Should men stop approaching women in public altogether?

Question

It seems millenial women almost always feel threatened/annoyed by men who approach them in public rather than flattered. Should we just find alternative ways to meet women instead of the traditional way of approaching in public areas?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

You have to be good looking in order to get an "ok" from the girls here to approach in general.

You can't look like a gay indian woman like George Godley and trying to talk to women (he's one of about three guys I've found on YouTube that have seriously demented videos of themselves trying to chat up women),

That said - I witnessed today that girls seem to be able to pick up on a creep with out looking at him. I was at a large bus stop today (one where you can be indoors) on my way home from uni where I notied a rather shaggy looking young guy that just stared at all women with a sly smile; he started to walk towards two different groups of girls while I was there - and both groups moved away and I didn't see them noticing him but it was very, very, very clear that they were moving away because he was about to approach.

Having said that, I don't approach at all. Not even when I see a girl that smiles at me and seems to be inviting me to approach her; because I just might be mistaking that smile for her just being a curteous and friendly person.

26ukdude · Accepted Answer

Words of my grandmother, 85 years old.
"I feel very sorry for young men now"

Referring to us not being able to start a conversation or approach women in a social enviroment, without the (often) millenial females looking disgusted, giving us the finger, told to fuck off, accused of rape, being perverted. And the rape part im not even joking. I've seen two newrs stores recently where one guy got accused of sexual assault when he stopped a woman from drowning - he touched her without her permission, that was her argument...
And another when a man brushed past a lady in a subway station, literally brushed past her. Thankfully there was CCTV and he was cleared.

RJGraveyTrain · Accepted Answer

Here's the thing: being approached in public wouldn't be so bad if it was actually pleasant. I have been approached in public and I found it very pleasant. and then the other 98% was not. Lol. The biggest issues guys tend to have, in my personal experience, is they no longer seem to have any tact when approaching women. It's just: "HI, you're hot. Can I have your number?" Of course you're not going to say yes to that. You basically just said: "I'm a stranger with no personality but I think you're hot, can I have your number?" Take it from a receptionist/wine merchant when I say guys use this feeble approach too much.

However, make at least a half ass conversation, act pleasant and then execute, you might have a shot. Otherwise, leave the approaching for public events like parties and such.

9mfeo · Accepted Answer

If no one, male or female, ever approached me in public ever again, I would be so happy. I don't care about your charity, I don't care about your band's gig, I don't care about your religion. Don't talk to me. I'm just here to buy some snacks and then I'm going home to watch Netflix. No talky.

SunsetRose · Accepted Answer

I've been approached in a public areas and it was flattering. The guy just needs to be a gentleman about it.

Intellectiskey · Answer

Yes approaching woman is stupid.
Most men cannot build attraction and mutual interest with a woman within 5 min.
The way you meet girls is naturally through work, school or something you both are involved in. If you like her you flirt with her little by little and pick up on cues if she's interested.

AleDeEurope · Answer

You're asking this to GAG girls... most have never been approached, even though they say they have.
You've already seen the bitter opinions you've gotten xD

Keep approaching women if you want, but always with respect. If they reject you, keep moving, don't cuss her out or anything.

WattTyler · Answer

"Approaching" sounds really creepy. Don't do it guys. When it comes to breaking the ice with strangers what you say should be appropriate said to a man or woman. If after a short time it becomes clear that they like you then you can turn to the chat up talk.

FatherJack · Answer

If I was " on the market " I would personally NEVER cold approach , most women would HATE this ( the female responses here make this damn clear ) , to be fair it's intrusive , invasive & bothering someone , of any gender , whilst they are going about their business is a total NO. I don't like some random stranger bugging me , therefore most women would feel the same.

BellePepper · Answer

I would be okay with that. Please encourage guys to leave us alone.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm sure this is happening, and will continue to happen, outside of areas like bars and clubs.

It might not go to zero, but basically the more other avenues (basically online dating) are available, the less men need to cold approach, and the less open women NEED to be to cold approaches. So that makes them even less likely to respond positively.

Anonymous · Answer

YES. I've thought this for a while now. Why/how do guys even still do that?

Another thing is, guys should never comment on a female's appearance anymore in any way. Don't even mention it. Even a subtle compliment gets misinterpreted as misogynistic microaggression.

Rufus335 · Answer

facebook works better than dating apps. dating apps work better than cold approach. basically stalk girls online and hope they dont find u creepy cuz apparently saying hi in public is super creepy unless you look like ryan reynolds

Anonymous · Answer

Just don't approach a women unless invited by her actions and body language. I'd have thought that was pretty obvious politeness. Same as you shouldn't impose yourself on any stranger without some kind of invitation or assent from them.

LionlyRose · Answer

There are other ways, like IG, etc. However, I don't see anything wrong with approaching a girl in public, fear of rejection? It's not as bad as people think, if anything you learn experience.

BertMacklinFBI · Answer

y'all can stop approaching women in public. I'll do whatever the fuck I want.

karahiri · Answer

don't approach if you can't be a gentleman about it.

Ginnyweasley97 · Answer

Don't approach if you aren't going to be a gentleman or complain when you get rejected.

aficionado · Answer

Men who aren't hot, should stop approaching women in public.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes! I hate getting approached on the street. It would be great if guys stopped doing that. It's just awkward for everyone involved.

TheInfamus · Answer

yes, unless you're incredibly good looking, you will get labelled a creep. I personally go out of my way avoid even making eye contact with women (I don't make eye contact with anyone on purpose) when I'm out

TonyRyan · Answer

I approach and get approached, I see nothin wrong with it.

rgb008 · Answer

Nope. If you want to talk to someone, then do it.

Smells-like-lavender · Answer

Have your friends introduce you to their hot female friends, approaching strangers in public does have its risks, you never know who you may end up talking to.

Anonymous · Answer

There's online dating. I never talk to a woman unless we're in school or work where we kind of need to talk to each other.

Anonymous · Answer

They don't like the men that are approaching them. Either they don't find them physically attractive, or they don't like how he did the approach.

madhatters4 · Answer

no they shouldn't stop approaching women

ConsultantIsBack · Answer

Nope, approaching has worked wonders for me👍

BuchitaBuchys · Answer

Yes.

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