Is there a way to get rid of sexual tension?

[Babsie1984]

I have a colleague that works in a different office to me and we have this incredible sexual tension between us (we don't feed this in between times when we don't see each other).

We sometimes end up together for a few days for work functions, and when we do, the sexual tension is just crazy. So much so, that I can't ever get him out of my head, even when I haven't seen him for weeks or months! We won't speak to each other or encourage any behaviour in between meetings yet once we're in each other's company, you can feel the electric in the air. One of our colleagues even mentioned that we seem to create some kind of vortex between the 2 of us.

Here's the thing... we're both married. So nothing can happen. How can we make the sexual tension go away?

[iwannalicku]

for starters I'm sorry that you two are married you both need to get a divorce and be together sounds like you guys were meant to be that way far as the sexual tension goes that's a tough one really tough because I don't believe in cheating on my spouse but in this case I think you two Belong Together you might just have to go and take care of that rent a hotel room find out just what it is you never know you might get to the hotel room and not even have sex that is happened to me before but we ended up talking all night six months later I married her I really wish the two of you the best really think about it maybe you just need to get together alone have a nice dinner in a restaurant or you can talk and maybe play footsies under the table LOL but find out what it is between the two of you because might be what everybody looks for in this life and very few find that very few could be you too once again good luck I wish you the best

[iwannalicku]

that's just my opinion folks

[Babsie1984]

Thank you

[iwannalicku]

you are very welcome I hope that you find the right answer for you and please somehow would you let me know because I think following your heart and listening to your heart it's probably the best advice that I can give you remember sweetheart it's just my opinion there are many many more out there I just pray for you and hope that you find the right thing

[Babsie1984]

Thank you, thanks a really nice message

[iwannalicku]

I myself made a big mistake long time ago the lady of my dreams was at my birthday party and I ended up staying with a woman that I later married and then regretted marrying because of the fact that she was a cold-hearted person she was a snake behind a person's back and she put on a good show to the front I don't know why I ever married or I wish I would never have but we do things in this life that we regret sometimes and that's my one thing that I really regret because I let the most wonderful woman I've ever known my life that night and my life has sucked really bad ever since but at least I have good control over my temper and I try to be a good-hearted person

[FemWorship]

If you two can really resist temptation, then the best way is to "double date" as often as possible after rehearsing how to mask that tension. After a dozen get togethers, soon the spouses will reveal the clay feet and make things more real about lies under all that glamour & appeal. Being friends, esp. with the spouses may help resist temptation and grease work times to be smoother w/o tension.

[Babsie1984]

That's actually a very good idea! I'd never have even thought of that

[FemWorship]

Many times this works and you get the best of all worlds w/o the drama and more fun with those most attractive to you

[Dale1982]

Cold shower actually works. I was up my exs house day before yesterday seeing the kids. We went into room to talk and lay on the bed. She was cock teasing me shamelessly, praying her laugh over mine and letting me look down her top. I was ready to rape. I just jumped in her shower and put it cold. After 20 seconds sex was the last thing on my mind

[Babsie1984]

I wish this would be so easy... it's been on my mind for weeks now!

[Dale1982]

I know the feeling. Since I started getting fit and stopped smoking I feel like 18 again. Wake up sometimes in the morning and the quilt on the bed is up like a tent lol

[andybhatti]

You may need to think if you would like to cheat your husband.. If that feelings makes you to stop having sex with another person then you can stop your self or else have sex once and let it get over from mind... By the to what part you attracted to him?

[Babsie1984]

Pure lust - just a physical attraction and we obviously have chemistry. There's no deep and meaningful connection here, we don't really know each other well enough and haven't tried to get to know each other well. In actual fact, I think that although he's my physical type, he wouldn't be my type to enter into a relationship with

[andybhatti]

I am not sure about him but it clearly shows you want to have sex with him. It's better you drop this lust for your personal life with your husband or you may need to think if your husband have sex with another female or have feelings like you what you will feel. If still lust persist get over it by having sex may be in office? Whats your opinion?

[Babsie1984]

I know what I should and shouldn't be doing. In between times it's fine, but then when you put us into the same room or group of people, it's like fireworks. We both know we shouldn't be doing anything which is why we don't encourage any communication - but it's very hard when we do see each other.

[andybhatti]

Try to kiss him or get closer and see where it goes.. I think you have very strong lust. It will not go until you have sex

[Babsie1984]

And I am having problems at home too... so maybe it's all interlinked, more than I know.

[andybhatti]

Yes these are inter linked either get over with Sec with him or loose lust

[Babsie1984]

☹️ not great options!!

[andybhatti]

It's not good for your health either specially mental...

[Babsie1984]

Tell me about it!! 😫😕

[andybhatti]

A lot I'd thinking about it makes you unhealthy both physically and mentally Which is effecting your married life too.. Decide lust or love (husband). I believe your marriage stands for more then 5 years which might make you boring in daily routine this is something you want to explore it is normal but if you OK after having sex and come back to your husband and don't tell him makes you OK then grab a bed and try your lust...

[David_youba]

do what you want with your husband you married him for a reason don't be a bitch and throw your self on another guy I'm sure u have good memories with your husband remember those

[Babsie1984]

I love my husband and we have a great relationship, I don't think this is a reflection of that. This has just came out of nowhere and it's tough to deal with

[David_youba]

I know what you mean it but try to get your mind somewhere else when your with him

[David_youba]

oh and don't underestimate this because in a way it is a reflection of that

[Anonymous]

Oh my you're in dangerous waters. Cut all contact or divorce. Sounds like the temptation is too strong

[Babsie1984]

Cutting all contact would be the wise thing to do but kind of impossible as we work for the same company, and in the same team. It feels like an impossible situation right now.

[Opinion Owner]

You need to be very careful and think about your husband and your future. Do you wanna let your feelings rule and be unfaithful? Could you live with the guilt? Could you do that to your husband? You need to somehow take yourself out of this equation. I realise you work in the same company but you need to distant yourself from this guy. I've seen a marriage almost destroyed in a similar situation to this with a family member. Fortunately it didn't come to an affair but it got very close to. If you really love your husband and care for your family (if you have kids) I'd seriously suggest you distance yourself from this co worker. Otherwise you're leaving temptation right in front of you. And you'd probably regret it if you let it take over

[Babsie1984]

We’ve cut contact but every now and again I get weak and I’ll message him. I’ve messaged twice since we cut contact... he reads them but doesn’t respond

[BoobMan]

Honestly, the best most reliable way to dissipate sexual tension is a massive, mind-blowing, toe-curling orgasm! :P

[CaptainSmartass]

Maybe you could fap to his picture. or just fap to him generally.

Simples...

[eagle1951]

either move away. from each other , like to another state. or let it happen

[Anonymous]

Just give it to him already.

[Iron_Man]

Of course take a cold shower

[Babsie1984]

I'm not sure that will work!!

[Iron_Man]

You can always try it or take saltpeter

[mT2359]

what to do. Life's a bitch sometimes.

[mT2359]

only way is to masterbate and think about him while doing it.