnFire]

THANK you

[Static_In_The_Attic]

You & I are lucky we grew up in a different generation & although we are only a few years apart we didn’t do all this bullshit people do nowadays. Rizzing is for retards. Today it’s all about followers not friends, it’s so sad.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

https://youtu.be/ZuxINiw2smI?si=aWSs91eNgTJIlir3 Between the rizzing retards, InstaSpam freaks & YouTubers. Speaking of YouTube this would make your day, it made mine.

[ManOnFire]

I remember when this happened and I honestly understood where the guy with the gun was coming from.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

As for Rizzing or any video crap like that I think laws need to be passed protecting people from the video freaks coming up to you. I know a lot of people claim it’s a public however a lot of people have to realize that they are videoing on private property.

[queenofcardio]

Sounds so stupid 🙄

[ManOnFire]

Just watching the "rizz cam" vids are so incredibly cringe. You can tell these are guys who do not talk to women very much or often and are trying to just seem smooth and natural, and it's not working.

[Chazmatazz269]

“Riz” was extracted from chaRISma.
I agree that the way young people participate isn’t always charismatic. It’s a dumb new world out there.
Can’t wait for the meteor!

[HawkPerception]

I hate that term and never use it. It's pretty distasteful hearing others use it too. These new generations come up with the weirdest shit. The thing my generation came up with was Yolo and that isn't bad to me.

[Finchie40]

I agree it is just another stupid word that was made up

[Summeroflove]

This is more of a question then a mytake. But…. Pretty much it’s just being able to get girls or for girls getting dudes. That’s it.

[Adam_INTJ]

Tell me you haven't asked a girl put in a decade without telling me that you haven't asked a girl out in a decade.

Rizzing is more synonymous with what the pickup community would call "cold approaching."It's not trying to take your friendship to the next step or finally invite your cute coworker to dinner. It's going from complete strangers to figuring out a date. Sometimes it refers to that, but the cold approach is more often the meaning.

You think "oh but that's just normal flirting." No. Banish this thought. Regular flirting as an everyday occurence died a sudden, painful death in the past decade. You would have had to be very far removed from the dating scene to have missed that.

Three things killed it:

1. Labeling men.
The normalization of labeling men "sexual harassers" because of women who either like drama or are easily offended ended up convincing men that it's better to avoid the girls rather than risk a police report. The #metoo movement contributed here. Every attempt to flirt risks getting a police report or nasty rumors being spread about you on social media for all to see.

2. The technological atomization of society.
We have no community spaces anymore. People used to meet their spouses in churches, social functions, and interest clubs. Now that we can just doomscroll at home, those social spaces have faded or died. No flirting to be found.

3. Dating apps
Why risk an awkward conversation when you can swipe into a relationship? Of course, the dating apps (basically Match Group Inc.) Profits from keeping you single, but guys still believe it and swipe instead of talking to girls.

So, cold approach flirting died. Bringing it back to life isn't some normal everyday thing. These guys who you scold for rizzing are doing something radical. They are doing the opposite of what most of their generation does and are taking the risk of getting labeled a creep by social media or mall security.

[sage2021]

Back in the day "The Mall" was THE place to go to meet a guy or girl. It was expected behavior and there were quite a few young people who would go to the mall hoping someone would pick up on them.
I've never been rizzed that I can remember, but it looks more like stranger danger in this day and age with so many crazy people out there.
I think that we might be on the tail end of rizzing. It doesn't seem like it works out from watching the video.
So, to the guys that do rizzing "Relax, don't do it" like that song says.

[ManOnFire]

Yep, growing up it was the mall that was hot and where everybody was trying to date each other. It was a long time thing in American culture, probably being hottest in the 80s and 90s.

[sage2021]

@ManOnFire

Maybe they should bring that back again. That's if they still have Mall's.🙂

[ManOnFire]

Unfortunately a lot of malls have largely become a thing of the past, being replaced by "open air" shopping centers.

[drummerdude25]

Boy, do I have a treat for you.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/RFHziPQBbQc

[ManOnFire]

Funny as shit🤣🤣

[spartan55]

I don't know man, I'm still trying to figure out what clocking is.

[ManOnFire]

Lol. Could mean so many thing.

[TwoDecisions]

You're absolutely right. Before this stupid social media phenomenon there was no slang. No other generations have had stupid ass slang words. Social media and this generation is ruining everything. It's awful. Our generations were a lot better.

[Kaneki05]

I needed this, a boomer to randomly complain about rizz and is using it so... unironically makes my brain zap with laughter in several nerve centers it's amazing.
Thank you truly

[Apulu_backagain]

Ikr, he sounds like my mom talking about 'brainrot memes'.

[ManOnFire]

@Kaneki05 Well, I hope your brain gets better soon.

[Kaneki05]

@ManOnFire It calmed down after a few chuckles, I hope you find more of Zoomer terminology and take them way too seriously to make another rant because I do mean this sincerely that it gave me joy when I saw the title of this question.

[Kaneki05]

@Apulu_backagain Gotta watch out for those!

[ManOnFire]

@Kaneki05 Have you even been successful with rizzing or flirting? Or you just stay home and play games all day?

[Kaneki05]

Umm both? I stay at home all day doing exactly that or watching stuff but I've had many relationships granted it's became stale after I left college more out of choice though?

For future reference that's not how we use the word Rizz, you are using it unironically when it's said in Irony. It's an overexaggerated nonsense word which is why this be funny or you could say it's cringe in the way you use it.

[ManOnFire]

@Kaneki05 I didn't make the post to be ironic or sarcastic, I think that's where you're misperceiving it. I outright asked "what the fuck is rizzing?" and stated how it's dumb young Gen Z terminology for what men have been doing for ages: flirting. But instead it's dumb young Gen Z dudes feel they need to do these monkey stunts to get confidence or a girlfriend.

[Apulu_backagain]

Okay, yeah I mean there are GenZ doing monkey stunt for validation by internet but that's just generalizing that every GenZ dude is like that. We have dumb people from all generations. Rizz is more like a meme term, it's nonsensical and meant to be funny, it is nothing serious. It's more of a mocking term for 'cringe flirting'. No, most GenZ on internet do it just for the sake of the joke, many of them are not retard to do that seriously. It's like genz version of 'smooth operator' from Boomer generation.

Like you don't call a strong man 'Sigma' or 'Alpha' seriously, those are more of a meme term.

[ManOnFire]

@Apulu_backagain Maybe if Gen Z would learn to get the fuck off social media and stop poisoning their brains with all that dumb, useless garbage they would be able to think so much better instead of being so religiously defensive of it.

[Apulu_backagain]

Being playful and joking around is garbage? I think we should let humans be humans.

And it seems like you let internet bother you a bunch too, a simple term is bothering you so much that you're straight up hating on a stranger online. Isn't GAG a social media as well? Are you not saying words that you won't even have guts to say to strangers on street?

No one's being defensive, we're just making our points clear because it doesn't seem like you know the difference between satire and seriousness. If you still think GenZ are so stupid and dumb and genz humour is something not to your taste then it's completely fine, you're entitled to those opinions AS LONG AS you're not hurting or trying to hurt anyone or going around saying that you're opinion is better than everyone else's. You could have voiced your opinions maturely as a proper critic. No one would have complained. No need to be so butthurt over so a little matter.

That being said, I'm sorry if I came off rude in any way earlier. I did not mean to hurt your sentiments at all.

[Staximus]

He's 39, that's a Millennial (after Gen X). A boomer is born between 1946 and 1964, smart guy.

[ManOnFire]

@Apulu_backagain You're saying I'm hating on a stranger online, who was the one who first responded to me with sarcasm. So because I respond back saying where I'm coming from, that makes me wrong. Got it.

[Kaneki05]

@Staximus By using boomer as literal term is proof you are also a boomer. Boomer can be applied to anyone who acts like one being out of touch with the younger generations.
Which clearly ManonFire is not understanding how Rizz is used ironically and is using the word wrongly.

But hey if you want to think you understand our slang better than us be my guest, it's funny.

[Apulu_backagain]

You never told where you were coming from. You straight off ridiculed him and me.

"I hope your brain gets better soon"

"Maybe if Gen Z would learn to get the fuck off social media-"

That sounds like a professional constructive criticism to you? Got it.

According to you he was 'sarcastic', yeah, and the fact that you were pissed off even after knowing he was sarcastic blows my mind. He gave his take in a humourous way and I tried to give my answer respectfully and that pissed you off?

"Got it."

[Staximus]

You're making yourself sound like an idiot

[Kaneki05]

@Apulu_backagain It's alright some older folk don't understand sarcasm nor our slang, not everyone one of them is going to get it but thank you for backing me up.
Leaving them to think they know better than us on our own slang is more funny to me anyway.

[ManOnFire]

@Apulu_backagain Why don't you go back to start to see how it unfolded: he used his rude "sarcasm" initially, then you followed up with: "Ikr, he sounds like my mom talking about 'brainrot memes'." So when I threw it back, neither of you liked it and got in your feelings and felt like I was the one being bad. This is why it is so important for young people to develop self-awareness and think before you speak, because then you will better recognize cause and effect and not get upset when someone responds accordingly.

I stand by my views on "rizzing" and social media. It's amazing to see how you're both willing to fight to the death about useless Gen Z terminology and how it's used. I wonder if other social matters out there needing attention would stir you up this much.

[Kaneki05]

@ManOnFire more you respond more funny it is because you still don't get it and your the one who brought up this question in the first place, expect to get answer from a Gen Z that you are using it wrong but I don't think you get that. Since you're the one with an issue in the first place not us.

[Apulu_backagain]

Joking around lightly is differently than 'joking' about someone's brain or replying in rude terms. If that's 'throwing back' according to you then I wonder how aggressive you usually are when debating about a topic.

The thing is, you wrote stuff here which you need to look for in yourself.

"I wonder if other social matter out there needing attention would stir you up this much".

Funny you comment that, one of us is a writer who voices out anti-war and anti-sexist ideologies and works on books related to that and other one posts multiple questions and refuses to take the truth as the answer. We know which one is which.

[Staximus]

@Apulu_backagain get back to your studies Little Lulu

[Apulu_backagain]

@Staximus I hope you don't go bald, sir. Have a nice day at work.

[Staximus]

@Apulu_backagain thanks, but I was bald by the time you were born 🤣

[Apulu_backagain]

@Staximus now that's the kinda humour I like 😂

[ManOnFire]

@Apulu_backagain You aren't the only here who is a writer, seeing as there are many other things I've written about on here as well. You've also answered my "multiple questions" so does that make us equally insignificant or equally wanting to say things?

In a young person's mind that's "joking around lightly," in reality it is just rudeness with little thought to what you're saying. Neither of you understand that right now, you only perceive it as wrong when the other person pushed back. You aren't going to agree with me and it's fine. You will have plenty more opportunities to learn along the way.

[Apulu_backagain]

That makes more sense.

[WonderingManII]

I briefly read this. The only problem that popped into my mind is that girls can lie about a guy to the cops, and she has a very good chance of being believed.

[ManOnFire]

Right. If both are strangers. But in reality cops/investigators try to dig in and find out if the two subjects know each other or not, and they will ask both sides for their story. Some guy randomly approaching a girl on the street has a higher chance of getting into real trouble than the guy on campus or Sam's Club who already knows the girl and she knows him and decides to ask her out. It's not criminal to ask a woman out. It is if you start stalking or touching her.

[WonderingManII]

I know from experience that even a girl that knew me for 9 years! Flirted with me for 9 years, still accused me of stalking when I all I wanted to do was go up to her and ask her how she was doing! I don't trust women anymore. Sorry.

[ManOnFire]

To be fair, women can and do twist stories because they know people will believe them, but if it actually went into a full blown criminal case, investigators are going to get to the bottom of it.

[WonderingManII]

I heard a guy say on youtube, it is illegal to be a man in the USA.

[ManOnFire]

Females in their 20s and white-feminists would love for that to be true, and they WANT men to be a prisoner of that thinking because it would mean that men are fearing women or what they will do. That is what it really boils down to.

[WonderingManII]

The guy who said that, said it because He's in court cause his ex wife won't allow him to see the kids. He's supposed to by legal rights, yet the court keeps taking her side of things, even though He's done nothing wrong.

[ManOnFire]

And there are a lot of cases like that for sure. The court systems are set up to screw fathers over.

[WonderingManII]

I listened to his 2 hour life story, and his wife was really treating him bad, He had to get therapy, and come to the conclusion that He had to file for divorce. Some where along the line she tried to turn the kids against him.

[heruncommonsense]

it's what i do to James Madison.

[Kingofkings1992]

Kids come up with a lot of stupid terminology. "Baddie", "cap" just to name a couple.

[Jersey2]

Are kids still saying that? That was so last year. 6 7

[ManOnFire]

Yeah still a thing.

[Nik1hil]

It's short for "Charisma" - "Cha-RIZZ-ma" ..

Just Replace Rizz with Charisma and you will understand most stuff

[I_am_a_human]

To me, rizzing is flirting/courting successfully

[ManOnFire]

Or you can just flirt the normal way and still be successful.

[I_am_a_human]

I don't rizz or flirt.

[Anonymous]

It's a loophole in the metoo statutes to allow men to communicate with women which is as banned under the original rulesq judge will remind them it's illegal soon enough

[beefcakebradybatson]

Talking about Seattle Mariners radio announcer (and former Detroit Tigers radio voice) Rick Rizz.

[Phoenix98]

It's a retarded way of saying flirting.

[lady_yumejoshi]

If I remember correctly it's taken from cha*ris*ma but it still sounds stupid as fuck