How to talk to a shy girl as a shy guy?

[ashnakag666]

So I'm in college, and this really cute girl studies the same thing as me (history) but she is in a different class. I never talked to her before cuz she seems quite shy and so am I. Everytime I see her I can't get my eyes of her though. I'd really want to get to know her better, how do I ask her out, or just talk to her in general.

[Whisperhead]

Well, to start with you have a common interest: History. You can use that to your advantage, by which I mean, you can start a conversation with her about it. For example, if you have some homework or coursework that you both need to do, why not suggest studying together? Or maybe ask what she is doing at lunch, you could go for a walk round the grounds or something? Try not to appear like you're pressuring her, just make conversation. Ask how her day is going, or tell her you've noticed you have the same class and see what else she is studying? Finding something in common is the hardest part, and you've got that already. Ask if she uses social media maybe, and you can communicate there (Facebook, Insta etc) which is usually easier to break the ice. If she is as interested as you, she will respond somehow. Become acquainted first, then see where things go: nothing turns a girl off faster than thinking you're just after the contents of her underwear.

[ashnakag666]

Everyone here says that I just should talk to her, and I know that that's the simplest thing to do. I just find it hard to walk up to someone I barely know. I find it way easier when it's forced, like when we get put together during a project. *sighs* maybe I'll try someday, just staring is not gonna do anything. I just don't know how I'm gonna do it without dying and turning red as a tomato.

[Whisperhead]

It's very hard, I know. I have always had difficulty talking to women. The easiest way is to think of the possible outcomes: she will either talk to you, relieved that you have taken the first step, and you've at the very least made a new friend. Or she will react indifferently. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. I know it's difficult: some people have the gift for it, others like you and me have to muscle through the hard way. Pick your moment, and say:

"Hey, you're in my history class, right?"

She will say 'yeah' or words to that effect.

From there, just introduce yourself. See how the conversation goes. Once you've started talking, forget about how you look to other people; they aren't important. Focus on talking to her like a human being. Pretend you're talking to your best mate, be yourself. Ask her some questions if you want. Once you've spoken once, you'll speak again and the next time it'll be easier. You can do it, man. Think of the potential.

[ashnakag666]

I'll try to do something next time I see her, if I get the chance. If only she was in my class, then I would have had her number already. I'm so much better on social media with talking...

[DontRememberMyName]

I use to do Muay Thai and you never go into a fight cold meaning you don’t just sit on your ass then walk into the ring and fight. You have to psych yourself out first. For example before a fight I do jump ropes, heavy bag drills, ghost spar, burpees, listening to my favorite pump up song and having crew yell motivating words at me etc.

Before you go talk to her go talk to random stranger especially a female. Just ask “Hey you know what time is it?” Or “Where you get that it looks good?” Or “Where’s the bathroom?” Or “Can I borrow x y z?” Or you can complement “Nice shoes” “I like blah blah blah” or can do something physical too like pushups or punch your friend in the face just anything to build adrenaline and confident. Then you go talk to her. Tell her you think she’s pretty. Just no cheesy pick up line.

[Anonymous]

I'm in a similar situation, except I'm the girl. Don't come on too strong at first or she could put up walls. Instead, find a simple reason to talk to her and go from there. Invite her to get coffee to talk about 'history' and find out what she's like.

[SarahsSummer]

Talking a shy person is the same as speaking anyone else. Be friendly, say hi. Introduce yourself, ask her name. Beyond that talk about something you have in common. History class.

[Daddywolfe]

Sounds great 😎

[Logorithim]

Easy-peasy. You already have ready-made conversation material- your history studies! Talk to her about her class and get to know her, get comfortable being around each other.

[Logorithim]

Get her to hang out with you, and when you see an opening, ask her out. It may take hanging out with her a bunch of times, but once she sees your friendly and you get along well, she'll be willing to go out on a date.

[Arsden]

I see a pretty open gateway for you, history. That said there is a set of stones blocking you and that'd be different classes. What I honestly suggest is taking the approach of asking where her class is at and setting into a conversation about that. If the classes are at the same part ask if you two could help each other for some reason concerning your own class. If they are at a different part use that to your advantage. ESPECIALLY if your class may be ahead. Ask if she'd like to know what's ahead and set up that way. If hers are ahead you can ask if she can help. The rest is beyond me to say though.

[GoodManDave]

I would do my best to talk to her. Yes, I’m shy. But I’m still expected to do the work. Now I would probably assume that if she was shy but not showing any interest, then I’d probably stop after a while, assuming a lack of interest.

But at least I’d start with something insignificant and harmless. Small talk or something about what’s going on around us. If I kept getting “the wall,” (one word answers or grunts), I’d move on.

[SDegler]

You could try to find her online somehow and if you can that way the initial conversation would be easier then if you get good vibes you can set up a study date then take things from there. Tell her you heard she's doing well in history and would like to share notes or something.

[ashnakag666]

Already tried to find her only. She seems like the person who only has whatsapp. Cuz I couldn't find her on facebook, instagram or whatsoever.

[SDegler]

Wow, that's impressive. I'd love to find someone who doesn't give a shit about all that stuff. I say bit the bullet and just approach her and hope for the best. College is a time for coming out of your self imposed awkwardness and finding yourself and she may understand that so take the chance and introduce yourself. Sadly I can't tell you what to say in that situation because it could go any number of ways. Good luck man.

[SirRexington]

Well, both of you are shy and awkward so she might pick up on that. She might think your shy nature is appealing as it reminds her of her own personality. I would just approach her and ask if she could help you with a project or whatever bullshit. Hopefully it works out between the two of you. Good look and just remember to be yourself.

[izzyq]

Find common interests, make yourself approachable, don't be so pushy,

[QCpress]

Hi, what's your name?

its like grade 3 all over again xD

[Introvert94]

You both have history, so ask her something history related or about her class, simple as that.

[yourfutureboyfriend]

Play it cool so that she will not realize that u shy at all
And after some time she will start to feel compident around u... it might take some time

[Daddywolfe]

Tell her that everytime you sees her so magnetic you can't take your eyes off her

[DanFlingwing]

Ask her a simple question about what she is studying

[boltgun]

Make sure u get whatsapp lol

[ChandelierBoing]

You sure she's actually shy and not ignoring you?

[Anonymous]

I need to know it too

[Maazin]

Hand signals by playing deaf n dumb.

[Anonymous]

Ask for her number or a get together

[Varaksa]

Text her phone lol

[ashnakag666]

Not gonna work lol.