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Mostly yes. Though I think girls should on the other hand make themselves approachable. Aka not always being surrounded by 5 people, eye-contact, smiling, etc.
Anyway, what you are talking about is something you should overcome. Learn to engage yourself with people. Social skills aren't something you are born with, but it's a skill as many other which you practice and train. Yes, you probably will end up making an idiot out of yourself occasionally - but so what? Just go for it.
I said 'sometimes' because both genders should be willing to chip in if they are interested. actually I prefer to make the first move myself... feels more manly. But there's probably lots of men out there that would benefit if women were more willing to initiate and lots of women who think its sexist to tell the woman she has to wait.
In your case, you ought to learn to step out of your comfort zone. It might and could very well hurt, but you will learn from that and hopefully not become a bitter person.
I've learned to take initiative and to just start something. Where it could go? Who knows? But at least I'm trying.
All you have to do is try. And to mean it.
Girls like that.
I think whoever feels comfortable doing it should. That said, if the guy doesn't make a move at all I assume he isn't interested, cause at least in my experience most guys will unless they're super shy
I AGREE THAT IS WHAT IT HAS ALWAYS BEEN SAID IF THE GUY DOES NOT MAKE THE FIRST MOVE IT MEANS HE IS NOT INTERESTED. Too bad is like that
If you don't do that means that is also brings ge same feeling for guy. Right?
@kitty71 @you
Like @huhwhy said: Us guys feel the same way. If you don't approach us or make any (obvious NOT "subtle") effort to get to know us, then we too will assume you aren't interested. However, us guys are expected to suck it up and ask her out anyway, putting our hearts on the line constantly, while women get sympathy when they feel this way.
@Frost_byt3 eh, untrue. I'm a girl so I know what its like to be one. If we whine that the guy we like won't make a move everyone says grow up and do it. y'all do have more pressure, but no we don't get sympathy
@Frost_Byt3 I think it also depends on the kind of you you met, how is his perspective n things, his personality. SOme may approach some may not. For instace the guy I like we flirted and teased each other but I always did the texting first the one asking him out even if he agreed at the end, and never turned me really down. But then later in time maybe he thought I was chasing him acting fast in knowing him, and probably he did not like it and he said " is not working".
I voted Yes, but depends on what first move, now if I like him it's ok to ask him for a coffee or hangout but I will never tell him I love him or date me, I'll show him friendship and show him I'm a little interested but not very obvious
Anyhow if that guy so cocky I won't even look at him
like I would give him an eye look that's says I love u without saying it or any hint
why?
If you really want someone or something in life you have to pursue it regardless of gender. If you don't then someone else will.
So I guess it's up to you which type of person you want to be. If you're comfortable waiting on the sidelines for a possibility then by all means continue.
If you want to get something, then you'll have to work for it.
In this case, if you want to establish a relationship so badly, you probably should make the first move.
It helps if you know that the girl actually kinda likes you, though.
It depends on the kind of guy it is though. Some guys like being in a type of control and making the first move makes them feel like a man in my view lol. So if I am ready for a guy to make a move I will say something quite direct so they can feel like the sexual aggressor by the being the first to make the physical move even though by words I initiated it. Not all men need or want to always be the sexual aggressor.
So it honestly depends on the kind of man you are dealing with
I prefer to make the first move so I think it should be a person's choice based on who they are.
Yes! Just pay attention to the cues she gives. Does she glance at you often. Does she smile at you? Shyness can be overcome, just gotta try. Most girls won't approach you only a select few. But usually those girls are either needy or clingy 0.0
If you don't approach some girls may feel like your not interested in them enough. But you being insecure or fearful of rejection should not be a roadblock for you to pursue women.
What would you prefer from a guy though? :D
To be pursued lol
I find it sad that so many guys waste themselves and don't pursue who they like simply because of shyness or insecurities. Since when was that a legitimate reason to take away a mans natural desire to pursue. And all the girls who are trying to allow men to think its okay are going to be the ones who will constantly have to pursue themselves. Guys will either pursue women or pursue freedom from them.
Also if you think of a cocoon. As much as you want to help the butterfly out you're not helping it at all if you do. Otherwise it will be weak always. You have to allow men whether shy or whatever else to pursue and work themselves out of the cocoon. It's a part of their nature to pursue and you can't change it. And once they really try they end up being strong enough to fly. So girls should stop pittying the guy and allow him to do what he's meant to do.
It shouldn't matter who makes the first move. If you are interested make a move. Awesome that you admit to you're shyness but bro, you can't expect someone to make a move on you if you won't make a move on them.
You cannot expect someone who is Shy to make the first move, That's just ridiculous.
The Person with the most Confidence should do it, But most Girls simply won't do it because they expect the Guy to do it.
How is going to do it if he is Shy, It's Ridiculous.
the guy making the first move is the result of society, not of reality. a girl can make a move on a guy. but people may look at her weird because society has an unwritten and breakable rule that the guy has to make the first move.
I disagree. It's socially acceptable for women to make the first move nowadays.
I think putting the onus on one party to do a thing is foolish. It doesn't *have* to be only the man's responsibility or only the woman's responsibility (to use a heteronormative example).
not really woman are as capable as men in many aspects and love shouldn't be an exception. I am shy and i usually prefer that guys come to me but some guys are very shy or very respectful that doesn't want to approach the girl even if they have very strong feelings for her so girls can do the first move.
Do you think that guys should make the first move?
-Yes. If you're hungry, you can't have someone else eat for you. You have to do it yourself.
Amen ahaha
@LovelyDaisies It's like wiping your backside, you have to do that yourself also. lol.
No I do not., I never have. i think its demeaning to Women and unrealistic pressure for men.
in my opinion, these poll results are disappointingly irrational and pathetic.
I'm quite shy so I'd probably want him to make the move. I guess if I've been in a few relationships before i might be okay at asking the guy first. Id prefer to get to know him first
I just think that anyone who's genuinely interested should make the move, regardless of whether they have a hole or a protrusion between their legs.
Men don't normally make the first move. Women signal to the guy that she wants to be approached with her body language, and then the guy approaches. If he just walks up and makes the first move, most women will get creeped out.