My crush is a player?

[Anonymous]

My crush and I been seeing each other for a year or so and he said he's only seeing me and hopefully I only see him. Well today I went through his texts and there's a shit tons of girls calling him "baby" and he called this one other girl "baby" (He always call me "baby" and "my girl" btw). I didn't confront him just yet but I confront his best friend because he probably know all my crush's stories and he's a good friend of mine why didn't he tell me about it. He said honestly I'm his main chick and that he knows my crush would drop any other chicks for me so he's not worrying about it. Also, I met all his siblings (he has 3 of them), I've been to his place, but I haven't meet his parents yet. I met most of his friends and they all think I'm his girlfriend. What do I do now with all those texts he's a player I think? Please help! I'm so confused what should I tell him?

[Anonymous]

Curiosity killed the cat, but satisfaction brought it back. I have a 19 year old brother, and he has a girlfriend with a child. He's been a player since grade school (literally!). He still has texts with other girls, asking them like "Are you that one girl I just met?" That is so disrespectful! My point is, he's going to be like that for a while, and if he would drop all his side pieces for his "Main" then why hasn't he done that already? He's just embarrassing you, and honestly.. you don't deserve that shit. Tell him to fuck off, unless you love him.. then just confront him and if he lies even more.. break it off and well just accept the fact that he's a player and he doesn't deserve any girl.

[AnnicaCrespin]

Move on!!! I was married to a guy like him, they never change. Why would you accept that kind of disrespect? Do you really want to be his main chick while he has other chicks on the side? If the shoe was on the other foot, what would he do? what I would do is talk to the girls yourself... of course don't let him know this... and then you will know the truth. but seriously, dont sell yourself so short, any woman deserves so much better. respect yourself enough to walk away. too many good, loyal men out there.

[Asker]

I have no clue who they are. He didn't even save their names properly he just saved them as "A, B, C, D" :/ And I wouldn't do that that's too many girls to talk to...

I'm not his girlfriend at the end of the day I can't really tell him what to do. We're just oddly in the dating phrase for a very long time and he always tell me I'm the only one he has and that he's so lucky and he doesn't need anyone else but me blah blah. Of course I do not want to be the main chick... I wanna be the only girl he has...

But I like him very much if this could ever work out I really wanna give it another chance, but I don't even know where to begin to approach this situation. I can't tell him "Hey how's this person you're flirting with?" cuz again I'm not his girlfriend...

[AnnicaCrespin]

that's even worse that he doesn't save them under actual names. trust me I was married to a man exactly like this!! move on, he will use you, abuse you as long as you allow it... remember that you show people how to treat you, if you allow disrespect then he will continue to run over you like your nothing.

[Mylifeas1]

Honestly, I think you should just drop him. Unless you wanna deal with his shit. Guys who are flirts are going to flirt, that's that.

[parkway]

If he called you baby, you were never his main chick or his girl at all you were just 1 of many girls called baby. He call women baby so he does not make a mistake by calling you Brenda, Herman, or Gertrude. All women respond well to baby.

If you think about it, for a year he has been feeding you lies and you have been eating them up. He stopped you from meeting the man of your dreams. While you were busy dealing with his lies, you got robbed.

[Asker]

He calls me baby and my name all the time actually. In front of people he'll call me baby but when we get close he only uses my name.

But yeah, the feeding me lies is true, at least I think so after reading all the fuck up texts in his phone.

[Anonymous]

Your his main chick? Lmao. That does not mean shit. That's like a politician that's just been voted in as president telling you that you are his main voter. This man is going to fuck you up emotionally if you stay with him. Get out now before you fall any deeper.

[Asker]

He has been a year, if I have to get out right now it would been already too late since I've fallen really deep for him.

And Ikr I don't care for the main chick bs I wanna be the one and only. Throughout a year I haven't seen anyone but him for real. I rejected people for him I'm in shocked he didn't do the same thing.

But if this can ever work out again I really wanna give it another chance. I like him very much. But I can't really confront him about this because at the end of the damn day, I'm not his girlfriend who I am to say whether he can flirt or not... but the thing is he lied when he said he only sees me...

[Opinion Owner]

This is the problem with women. They never know when it's time to find someone else, they waste weeks, months, years , get bitter and twisted and then start hating on men. This guy will not even care if you stay or go. If you care more for him than you do for yourself then there is no hope for you.

[Klaatu51]

fuck him then, since u foind out the truth... also goin through somebody's else texts is immoral... but anyway immoral's wot he did as well :-)

[Asker]

I went through his texts because lately I notice how he jumps and tries to get his phone back asap as soon as I touch it, so I think there must be some shits in there he wanna hide...

What do I do now honestly? I have no clue, I really have strong feelings for him. I always though we're exclusive...

[Klaatu51]

if i was u i'd break-up... since it seems neither he trusts u... nor u trust him :-)

[Asker]

I didn't want to confront him because... well... I'm not his girlfriend I have no right to tell him not to flirt with other girls... But since he lied to me and on top of that tell me to only see him he hopes he can see me exclusively that's the problem. I trusted him completely, until one day, as I said, he jumps and does everything he could to grab his phone when all I did was looking at the time on his phone...

[LovesDemBabes]

Why u going through his texts? If you confront him and find out it was just playful then you're in a big hole... and there's probably no way out

[Asker]

I went through his texts because lately I notice how he jumps and tries to get his phone back asap as soon as I touch it, so I think there must be some shits in there he wanna hide. His behavior is odd that's why I want to go through it.

And no I really every single fucking things in there it's not playing, it's flirting...

[LovesDemBabes]

I don't know.. talk to the other girl who your crush may or may not like

[Asker]

I have no idea who they are, and it's not just one girl it's a lot of other girls maybe like 10 of them :/

[LovesDemBabes]

Oh if its 10 other's then he's just flirty with everyone... he probably naturally does that... I know guys like that but they are not players... some people are just naturally flirty and playful with everyone they know... if you think he's a player though, then trust yourself, even if you're wrong there.

[emerald77]

Just move on.

[Asker]

I've been seeing him for a year I have strong feelings for him. It's not like a new crush across the room that I could move on easily... :(