Hey, based on what I READ, it seems like he likes you a great deal. However he knows you and knows what would make you happy. He may know that you care for him but not in a loving romantic relationship. It seems like every time you both are intimate he gets in his feelings. So after sex he disappears mentally emotionally etc because it's to hard knowing that you may only want him as a best friend and every now and then you have se with. Men are horrible with expressing themselves especially if they know they will get shot down. When he said he loved you and you didn't say it back spoke volumes to him. Put yourself in his shoes a bit with that one. After awhile you will both keeping coming back together as friends and bed buddies but sooner or later you will have neither because his feelings are getting deep. I know many said he was just using but I didn't get that based on your story. I am currently in that situation and after he disappears I realize more and more how I use HIM for comfort me after another guy strikes out. It is nice having someone there that thinks you are beyond beautiful and they know EVERYTHING about you. Men have feelings (like a girl) too. Best of luck...
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I think it's obvious he's avoiding you after sex cause he got what he wanted. Next time he asks to have sex kick him in the groin. (Or just say no) haha. Seriously it'll be a test. If he goes a very long time still being your friend after you deny him sex and doesn't ignore you at all he is a friend and you should give him a chance. If he gets angry or ignores you or pressures you drop him like a rock because he's just using you and you're better than that. Just whatever you do DON'T have sex with him again.
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Stop having sex with him. Sex without a relationship is a dead-end. I would totally ditch him. He's not treating you like a guy would if he really loves you. He isn't even treating you with the common decency of a friend. Sounds like he enjoys having sex then feels badly after because he doesn't want a relationship with you and he knows he's a douche, so he avoids you until he can forgive himself and hit you up for sex again.
He got confused, maybe he felt bad of having sex with you, give him time, he will look for you, when he feel better of his confusion, at least he talked to you and said to you he feel depressed...Don't have more sex with him...
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