u It depends on what I've observed of her personality and how well I know her. And yes, how I feel about her would play into my reaction.
In fact, I even have a recent example. There's a girl who hangs out with the Catholic young adults in my area. She's SUPER chatty and outgoing. At a social gathering a few months ago, I introduced myself to her, but she claimed we'd already met before (maybe we did, but I really honestly don't remember). At one point, she randomly said that she was "offended" that I didn't remember her.
Then, a couple of weeks ago at another gathering, I was talking with one of my friends. She came over, talked a bit, and stroked my arm some in the process. I'm not really into her, so I didn't think much of it. My friend and I both commented on it a bit after she left. He said "it's hard to tell with her". As everyone was leaving, she was walking arm-in-arm with another guy, but kind of skipping or dancing or something.
Now if it were another girl whom I've talked with and/or I may be interested in, I'd probably put a little more stock in it.
I'm kinda shy, and if I'm being touched by a girl I don't want to be touched by, I sort of roll whatever body part got touched out from under her grasp.
Although, as a bald guy, I do this for anyone touching my head. Whether I like you or not I don't like people touching my head.
I was talking to an inexperienced guy once and I touched him on his shoulder and he shocked a little. It was actually pretty cute.
A little touch on the shoulder or on the arm can really bond people by the way. I read once in a psychological research that touching somebody when first meeting, you have 60% more chance that they like you. I always thought this was interesting information.
I think if he isn't interested he'll feel uncomfortable
If he likes you, it might make him even more nervous than before, which is cute :3
If it is anything other than a person trying to get my attention for something, I am not much for touching. It would make me feel uncomfortable.
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It depends. If a women just touches me on my arm to get my attention, I won't think much of it because that's just a normal way to get someones attention. If we are conversing and maybe laughing, and she puts her hand on my arm or something, I will think she's flirting and possibly likes me. No girls have really ever touched me like this, and if one did I might react a bit nervously. Closest I've gotten to being touched by a girl was one of my female friends would always punch me and stuff lol.
It's just like BCRanger said, if it were someone I liked then I'd put more thought into it but if you read his story he said, "As everyone was leaving, she was walking arm-in-arm with another guy." That alone kinda suggest she's either flirty or just likes too many guys. lol just be carful for mixed signals and try not to read too deeply into it... Some people we swear your deeply inlove with them just because you have them a hi five or something hahaha
Uh I recently was in a situation where I knew this girl for years but we never chatted before until must recent. She would grab my arms when laughing , always touching on me. I never thought of it any kind of way til I got to really know her and I'm like she's my type. But even then I'm just like maybe this could just be how she is but at first I didn't react but when I did notice I just thought how could I bring this up to her. Came to the conclusion you can't tell so you just gotta ask.
Imma a shy guy myself so if I like a girl I'd always look to when and where I can chill with her. I'm always looking at her until I feel it in my gut that I want to ask her out
Heh. I'd probably joke about it. "Hey hey... hands off the goods now. " "well, if you want to touch my arm, could you get back?"
Or I'd just quietly keep it to myself and try to watch how you interact with other guys.
I doubt I'd take it as a sign of interest.
It depends on the individual person. I tend to be shy but I've had enough experience in the past to know when I'm being hit on. If I was interested I'd flirt back. If I was a shy, introverted, experience-less guy I'd probably panic and try to shift away from you.
If it's a girl we like, we are so happy because to me that's a sign she likes you back. If we're not interested, but we are shy we'll be flattered but still not react physically except for getting you off and trying to not embarrass either of us.
It would probably depend on whether I was interested in her or not. If I like her but are shy around her and she touches my arm, hand, shoulder etc then I would feel comfortable/confident in flirting with her however if I'm only interested in being friends and nothing more then I would just smile at her but wouldn't lead her on.
Well honestly... I don't want anyone I'm not friend with touching my shoulder.
Don't flirt with me unless I know you. But if someone I know or am friends with touches me (in non sexual areas) then yes I would respond well. It makes me feel good. But if a stanger did that I'd be like get the f@!# away from me.
If I"m not really attracted to her, I don't think much of it, and maybe try to avoid situations where she'll do it.
If I do like her, trumpets blare, shivers run down my spine, a million thoughts of what it could mean start running through my head, etc, etc. Basically its the greatest thing ever
I would play a little hard to get, out of fear of getting hurt, then open up. It's not because I love playing games, it's cause I take relationships seriously.
I want to ask you this, would you keep trying to get a shy guy "that you like crushable kind of way" to open up, after he was kind of standoffish? Knowing you can sense you likes you too but doesn't know how to be more confident?
Well to be honest, I love talking to girls in general and am not bad at doing it but I have nearly no confidence as far as flirting with a girl is concerned or asking a girl out.
So I would probably reciprocate those touching actions a bit, and if we're out in a bar I might ask her to dance or get her a drink to see what her reaction is, but unless she showed some concrete evidence of being interested in me, I still probably would'nt make a proper move on her.
I'm an introvert and barely talk to people so I guess I count as shy.
I believe there would be a different reaction if the person liked you.
If the person liked you then you would mostly see more animation after you touched them and they recognise that you are giving them attention.
If the person doesn't like you, he may be more docile and may seem to want to put an end to the conversation.
I have hard times retaining my hands from touching. I guess its a way I have to show affection. But somehow I HATE TO BE TOUCHED, makes me feel uncomfortable at some point, just like a cat that had enough patting.
But people are different.. Take it easy, just rub first. Then if you feel comfortable with his reactions, go ahead !
If it caught me by surprise I'd turn red and give a surprised look. In my head I'd have no idea why she was doing it. Shy people usually don't assume it because you like them. If it's a one timething they may think your messing with them. If it happens mmore than once and when no one is around or watching they'll get the hint.
a girl at my last job put her hand on my shoulder for about 7 seconds I'm pretty sure she was flirting with me but I didn't want to date her due to reasons like race and religion. I didn't physically react to it but yeah I ran a relationship check in my head.
When I was shier than I am now, I thought they were screwing around with me. Sort of like, when you were a kid, other kids would say they liked you then chuckle about tricking you behind your back.
Now I understand it better, but if I'm not attracted to her, it gets awkward. I don't want to hurt her feelings.
I had this one girl recently grab my arm in a gentle way on many occasions. First time took me by surprise and I welcomed the gesture, but felt quite casual about it, not a big deal.
Soon I started developing a crush and when she did so I was calm on the outside but got butterflies and turned all mushy on the inside. :D
i used to be shy... i didn't know what to do when that happened to me so I stood still. made a fool of myself :P
If I liked her, I would reciprocate these type of actions. If I didn't like her, I would most likely avoid physical contact but not conversation. I'm social so it can't really apply to this guy, but all people are social in there own way so it kinda does. Maybe try other methods of grabbing his attention, because he might feel a bit intimidated or he might not like you. Be optimistic but don't get your hopes up too high.
If we were only friends i would be completely calm and maybe joke about it. If it was someone i had a crush on i would be extremely shakey, my cheeks would turn red, and My voice would be very shakey and crackey.
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