Here goes nothing, these are just my thoughts on this particular subject. I've read many articles on why men cheat with random women, or even escorts. I've heard this thousands of times, when people first start dating or get married the sex is great, and everybody is happy. But there comes a time were some women don't do anything physical anymore to their partner. I mean maybe have sex once every 6-7months kinda thing, or not even kissing! Can you really blame these men for looking for someone to satisfy there physical needs? These men love there wives and will never leave them because they love their children, and also they take care of them financially. But they do need there urges and needs to be tamed. Thus, escorts might be a solution for them, because it's all physical. In my particular country, getting an escort is legal so don't think anything of it. There is this huge stigma that escorts are some how dirty full of STI's and uneducated which is false. I may actually look at it as the escort is cleaner then picking of some random chick at the bar. At least the escorts are educated and tested. I know these man feel some what guilty for cheating, but being honest to there wives might not be the best solution. I even heard this from women that they rather not even know the truth when it comes to this matter. The woman will be heartbroken and will probably never trust you or other men again or even forgive you. Even if she does forgive you, that thought will always linger in her mind, every time you go away on a business trip that you might be cheating again etc. Not to mention divorce will because the family to split and the children will have a hard time too.
Now I'm not promoting cheating, but I'm just showing a different side of why men might be doing it. As for myself I've never cheated nor do I plan to in the future, but heck things happen. It's like everyone says "I will never kill another human being". So you won't kill to protect your family or children? Just saying, we are all human, we make mistakes.
ive cheated once, when I was much younger, I was 17 I think. I only cheated because I thought my girlfriend was cheating on me. people were filling my head with rumors and I was foolish enough to believe them. haven't cheated ever after that. I wouldn't cheat on my current girlfriend. id break up with her before I ever cheated with her. if your not happy with your girlfriend/boyfriend fiance, whatever you should just let them know and try and work on it. if it doesn't work then move on. its not worth stabbing each other in the back, unless your completely heartless.
IMHO...I don't see why the majority of people, when they talk about cheating, say "I wouldn't cheat...my partner is the best thing that could've happened to me.' or 'I love him/her too much to cheat"
That's great...but shouldn't the biggest reason be because it's wrong? Not to be harsh...but Loyalty and honesty are important. If I have a crappy partner, I still wouldn't cheat. Isn't it best to stay honest, keep a life of integrity, and break up if you need to?
I would never cheat. I've had opportunities and have never taken them and never will. It is disrespectful to the person you are with and it destroys relationships.
I have more self-respect than to cheat on the person I've chosen to be with. It's best to end a relationship in a positive way before you do anything that will be impossible to overcome.
I've never cheated before, and I never would. I'd rather break up with the person I'm with than cheat. It's just such a cruel thing to do. Plus, if I'm really even contemplating it, I probably shouldnt' even be with the guy I'm with in the first place.
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Lmao at goody two shoes answers. A lot lot lot of people cheat at some point in their lives. Statistics are available and show the world is full of cheaters. And it's clear some lie when answering on top of it, so I think the majority of people cheat at some point (men and women)
There was this interesting study showing in particular how women don't answer honestly when it comes to sexual questions (probably due to their fear of being judged). They were asked how many sexual partners they had had. When the survey was non anonymous the average was 2.6 When the survey was anonymous the average was 3.4. When the survey was anonymous and they were hooked to a (fake) lie detector the average was 4.4. The answers from men stayed essentially the same in all surveys. Here is the link:
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When it comes to sexual matters, it's hard to take what people say at face value, many lies are being told especially from women. When it comes to something as sensitive as cheating you can bet a lot of people will never ever say the truth under any circumstance. So, sorry but it's hard to believe in the fairy tales answers on here.
Never, I am a loyal person, and respect loyalty. Had a chance of testing it when my ex was on vacation 3 hot girls tried to flirt with me and did approach me, I did say no to them all. It is kind of funny when you are in a relationship, somebody nice always tries to seduce you.
I think that when you loves somebody everything else becomes unimportant or a lot less attractive then your loved one. But It turned out that I am a lot more faithful then my ex. And it is rough to go through stuff like that, so absolutely no.
No, because even if my partner didn't find out it would still be cheating and it would still be on my conscience. If for some reason I lapsed and did cheat on someone, even if I knew there was no way they would find out, I would still have to confess to them because there is no way I could carry that kind of guilt around with me all my life.
I have definitly had the thought of cheating cross my mind when I was younger, in high school. I never really had the balls to do it, I never agreed with being in a relationship and hooking up with someone else - it never made sense to me?
Anyways, I've been cheated on before so I know the hurt that comes with that...even before when I hadn't been cheated on, I would never of done it...i was raised better than that
karma is a bitch anyways :P
If I'm with a guy it's because I really like him, and if I like him there's no reason to be with anyone else, so,
NO! that's completely out of question.
and if my partner doubt of my loyalty and cheat on me, then it's over and there's no turn back because the way I see things everyone can choose ''cheat'' or ''not to cheat'' and if my guy chose to do it it's because he doesn't deserve to be with me, and this works for everyone else who would answer ''yes'' to this question.
I have cheated while knowing that I wouldn't get caught, but not caring if I did. Yes, it's wrong. No, I'm not proud of it.
I would not cheat on my current boyfriend, however. He's not like other guys who were nice to begin with, and two weeks in got dangerous and possessive. He's not like other guys who just wanted a something to parade around but not really bother with. He shows me respect, and I do right by him because when someone really earns my faith and trust, they get my very best.
no I wouldn't I would rather be in a faithful relationship besides to be honest I have issues dealing with one woman why would I want to please 2 and try to keep them straight on likes dislikes and keep them seperate enough that they don't run into one another seems like to much of a hasses I would just want one girlfriend and one only
No, because I would still remember and would feel horrible/guilty.
Besides, I'm not capable of it since I'm not capable of anything sexual.
Over the years, I've had many opportunities to cheat in my relationships. In some cases, it is pretty likely that my Girlfriend would have found out. In others, it would have been nearly impossible for her to find out. But that never even entered my thoughts.
I *hate* cheating, and I DO NOT CHEAT. I also do not FORGIVE cheating. For me, there are no second chances.
Believe me, I understand the temptation! More than once, I've had that devil on my shoulder that was DAMN hard to say "no" to, because a part of me (the genetically, instinctually horny male that provides the foundation of my character) REALLY wanted to take advantage of the opportunity, but I simply refuse to either violate my own moral code OR because that kind of pain for my SO.
I know people who are VERY casual about their cheating, and I don't really even consider those people friends; they will never be elevated beyond "acquaintance" for me.
I'm not in a relationship but if I would be and if there's a 100% chance of not getting caught - YES, I would cheat!
Open your eyes - there's a lot of different girls - curvier, skinnier, blue eyes, green eyes, dark eyes, blondes, redheads, brunettes, white women, Asian women, Latinas, etc.
And about temperament, personality and vibe - the spectrum is even wider!
It's a very fresh experience to try some other girl - rejuvenating for the soul.
Not to mention if you're bored of your partner or god forbid - you got fights and issues!
No matter how many people here or anywhere else say it's "normal" to argue with your partner and it's natural that sex becomes boring - it won't change anything.
But... there is NO such thing as 100% guarantee of not getting caught.
So the honest truth I said holds no meaning.
You can always get caught!
Your partner sooner or later may find out!
And you can be almost sure - none normal person will ever forgive cheating.
im 100% sure I won't get caught anyways
but id probably feel like sh*t everyday if I did. id cry to myself too :o
ill end up telling him right after I cheated
anyways...ill never cheat, never. unless he cheated first...immature I know :/
if I truly loved someone ill never cheat on them...even if I had the chance with a 10 or a celebrity. appearance means nothing when your in love.
That's a tough question - because ultimately, I don't think that sleeping with multiple people is morally wrong. In our society we generally keep to one partner, but I think that ultimately we will move towards a more 'free love'/hippy -esque sort of world.
If my current relationship is relatively new, possibly, but I am sure I, or my friends in long relationships will talk me out of it, as has happened before. If I have been with the woman for a while and have a strong connection, not a chance.
In my youth, I cheated a couple of times. But it made me feel like a ho. Then the guy thought I would leave my boyfriend for him (I wasn't going to) so it got kind of ugly for a while there.
So no, I wouldn't.
Never have, never will cheat. That's just not in my nature. Not saying I don't have urges but my willpower is much stronger than that.
Hell no. I wouldn't be able to look at myself in the mirror.
I'd rather as permission from my partner than cheat. I find the worst part about cheating is that you are making decisions for the relationship alone instead of with your partner.
No, I'm worried about someone doing that to me, so I couldn't do that to someone else. I may be a douche bag at times, but it'll never be because of that.
NOPE no way, you just don't do that! when your in love...bc if you TRULY LOVE someone then there is no need for another person!
I think that if all the people who have given a response here were faced with a real life situation then whatever they have said would become irrelevant. Basically, you don't really know until you've had to make a REAL decision.
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