If you were away from home say with work, had a few drinks, getting on well with an attractive colleague or someone you’ve met at in a bar or at a conference,,, you’d never be caught... would you cheat?
Would you cheat if you wouldn’t get caught?
Sometimes you marry a person who years down the track shuts you out, refuses to be intimate with you, and in some cases becomes abusive towards you. You have assets and kids. Someone else comes along who you feel connected to and you haven’t had intimacy of any kind for years (for some people it’s more tha 5 years). Your spouse doesn’t want you but doesn’t want anyone else to have you and you feel obligated to stay because you made a commitment and you have built a life together but you have all these things and yet you have never felt more lonely. When you married you made a commitment to stay together but they also made a commitment to love you and they don’t. You want to work on the marriage but despite your pleas and tears your spouse tells you to “suck it up”. What do you do?
I chose not to cheat and eventually ended the marriage. Part of me wishes I had. It was a confusing and difficult time and in those circumstances and I can easily see how good people cheat. I used to condemn people for cheating but with some life experiences behind me, I think people are driven to do things against their moral judgement.
It’s like asking this - would you ever steal? Well most of us are comfortable enough where we don’t need to. But what if you were extremely poor and your children were starving? I can’t even imagine what that would be like so do I have the right to judge someone in that situation if they steal a bit of food? I don’t think so.
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No definitely not; I could not and would not cheat on him because I love him and I couldn’t live with knowing that I’ve betrayed his trust and hurt him. I am loyal to him and I only want to be with him. I’d never do anything to risk what we’ve got and would have in the future.
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No. My character isn’t so flimsy. I stand firm in my beliefs, actions and words regardless of the company around me. I so wish more people would do the same but that’s what’s scary. Many people only act respectable for an audience.
I had a few opportunities here and there over the years but never did and never will due to my own principles.
Whether I thought I wouldn't get caught or not, it's simply not worth the risks, consequences or drama that will follow if eventually found out... And for what? Some sex?
I like me some sex as much as the next person, but not enough to screw up the relationship I am in now, end up divorced, paying child support, dealing with parental visits and of course betraying someone's trust when they didn't deserve it.
Also being cheated on in the past may skew my perspective a bit, but even before that, I was raised better than that. I have my own self respect and at the same time, my partner doesn't deserve such disrespect of me sleeping with someone else behind their back.
Of course if she suggested to do a threesome or group sex / swinger sort of thing & we were honest and open to one another about it... Well, I'd have to think about it.
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Maybe. It happened to me once in a mall that 2 girls were approaching me and after they passed one of them got my attention (I must have been looking and checking them out). She said, indicating her friend. "She wants your body!". Whereupon her friend emphatically started gesturing at her and It was obvious she wanted her friend to STFU. I was dumbstruck as this had never happened to me before. I was sure at any moment the flirting police were going to pick us up, so I said nothing. The girl must have figured out the reason for my reticence because she came over and looked me right in the eye and said somewhat subdued "She'll never know". I was still speechless so she said it again "She'll never know." You don't know how many times I've thought about that incident. I'd only been married for 3 months.
Now I'm older and could really believe my new wife wouldn't ever have found out that I cheated. But if it ever happened again I would in a heartbeat.
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no I wouldn't. Most cheaters don't get caught anyway
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Definitely not! I love my partner and don't want to be with anyone else but him. Our relationship is good and I am not about to jeopardize over a fling.
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If you're in a relationship, then you shouldn't cheat. Period.
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Character is who you are when people aren't looking. I'm not a piece of shit, I don't cheat.
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Cheating is never an option. If it is you don't respect the person you're with and need to end the relationship.
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I don't know :( I realy can't say :( I hope I am strong enough to resist but I know a lot of girls who are always getting what they want and they can make guys to forget the whole world :( some dirtly looks a bit cleavage an Interesting conversation and most guys will get weak
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No can't say I will I like flirting in bars cus I'm single it'll be different if I'm with someone, completely destroys the trust and faith I have in myself let alone the trust he'll have in me.
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Nope, that's pretty shitty thing for someone to do regardless of the risk. You gotta have little or no dignity to even consider it. If cheating is something you would do if you knew you wouldn't get caught, what else is that person capable of?
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No. Because I have standards and a trait called loyalty.
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Only assholes cheat on others.
Break up or don't. But don't cheat on someone.
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Never. Not at all. Don't get in a relationship if you want to sleep with other people
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No, not unless my partner knew and was ok with me seeing them.
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No. If I'm in a relationship, it's because my partner makes me happy and I love being with her. If I can't do that, then why even be in a relationship?
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I believe that just thinking about another person is cheating. We all do it so I think we all cheat to a certain degree. But, I wouldn't be with another person physically without talking about it with my partner first.
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Nope , i am a very emotional person and full of guilt , i dont like guilt chasing over me.
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Sure, but I'm not really the type for settling down, so I'd never be in a position to cheat.
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No. If I'm in a relationship then I'm loyal to my SO.
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@Kandy-Kane said fingering a girl met at the bar while very drunk would be considered cheating
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I have cheated, but not caught - - I told my boyfriend. We spoke about it. My relationship was worth much more than any stupid flings.
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No. I still have to look at myself in the mirror from that night onwards.
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