Do girls "fake flirting" very often, just to get control over a guy's emotions?

[Anonymous]

Or am I just being paranoid and should accept flirting for what it is: an opportunity to have a little intimacy with a guy they like? 'Cause I've heard women say girls flirt all the time just to build their ego, even if they have no interest in the guy, and they'll pretend to flirt just to get control over his emotions.

But if they're flirting at all, even if it's just for fun, doesn't it kind of imply she she's interested enough in him to care what he thinks about her?

[Anonymous]

I'm not in tune with flirting but have been accused of it my whole life. I think girls are just nice and smiley to everyone. Maybe more so if she finds the guy attractive but I wouldn't have a clue how to fake flirt. I could fake coy but not flirting. I also read a study on attraction a few years back that said women will pretend to be more interested in men than they actually are and men will assume women are more interested in them than they actually are.

If she's straight out with the innuendo or groping then yeah it's intentional.

On the other hand I've never met a woman who took offense to having a man wrapped around her little finger.

[Anonymous]

I've never heard of a girl flirting just to get control over a guy's emotions, but maybe I'm just naive.

I know that I've been told I'm a natural flirt. Sometimes I don't even realize I'm flirting until guys start to like me or until my friends tease me. It's accidental and I always feel very guilty for making a guy think I might like him. That being said, when I think about the guys who I've unintentionally flirted with, I was attracted to them, but I was only attracted to them. I wasn't looking for a date or a relationship or anything like that.

Guys can be natural flirts too.

[lumos]

No, I'd say it's very rare for girls to fake flirting, at least if they're not into you the slightest. I'd be bored of flirting with someone if I wasn't interested in them at all. Yes, sometimes we do flirt for fun, but I don't know many girls who use it as some kind of weapon.

[Asker]

"Weapon"...good analogy. In a sense it is a weapon, just a weapon to spread confusion and excitement. I HAVE heard that women will exaggerate interest, but I doubt they'd bother if he was completely repellent or boring.

[lumos]

SOME women might exaggerate, but most don't. Otherwise, yes, I doubt anyone would bother flirting with someone if they weren't interested on some level. Only reasons they'd do that is if 1. they're extremely bored or 2. they're out to manipulate you.

[Rodders]

Cracks me up how different all the girls responses tend to be on questions like this. No wonder we get it wrong all the time!

Don't suppose you ladies fancy meeting up at some point and agreeing on how this works?

There's only 3billion or so of you so shouldn't be too hard to organise...

[Anonymous]

"But if they're flirting at all, even if it's just for fun, doesn't it kind of imply she she's interested enough in him to care what he thinks about her? "

Nope.

Not the attention whores and they are the ones that fake flirt. And there are a lot of attention whores in this world. A lot.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

Flirting isn't really a big deal. Just because someone flirts with you doesn't mean they want to marry you. At the very least we're flirting because you're cute

[dunfriendme]

Most women care what everyone thinks about them. They are very sensitive and social creatures connected to everyone in their way. They are also insecure and scared. They need a lot of reassurance and love. So they "steal it" if they aren't receiving it as a present.

Some flirt to manipulate you into something other than complimenting her with your attention, but not as often.

[Patsy]

Flirting to get control over someone's emotions? I am not even sure how that would work. I would say that if the flirting is continuous it is because she cares about what he thinks about her, but if it was a one time thing...I wouldn't think too far into it.

[ndzn17]

Overall it depends on the girl. At some point, she doesn't even know that she's flirting in the first place because some people take it the wrong way. In other situations, she's purposely flirting to get your attention and in some cases, just for their ego. And most likely yes, if they flirt with you for fun, it does imply to what you think about her as well (: but that's just all in my opinion ! And it also depends on how you approach her as well, and vice versa

[Anonymous]

I've flirted for free drinks and attention. Just be careful, most girls will tease you but it's just play. If you feed it directly she will lose interest in any sexual or romantic actions. Feed her gradually and she will keep comin back. No girl will ever flirt to "play with you emotions", some are just careless and don't realize they may end up hurting you.

[Anonymous]

It seems some guys mistake a girl smiling or laughing or being nice or even just having a conversation with them as flirting. But that's not really true flirting. A girl is Not flirting for real unless she actually makes ANY physical contact With You. Just smiling at you while you are talking is being friendly, not flirting.

[confugirl]

No, I don't. Or at least, if you don't count teasing as flirting. I'm just kinda mean, so I tease my guy friends pretty often. Some might think it's flirting, but it really isn't and I'm not trying to lead them on.

[Tycho]

I'm sure some girls do. Just out of the attention factor alone. Some girls may even come off as being "flirtatious" without the intentions of it and some guys take it the wrong way, so it really all depends on the girl.

[dominique916]

I will fake flirt when I want something. Like I need a favor or something. But never to just play games.

[simplythebest]

dont think so much enjoy yourself and always listen to that voice in the back of your mind and act according to it.

[1inmillion]

Yes girls will flirt to boost their egos and have no interest in you. But she really could like you. It's a woman so who really knows...

[Taeyeon0424]

Some do. I've actually done it once though I regretted it afterwards

[shadowscapes]

fake flirting?

perhaps you mean when a guy thinks a girl is into him but is mistaken

[BayHarborButcher]

I'm friendly and pleasant to everyone unless I have a reason not to be. I'll only flirt if I'm interested and the guy I'm flirting with will know it.

[Deviouscourage]

I know a girl that tries to lead me on because I give her car rides.

Young girl, 18.

[Anonymous]

I do it. It's not intentional it's just the way I am but I do secretly want guys to want me, whether or not I want them. It sounds cruel but girls are just naturally flirty.

[Anonymous]

Pretty girls out in the world will do this. The girls typically found on this website will not.

[Anonymous]

I don't...it would gross me out to flirt with someone who I'm not attracted to or interested in

[Anonymous]

I don't do this personally, but I know several girls that do this. They just want guys to like them, I think it's mean. Falling in love with a girl but to figure out she had absolutely no feelings for you it's cruel!

[Anonymous]

I've never "fake flirted". If i flirt it's cuz I want you to feel special and know that I like you even if I can't say it