He ignores me when he's with his friends (GUYS PLEASE HELP)

[Anonymous]

so I ignore him too. then if I do, he sends me msgs why so and if I'm mad and he will say he misses me then asks me out for a hook up. I always stood him up because I feel like I'm a booty call and I'm not. then he will disappear again. then appear showering me with compliments how hot and good looking I am blah blah...i like him but I'm sick of it. :( he doesn't really like me does he? please tell me the truth and help me get over this douche bag. THANKS!

[QuantumInc]

I know many guys will desperately try to save face with their male friends and avoid being seen as "pussy whipped" but even in that context he wouldn't completely ignore you. Actually either way I wouldn't recommend sticking around. Any guy who is so obsessed with what other guys think about him he'll treat his girlfriend differently around them needs to go single for a while and ideally get new friends.

Also the thing of suddenly being super nice unexpectedly BY ITSELF raises a red flag. It sounds like a specific effort to seduce you, don't fall for it!

[Asker]

Thanks ;) the thing is he used to be all over me that to the point he would leave his friend to see me and talk to me. do you think they have a bet or something? now after we hooked up, he started pulling away. :( like he's embarassed to talk to me when this One friend is around. (btw, its the same friend) but if its other people around or just him, he talks to me. its like he cares what this one friend says. this friend used to pursue me too. :(

[internet_guy]

you are not his girl,he is just using you ,find a better man who isn't two faced

[Asker]

Amen.

[Tamikaze]

If you think you are being treated like booty call, well you are dead on. A guy who wants more with you will plan ahead to ask you out, will take you on dates and will not ignore you when you page him (unless you are paging him constantly). Lose this guy.

[Asker]

Actually he complains I don't do much effort in sending him msgs or coming to see him or planning to do things with him. ye I used to but since he started pulling away and calling me for booty calls, I got turned off and losing interest. :(

[vioguitarchick]

Yea I agree ditch him. him complaining to you that you don't put effort or stand him up, is his way of turning the tables to look like your in control or playing hard to get. when really he is. this boy is at player status.

[Asker]

And an asshole status too. :(

[Tamikaze]

Yes, vioguitarchick, players and guys who are only booty calling do pull this con. When you show them you are not available because you are over being treated poorly by them, they turn the tables and pretend like you are the one ignoring them. I was blown away when a guy did this to me. I could not believe he was acting like it was my fault when it was clear he only wanted to see me when he was ready for "fun". I dropped him quick.

[Asker]

Yea I think I saw it coming but because I liked him too much I got stupid. but I've had enough. :(

[Tamikaze]

Sure, it happens. It's only the ones we really like that stand a chance of treating us badly and having us stick around long enough to wonder what is going on with them. A guy we didn't like could never get this far with us.

[Asker]

True true.. but this time I'm sure... we haven't talked for a long time now and I'm getting used to it. :)

[Lisa_101]

In his mind, you're the girl where if he says "you're pretty" and he apologizes, he can do whatever he wants. It's not worth it if you want a serious relationship. If you do want to f*** around though, keep it going and use him too.

[Asker]

For the girls, you are the best answer.

[Danni23]

yeah it sounds like he is anyone who ignores you or doesn't talk to you and just wants to make out with you is not good company... DITCH HIMM and find someone new you respects you:)

[Asker]

Thanks. :)

[Gabywaby]

Yeah I think he is using you :( what a bastard...forget him and move on. Wait until you find a decent guy because he is not worth it.

[Asker]

I know :( the worse part is how he started as the bestest guy ever who treated me like I'm special until we hooked up because I fell for him. :(( then slowly pulled away... :(( he changed right after

[Gabywaby]

Uugh! hate guys like that...once they think they ve got you they dnt care about you anymore...he is reli not worth it :S

[Asker]

Thanks girl :)

[flower1000]

he likes you but he knows he can get you when he wants so demand your respect don't let your self be treatted like that

[Asker]

Thanks... but seriously I have been ignoring him and his msgs. but he still comes to me never giving up. he even kept me and him talking secret from everyone else because we are not allowed to be seen together by work.

[flower1000]

Well that's OK its obv you like him but let him know your going out with the girls or somethig let him think your not sitting round waiting on him when he texts you tell him your out he will start wondering aBOUT YOU and treat you difrently

[Asker]

I did that too. I always leave him hanging... I even stood him up so many times

[Urbanpunk]

no he doesn't like you for real, he's only using you, get rid of him fast

[Asker]

I am doing my best to get rid of him but its so hard to let go. because I see him everyday at work. :(

[Urbanpunk]

Then just ignore him and every time he tries to talk to you inform him you don't care to speak to him

[Asker]

I have already. he asked me to help him photocopy something, I said I was busy which is true. but he insisted for me to help.

[Urbanpunk]

I see, so he's kinda just forcing his way into your life no matter what

[Asker]

Really? why? if he is ashamed of me in front of his friends, why still be on my life? he looks at me when I pass by like I understand he will turn to look to see who it is. but he still looks even after seeing its me. answers me even if I didn't ask him. I don't even look at him lol.

[Urbanpunk]

Wow that boy needs to make up his mind

[Asker]

Update: he saw me on facebook last night. after a week no talking, he chatted me up. he asked why I'm so distant, if I still like him, or have I lost interest blah blah... I wasn't too chummy chummy with him because I told him he can start asking the other girl out at work and I'm just focusing only with my work. that's it and I left lol.

[Urbanpunk]

Nice, very well handled

[here4you]

get over him and find a better man

If he doesn't see you are worth his time then why should you waste yours?

[Asker]

True. :( I've tried my hardest to ignore him... avoid him. I see him everyday. he still comes talks to me when I've been very rude at times. bitchy even. why is he taunting me?

[here4you]

Cause he's immature. Don't waste your time on him.

Be the bigger person and pretend he's not there no matter how hard it may be

[Asker]

Yea I have done that... I will keep doing it.

[here4you]

Awesome :)

Do Work!

[UdontNOme]

he's just trying to hook up with you, my buddy and I were sending BBM's all class to girls saying the same stuff, don't do it

[Asker]

Thanks... so he's a d***head then

[Anonymous]

Well first off, wait until marriage for sex. He is obviously using you, dump his ass

[ladyinred1989]

get rid of his ass!

[Asker]

Yea easy to say but hard to do. how do I deal with this ass I see everyday