Why some men are bitter and mean to the girls after rejection? (Page 3)

Question

It seems like they liked you a lot, told you many compliments, wanted to spend as much time with you as possible, but after rejection they kinda start hating you and try to hurt you. When I say rejection, I mean a nice way to say "No", not being rude or something.  It's very immature thing to do, just was curious why do they act like that.

worldscolide · Answer

it's a coping mechanism, and you're right it is immature. I personally am upset when rejected, but I move on. only time it turns negative is when she attempts to be friends with me.. I don't do friend zone, if I'm interested in one but offered the other, I just move on, cut contact. but im never mean, that's just not right, there is no reason for it.

AshrafWest · Answer

Depends, some guys are jerks who were just acting while others may have felt bad because you friendzoned them. Try doing the same to guys, then you will know. It takes maturity to accept rejection, but some are think its unmanly, while manliness lies in acting responsible and mature. If my sister rejected someone I would want to him to take it like an adult, but if she was harsh I would have a talk with her.

Unit1 · Answer

This is the moment where you get to know who he truly is - a bitter meany. Whereas men with class just move on in peace. Don't worry, if this happens, be thankful, that you have just dodged a bullet. It's good for you!!!

This behavior tells a lot about themselves! Take note of it.

Same with women, who get upset about rejection. The good women don't make a big deal out of it.

But never did i say, that rejections do not hurt.

HereComesDrTran111 · Answer

Is rooted in our DNA.

The entire practical purpose of life is reproduction.

If a man is rejected by every woman, his punishment is extinction.

Subconsciously, that wreaks havoc on a man's psyche. Then those feelings can manifest in conscious disdain for the women who reject him: in the irrational hope that it will minimize those women's influence in the world, thereby increasing his chances of reproducing.

tyber1 · Answer

I'm never rude to a girl just for rejecting me, but I might be depending in how she rejected me. If she left it open ended to give me false hope, or if she was really mean about it, or if she said yes but was a no show, then yeah I'm not gonna be nice to her.

Anonymous · Answer

Guys are told to take the lead and put women on pedestals. We make far more effort than women to advertise, then we have to wait for a response. If women had to do that, they would not be talking this "butt hurt ego" shit. If you lose nothing that you invest, then it's no big deal. When you put yourself out there financially and otherwise, the pain is much greater.

MandyRuth · Answer

Rejection hurts, regardless of gender. It is an inappropriate reaction to being rejected (an expression of anger and pain). They just haven't learned to take "no" for an answer, which is part of the whole immaturity issue.

Rissyanne · Answer

There are a lot of women who get just as angry. After my divorce every guy I went out with had a crazy ex story.

Djaaay · Answer

This question should include both genders , because females and males are equally the same in this situation. People who are bitter , are just always bitter... bottom line. Those who are respectfull and confident , never express such undesired tantrums. This is also meant for the person who's being asked too. Two way street.

AydenKing · Answer

Probably similar to how good emotions can turn to bad ones in the blink of an eye; like someone will bouncing around really excited for something, lets say a concert, but when told that they can't go to the concert, they instantly become frustrated or angry

italianmarine · Answer

well I have to be sincere I just broke up with a girl and well it left me a very nasty taste because of the fact I gave everything and then I realized it doesn't matter how much you give out if the other person doesn't appreciate it, so most guys start being douch bags because they know that if they give everything and it happens again they will get hurt again so they prefer to be insensitive so that the situation doesn't repeat itself

Merimanr · Answer

I have noticed that girls can't take rejection easily. (is this sentence correct? Sorry I am not a native English speaker)

Lumberman53 · Answer

Imagine you had trouble finding a girl and finally you found one you thought you had a chance with only for her to shoot you down and not even give a shit that she hurt you because she being a girl can get a guy anytime she wants so she doesn't understand the struggle for men

jill_073 · Answer

I had the same thing and I think it's bc he's afraid the relationship is ruined so they just cut it off

pinkzoesbb · Answer

Most men aren't open about how they feel. When they do open up and feel the slightest bit of rejection lash out. I think men express emotions very rarely.

Vinzier · Answer

For me personally. I have to know why. If its logic reason then i will accept it. Because when i dont know. I will overthink about it. Maybe i am ugly. Maybe i am dumb. Maybe i am poor. Or else. Then i judge "this girl only likes handsome guys". Then come this "i hate people who likes a person only from his appearance". Then.. Yes i hate this girl...

Z-Spark · Answer

I apprectiate when a woman tells me no and doesn't dance around the word, usually women ghost on men and never give a reason or even say anything so we are left handing.

plus some show a lot of interest in you then when you approach they suddenly pull away, what is that all about?

many reasons men become assholes and sometimes rightfully, even though sometimes we just shrug it off and move on no need to make a scene everytime

babygirl6 · Answer

Not every guy can handle rejection, I guess.. But it's immature to get angry at that. I mean, it's better to be rejected at the beginning than to be in a relationship with someone that wasn't even interested from the start..

CasaNorba · Answer

I don't think anybody feels good after being rejected. talking from experience I seen girls become very hostile and violent after being rejected.

GirlThatDraws · Answer

Imagine putting all of your love, time and effort into someone, only for you to reject their feelings. Wouldn't you feel a bit bitter from that?

ThatLeaf · Answer

Because they don't see or understand why they were rejected. They likely haven't matured enough to not take rejection as a bash to their ego and could even be a way of damage control. Playing victim is often what a lot of people like to do.

zuli09 · Answer

Because nobody likes being rejected. It hurts and They do it so they do not feel bad about themselves its a defense mechanism and also to make you think that they really didn't like you anyways. Which is not true

NaultD · Answer

The good potential is equivalent to the bad that's how it is. just cut him off if he starts talking by saying sorry and turn and walk away and tell him to spend his energy on someone that might give a shit but that's not going to be me.

ciitruskiwi · Answer

I think it's because they have a cocky attitude and they can't believe that a woman could ever reject them. Their egos get bruised really easily.

shadow1332 · Answer

Although you may mean it in the best possible way. it's still tough when getting rejected. this can initiate a type of coping method with dealing a temporary downfall.

Robin48 · Answer

Why some men are bitter and mean to the girls after reject? The same reason why women are bitter and mean to the male after reject. You females work hard that you are better than males. No, you are not.

activemyhrt · Answer

Being rejected sucks. Imagine saying hi to a few girls and being rejected out right.. on top of that the chances of girls saying hi to you are next to none. it doesn't excuse the behavior but it would make you salty

Bonnie12I27I12 · Answer

girl you literally answered your own question. it's because they're immature. its nice to see how you dodged a bullet when they flip out after being rejected lol

Silver158 · Answer

Depends, if a girl just basically said "no" and hadn't shown any signs of mutual interest beforehand then that's fine. But, if she's led me on, told me she feels the same way, stuff like that and then is like "nah" then that might piss me off a little.

drago85 · Answer

Because we must have that pussy!!! It is important for penis survival! It is like not giving CPR to a drowning person! You chose not to save a life by rejecting! Now that penis will die and get either buried or cremated!

Atreyu · Answer

because they don't understand the difference between pride and confidence.

a confident man can be rejected and be fine. even maintain a friendship with the person. a prideful person will be hurt and sometimes throw a fit

loveubaby143 · Answer

Well you can't use "men" for that kind of boys. That is because of immaturity, they do things like that. But when they grow up, when they confront reality, they realize that everyone has a back story, everyone has their own reasons and finally when they become dad of a beautiful daughter, they only encourage her to reject or dump the jerks if she dates any.

Anonymous · Answer

I get bitter and mean because if I ask you out, and you reject me, you probably led me and tried to get me to notice you. I'm not openly mean, I'm just serious and less focused on connecting with women after that.

If it's a random girl that I decide to talk to, and she isn't interested I don't care, but I rarely just approach random women.

The only ones that make me bitter and mean are the ones who lead me on for kicks or to feed her ego.

triff · Answer

it's a pride thing almost they have to big to the boys even if they aren't there It clears through maturity Another reason can be they have a period of doubt as to why you split and they have to convince them self's they were right

Carley99 · Answer

Yes some can be very disrespectful I was called beautiful and sexy by the same guy and when I rejected him he called me ugly and said that why would I want a girl like you. I don't understand why do some of them have to act like that.

Being_a_good_Indian · Answer

The reason is ego as it get hurt. It shows that the compliments were fake and the decision of rejection was correct. They don't have courage to hear "NO" from any girl. The true love never start hurting anyone.

lordgrifis · Answer

A girl promise you love, stealing days, months, sometimes years of your life, just to go away one day because she changed her mind... and you ask why someone has to be stingy? Are you serious?

Tay_tay101 · Answer

If they end up hating you, you probably ruined their self-esteem pretty good even if it was unintentionally. I've seen this happen.

chnapo · Answer

Because why try, when you got rejected? They want to be nice, spend time with you AS PARTNER, not as friend or something, when you reject that, there is no reason anymore to try it.

slatyb · Answer

Because they feel that they are entitled to a girlfriend. When you reject them, their feeling is "It's not fair! Those other guys have girlfriends! I'm just as good as they are!"

silvermoon84 · Answer

Because it's a kick to their ego. Rejection hurts no matter how gentle it is, and they figure that they can hurt you since you hurt them. Little boys handle rejection this way. Men don't

Impregnator511 · Answer

It's because their ego is very frail. Secure, confident men don't do this. But if you can put yourself in a guy's mindset of putting himself out there and getting rejected, it's easy to see why some men react that way.

TonyP183 · Answer

well a lot of guys just cannot accept rejection. it makes them feel downgraded about themselves. it could involve their ego. when a guy a guy likes a girl but she doesn't feel the same way, it's common men can be jerks to them afterwards. I've seen this issue occur with girls as well.

TwiggyGnu2835 · Answer

it's usually because they have issues about their self image and look at the rejection as an attack on their self image, if they'd get t heir heads out of their asses they wouldn't do it

Kampaii_Vic · Answer

Most men are mistreated in the relationship before your's.

It builds hate overtime.
How we learn it seems to effect our present relationships.

Who's to blame when we fall for the pretty types. 😜🤘

Smegskull · Answer

the nice way to say no is just no. attempts to spare a man's feelings just come across as patronising.
as for why, think of yourself as two people: A guy is being friendly doing really well getting along with girl A. She was responding positively engaging the conversation so the guy asks the girl out. Then girl B turns up and says no and kills and replaces girl A.

wankiam · Answer

rejection can be difficult but its no excuse to be mean and this goes for either sex... its not like there aren't enough people in the world to just move on and find someone who wants you too

HappyBby · Answer

I think it's because their ego gets damaged and because they didn't get what they wanted. People like that tend to not be good for you anyway so you find out their true colours at their worst.

Robsinsf53 · Answer

I personally dont get nasty but, I would imagine that after so many no's a guy gets discouraged and gets nasty. Think if women asked men out & you got turned down 5 or 10 times in a row, how would you be? I'm not at all saying its cool but...

curiouschris1975 · Answer

They don't know how to deal with the rejection. The rejection really hurts them and they need to deflect that hurt back on you. I think it's a learned behavior from the environment they grew up in.

fashionguy17 · Answer

Why do women get angry and cold towards all men after a couple of failed relationships?

NightOwl_23 · Answer

Im not angry towards women for being rejected, Im angry and bitter towards myself.

Anonymous · Answer

Never forget it, Many womans does not approval date this guy with hair... because this bitch has a lot black guys... so much feminism's hypocrites.

Tiger288 · Answer

Girls don't understand why we are upset. We get rejected every other day make u bitter or feel not good enough. Otherwise, girls don't get rejected much as guys cuz they don't approach men.

Andruu4u · Answer

They are angry that they invested their time and effort into something and get nothing out of it. If you know he likes you, stop leading him on and tell him. That'd why he's mad.

es20490446e · Answer

It's the same when you say "no" to people in other context, and they cannot take it. People these days are accustomed to having everything they want, just because they want.

nbbn5 · Answer

Maybe as there hearts are broken and sometimes girls say some harsh things to guys they reject which effects the guys and they behave like this

Mckinleyjr · Answer

Because for me I felt insulted like she hurt apart image. once I was rejected and was like what do you mean. you don't look at me like that it's funny now because I'm more mature and can handle rejection. but yes the reason was because I didn't understand how rejection affected me

sweetbaaby · Answer

That's happened to me before, realized that it had nothing to do with me and he was just going through shit. I just let him be, but I don't know why they do it

Warmapplecrumble · Answer

They are too emotional and need to be more logical.  They need to stop taking too much soya, flaxseeds. It's only for women who go through menopause.  Only a estrogenic surplus acts this way.

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