Why do some girls "fake" flirt with guys?

[Doofey]

I was wondering the exact reason or even the justification of why girls do this to other guys. To be clear what I call fake "flirting" is when a girl, often very popular, will approach a needy guy with poor social skills and ridiculously flirt with them, putting their hands on them and loudly asking them awkward questions. I don't know if they think it's fun or if they enjoy making a guy squirm but I think it is a horribly cruel thing to do. Many times I have seen it happen, a girl or group approaches him and "hits" on them. Not only do both parties know she is not interested at all but she forces them to react and they often have no idea what to do. It makes them feel stupid, awkward, and humiliates them in front of everyone. They often ask questions loudly so everyone can hear as well. To be clear I am not talking about and have no problem with a girl smiling and talking to an antisocial guy, opening him up and probably helping with his confidence. Though I'd like to hear your reasons if you do this or why you think it is done, I seriously hope you'll stop.

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To clarify what I'm talking about to some of the opinions. Think about this analogy. I ask you to give me a detailed description of quantum field theory. As these guys have no experience with the subject of flirting, the analogy will assume

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That you cannot tell me you don't know quantum field theory. If you avoid the subject I pursue it and ask why you haven't answered. Also assume everyone around you knows the answer like it is common sense and they are listening for you response.

[Anonymous]

I think it depends on the girl, I've never seen this happen myself so I'm just going by what you wrote...
1. The girls are being mean, because they're assholes. (This is a tiny percentage)
2. One of the girls in the group actually likes the guy, he's been brought up in conversation within the group and becomes a popular topic. But the girl doesn't know how to approach him, is too scared to approach, so the most popular one (generally the leader, i. e the one with the most real or pretend confidence) will approach and flirt, along with the group to provide an opening for the girl that likes him. But she doesn't know what to do, things get weird, and eventually the group leaves after much awkwardness. (A bit bigger percentage)
3. The popular girl likes the guy, is worried her friends won't approve so she makes it out to be a joke. She goes to flirt with him, so she actually can talk to the guy (cause she likes him) but cause her friends are around she has to talk really loudly to make it seem fake. It's awkward and weird again. (same percentage as before)
4. Girl is loud, overly friendly, just wants to talk to the guy and figure him out, and is totally unaware that she is freaking him out and making a bit of a scene. (Big percentage)
5. She's really insecure, so she won't flirt with the popular guys, but once to feel wanted so she flirts with the quiet guy. It's not that she's trying to embarrass him, it's just that she's not even thinking about him. Too busy worrying about how she's coming across. (The majority)
6. Everyone else and their reasons

Hope that helped:)

[Opinion Owner]

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[Xoxoxo2000]

Usually if a girl who is usually popular "hits" in a guy who is probably a "nerd" to them is probably a joke or a dare. This has happened to me millions of times not by being a nerd but because I'm quiet and have recently started to be around the more popular girls. It's annoying when guys do it so if a girl "hits" on a guy, it's probably just a girl being an asshole to
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[rUinSAYAN]

lol.

[isaynononono]

these kind of people have a huge low self esteem. They need other people to make them feel better about themselves. Like leaches or vampires, they feed on others. Man can do that too, just in a different way.

[Jager66]

It's another form of bullying that stems from TERRIBLE parenting.

Women begin learning relational aggression at about age 2, men don't start learning it until they begin having relationships with women. So men are often ill equipped to deal with this kind of bullying and because of it's nature it often go's unnoticed and the bully will continue their harassment unabated even into adult hood.

[yellowmamba024]

I think a good way to not let these type of girls get to your head too much is always ready to move on. Don't take any girl too seriously unless you know 100% she is taking you seriously.

[Doofey]

Thanks for your post but I wasn't exactly talking about myself. It isn't about the guy being tricked into thinking a girl likes him. Its about the girl making a scene and putting him in a humiliating position that he doesn't know how to react to. They do it in class or in places he can't just walk away from. It isn't the guys that are witty or quick thinking that will call her out that they do it to. It's always the nerds or introverts.

[yellowmamba024]

Hmmm. Try not to buy into a girl's flirtations too quickly. Meaning, don't get too excited about a girl flirting with you. Even if it's not true, but pretend that you are used to having girls flirt with you. Act like it's no big deal.

[RichardBaker101]

I have consistently been a victim of fake flirting, and have honestly had enough of it at this point. It used to happen at my Secondary School and now it's happening at College. Just today, I found myself in a lift with a group of girls that I had never met before, and at first, it was fine. One of them asked me how my day was, to which I replied "pretty good thanks" then the lift stopped at my floor and I got out. As I was leaving however, I overheard one say "Bye boyfriend" and another say "Love ya" It pissed me off so much! As someone who severely struggles with getting any kind of attention from girls, I don't appreciate the only times it does happen, to be so that they can play with my feelings. The most random girl that I pass in the corridor who I've never seen before, will just randomly blurt out "Do you wanna be my boyfriend?" No. I don't. I want to be the boyfriend of a girl that's acc gonna take me seriously. It's infuriating!

[tinamichael]

that's pathetic ! she wants to make fun of him and humiliates him. I don't really know why would anyone enjoy doing this? Actually I feel bad when I see these situations as if I was that guy , I feel horrible for him

[Izzex3]

Idk. Maybe for the same reason why some guys do it.
Some people are just assholes.

[Doofey]

That's true. I guess I was wondering if there was a specific reason though. Honestly I was hoping that girls actually thought that they were helping them or something or that they thought it was cute when a guy doesn't know what to do. Ignorance and stupidity instead of blind cruelty.

[redroses1996]

Some girls are just bullies and do it just cuz they have nothing better to do with their lives.

[Ashely_Princess]

Because all they want is to have that guy for themselves.

[front2back]

This has happened to me before a few times.

I'm not gonna lie, it sucks.

[Anonymous]

Oh poor guys :( some slut has not compassion and it's just to prove themselves they can get any guy

[Anonymous]

They just like to hunt and conquer.