Every girl I pursue ends up talking to me less and less. I'm tired of trying, I give up!

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seems like every girl I pursue ends up talking to me less and less. I talk to them nicely, I take an active interest in their interests, I flirt with them, and then when I ask them to do something with me, it's either an excuse as to why they can't, or a "just to be clear, this is just as friends right?". eventually they start giving me less detailed responses, stop responding, and just avoid me.

seems like every road I take seems to lead to the same destination.

I try to analyze my approaches, but I can't find anything that I can pinpoint to be the problem.

do you think it's a good idea to contact a past friend who used to be interested in me, and ask her to give her analysis of me? We still remain friends, and talk sometimes, and she used to have a big crush on me. Eventually it suffered the same fate, she started to become distant and talk to me less and less. I figure she's someone who can help me figure out what I was doing that made her do this.

Would this a weird thing to ask of her?
Every girl I pursue ends up talking to me less and less. I'm tired of trying, I give up!
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