I don't talk or touch any guys.. so that shouldn't be a problem.
Yeah I've had a similar situation too where a girl I know just gave me all kinds of mixed signals. After a while it's best to just not believe them anymore.
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After he was shocked, what did he do?
@Ghibli just talk a little bit more nervous, but that went away after a few seconds.
It's his loss
The problem is seeing which one it is...
How is he around you? Does he initiate? Stare? Or just awkwardly sits there?
I can't tell if he stares often as he is usually not sitting still.. I have caught him looking before... He doesn't usually initiate other than a smile and head nod from across the room. I have to. He did speak to me the other day... First time and uses my name... He does seem nervous... Rambles a bit and my friend said one time while talking he was standing kinda close to me.
Yeah I'd say he is interested in you. Continue initiating conversations with him, he'll open up soon :) I'd say wait before breaking the touching barrier
He broke it once a couple months back... But hasn't repeated. Not sure if I did something wrong or what...
Nono, completly normal, he just doesn't want to seem too weird. He just wants to look good around you
I hope so. I think I really like this one...
Then go for it! Just take your time with him, he will appreciate it!!
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Would you move away if you saw she was gonna do it and you don't like her?
I probably wouldn't move away, unless she approached me with her hand very quickly or something aha. Even if I didn't like her I wouldn't mind.
He's almost twice your age... So I'm sure he doesn't feel that way. Older guys tend to not wanna be bothered by girls they feel nothing for.
Can't help you there, I doubt he'd be rude enough to pull away though, no matter what age. Depends on the individual I guess.
Hmmm... Well.. How would I know he didn't want me to? Or didn't really want to talk?
If he`s shy it can be hard to tell. For example, if I don`t like a girl I won`t bother going out of my way to talk to her unless I need to, but it works the same way if I like a girl. Even if I kinda know a girl, I`ll have trouble going out of my way to talk to her if I like her, because I`m just shy. However, if you start a conversation with him, and he seems to want to continue that conversation as much as he can, then he probably likes you. I did this with a girl I liked last year that I kinda knew. She approached me a few times, and when she did, even though I was awkward, I tried to prolong our conversations for a long time because I knew I wouldn't be able to approach her later. That's all the 'original' advice I can give from a shy guys perspective, but I'm sure you can google stuff like this too :)
Its hard to tell... Our conversations are never long. Per say... He kinda rambled when answering... and I can tell he's nervous. which in turn makes me nervous... Sometimes he flips from a greeting to a question (how r u) to a statement (its cold and you have no coat n outside... ) and I get confused... Normally I'm not shy but I think I feed off his anxiety.
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Did you show her somehow you wasn't interested?
Race? .. Mmm OK what do you mean a relationship check? What's that like?
No, I just spoke to her the same way I did everyone else at work. It didn't change anything because as far so I'm concerned it didn't mean anything. I'm a guy, unless a girl says to me 'I like you as more than a friend' then I won't take any advance seriously unless there's fire in her eyes or we're on a date.
Relationship test as in, I go over in my mind the traits the person has and decide whether or not I want to bother with anything past friendship. Yes, race is one of them, I like white people.
So how do you get your non interest across without hurting her feelings?
Well, these things usually don't happen both with us alone and with us knowing each other fairly well. Usually it's either a waitress making a momentary touch while I'm eating alone, or someone else doing it while I'm with people.In either case, I just act like it didn't happen. I know that's not a clear answer to her, but I can't exactly say out of the blue "Thanks, but I'm not up for a relationship right now" as a response to her just touching me. She could just deny that that's what she meant, and it would seem like I was arrogantly concluding she must be attracted to me.
Alright but if you do know her a bit and have had a conversation or two and you don't like her... As this is my situation. (except I don't know if he does or is just nice)
I'm not sure anything I say will be accurate for him, because I have changed a good bit over the last couple of years. I can't remember being alone with a girl I knew and seeing her touch me. It's probably happened and I was too dense to recognize what it meant.Guys don't understand body language very well, so there's a good chance that he won't (or didn't) understand what a touch means. If he does understand what it means, but isn't interested, I think (if he were sensitive) that he would move the conversation towards something that tells you he's uninterested. He might bring up something about a girlfriend (saying, for instance, "yeah, my girlfriend and I were thinking about going upstate"), or how he's not up to dating right now (even if he doesn't specifically say that he's not interested in dating you). On the other hand, if he's straightforward, he might just say "I don't feel like dating" or something like that.
You said in your comment that this is your situation, and you also implied in the question that this is something that has already happened. Can you explain what happened, if you two talking together--and you touching him--is something that has already occurred? That might make it easier to understand.Or is this something that hasn't happened yet, but you are going to try to do when you two meet?
We are talking but I haven't touched him... He dod touch me once... A while back... once...
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Yes. If I can sense he's trying or know he likes me. If I can't tell at all... I might give up.
Do you know some females who have won a shy guy over, after he kind of turn her down before?
No... Not really... why?
Just wanted to see if it's not always the guys that have to work extra hard to get the girl he wants.
Well... I'm working pretty hard right now and have no idea if its paying off any. No girl or guy is gonna put on effort if they don't see something to tell them , there's a chance of some sort.
It's gonna pay off, and I can't wait for you to update us on when you and him become a couple.
I hope so. I just hope it happens before I get old... Lol!
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So you will avoid talking to her if you don't like her?
Not necessarily, and sometimes the exact opposite. There have been plenty of times that, although I enjoy the contact with girls I like, liking them just makes me more shy and unsure of what to do so I tend to sort of steer clear of the person. The other way is true too, where not liking the person at all removes any pressure from the situation and makes me infinitely more comfortable talking to her. It depends greatly on the guy and the situation, but I think there is generally a hint of whether a guy is being shy or completely cold not talking to a girl
I know he shy.. But I can't figure out if he's wanting to talk to me or just being nice when approached.
It's always hard to know, but if you find that he acts differently around you than other girls, its a good sign he likes you
Lol.. he doesn't talk to girls unless they are married to his friends so I can't really tell...
Ok... So he says hi and keeps moving but I did catch him looking... So... I catch him after lecture... He almost backs into me. I ask him for a moment and he says he's busy but next time if I can't hang around and I say text me.. he says he doesn't like to have girls numbers, he doesn't want to give the wrong impression... He's standing pretty close to me. I ask about an invite he didn't reply to. He gives me this long drawn out thing about how he's bad a responding but getting better and sometimes he just shows up and then he kinda put his hand on my shoulder and said I know that's not a good thing. He then proceeded to apologize for hurting my feelings. A couple times... And then I asked if I was bothering him with my invites and he never really said.. so.. m confused totally.. m insight?
My guess; if it was just him being shy, he would have taken your number when you offered it. The fact that he's try to talk his way out of it and whatever else makes me think that it really is him being uninterested
Technically he has my number from before. He took a card from me, a while back... So... that's the confusing part.
I just don't understand. I gave him an out. I said if I was bothering him I wouldn't send invites. Why didn't he take it? And why touch me twice? When he hasn't been? There was people around but... It just doesn't make sense. He even talked for a good little while after he initially said he was busy and he ended with his it was good to talk to you.. Can you not see where my confusion is coming from?
Awwww! I doubt that
trust me, I did. and she was sweet enough not to make it worse :P
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So you would do what?
If I know her a little, and I was attracted to her I'd probably ask her for number. If she touches me like that she has to be attracted to me.
And also maybe touch her back a little.
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Anxious how? What if you are somewhat comfortable around her? Even greeting her on your own? Does that make a difference?
Anxiety is mostly an inner thing, but you might see it as heavier breathing. If I'm comfortable around her, it won't be as bad, but I'm still gonna feel anxiety. I'm confused about the greeting part, what do you mean?
Sorry... I know with most shy guys. You have to go up to them.. Well he is now comfortable enough to at least come to me and say hi (insert name) ...
Oh that's a good step then. Once you're already talking, it should get much easier from there.
Thanks! I'm just not completely sure he wants to talk to me.. he is super nice guy...
I think he does. Give him a chance to get more comfortable, I'm sure it'll turn out well :)
How would I know he didn't? Just to be safe...
Well you won't know for sure for sure unless he tells you. Shy people are hard to read sometimes.
But will he tell me? That's what I'm afraid of. I'd rather know I have no chance than to keep wasting my time...
I think he'll tell you if you ask him out or something. That's what I would do if I were you, so you know loud and clear whether or not he's interested.
The party invite wasn't enough? That his sister said no to for them both? Well.. She said they couldn't make it. But they appreciated the invite...
I don't know if that really counts. I was thinking more like on one on one type of date. If he says no to that, then you know he's not interested.
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Would you smile if you did like her or do something to indicate or do it back? Or would she assume from your reaction you didn't cafe for her?
Probably the latter xD people tend to get the idea that I'm not interested... But I think if I kind of know that she's totally into me, I'd not react that awkward.
I emailed him I care about him.. Does that count?
That's friendly behavior :D so not really. It may take a lot to make him get the idea xD
Not in my book... I don't have guy friends really... He does know that... Oh well.. we shall what happens.
It takes a lot for me to get the idea xD a girl had been watching DVDs at my place and we did a lot of stuff together but I never thought that she might be interested. She even leaned against me while watching movies but she always said in her family they are just that touchy, feely so I thought it was just normal friends behavior.
Yeah. He's a little older than you and has some sisters...
I've got a sister too. She's ten years younger than me though.
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I don't usually touch guys I don't like... So I treat it as a big deal too. I'm assuming shy guys also won't touch without reason either.
What would you do if you don't like her then?
Then I'd try to avoid her
What if you are comfortable with her?
I still would be uncomfortable being touched.
Alright but would you glare at her? Run away? Smile? Anything to indicate you either did not want to talk or do?
Wow.. Are you married or have a s. o. ? How do u handle being touched on an affectionate?
Will you jerk away?
I probably have like a "What The F***" look, trying to figure out what just happened. I'll probably do a small jerk but still smile after though.
If you like her or don't?
That happens when I like her. Being shy, I am uncomfortable/nervous around her. Don't know how to act or how to respond. I try not to look like an idiot around her.
Ok... I doubt you do half as bad as you think... What if you don't like her?
If I didn't like her than most likely I wouldn't be bothered by what I did or if I did something idiotic. I would be more relaxed than tensed.
I'm not talking about you.. but her touching you...
Oh.. my bad, if she touched me and i didn't like I would probably just smile but not reciprocate anything back.